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A child claiming opposite gender user banned
21st Feb '13

Regardless of physical appearance? 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, 13, adult? If they knew the difference between a boy and a girl and they said, they were the opposite gender- would you dismiss it? Ignore it? Encourage it? What would you do as a young child vs a teenager? Would you allow them to paint their nails, wear dresses etc without a second thought or would readily correct them?

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
21st Feb '13

If just ignore it until they developed more as a person.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
21st Feb '13

I wouldn't dismiss it but I also wouldn't encourage it until I was sure it wasn't just a phase. As for the painting nails etc kids play dress up all the time so it wouldn't bother me. Once it's clear it's not a phase then I would encourage it.

AwkwardTurtle 34 kids; Syracuse, NY, United States 2085 posts
21st Feb '13

get them in therapy and find out if they want/need to transition to the gender they identify with. They will be much happier later in life if they had parental support and didnt have to wait until they were an adult to be identified by the world how they feel internally.

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
21st Feb '13

Let them dress/act and represent themselves however they're comfortable, as long as none of their changes are permanent or inappropriate to their age.

I declare a Time War 1 child; Ohio 1591 posts
21st Feb '13

I wouldn't ignore it but I wouldn't encourage it. I would remain neutral mainly to not influence the child. I would ask him/her why s/he feels that way and listen. If they were young I would wait and see if it changed as they got older. If they were a teenager or adult I would start them in therapy, not because I see it as something being "wrong" with them but because that is the first step to gender reassignment.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
21st Feb '13

I would have them talk to a professional to determine if they could possibly be trans-gender. If they are then I would wait to take any action until they are old enough to decide what they want.

Baby B<3 1 angel baby; 16167 posts
21st Feb '13

I don't think i would dismiss and ignore it, but i think i would let them do certain thing of the opposite gender, but not complete wear dresses or anything i mean if they want to play dress up and wear a dress around the house during that, but until it became a problem emotionally i wouldn't do much about it.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
21st Feb '13

I would never discourage my child from finding themselves. In younger years, I would figure it was just a phase. If my child was over the age of 5 (in school) and came to me and said he/she identified as the opposite gender, then we would have a further in depth conversation and take the steps needed to support my child fully in whatever he/she decided.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 6369 posts
21st Feb '13
Quoting Cheeks mom:" Let them dress/act and represent themselves however they're comfortable, as long as none of their changes are permanent or inappropriate to their age."

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If they got older (like over 18) and really felt that they needed to transition, I would support them but until then I would discourage permanent changes so they could have enough time to think, learn, grow etc... to make sure its what they want.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46470 posts
21st Feb '13

I would support them 100% no matter their age.



I wouldn't make a huge deal over it. If they wanted to wear their hair a certain way, dress a certain way, wear make-up or not, that is up to them and I would support them.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
21st Feb '13

My 5 year old went through a period where she wanted to be a boy. Whatever.

Anja[VBA2C GRADx2!] 5 kids; Illinois 3577 posts
22nd Feb '13

Let them do it, if it lasts longer than a few years and/or they talk about hating their body and want to harm themselves then it's probably a gender identity problem. I'd look into help for their transition regardless of age if any of that went on.

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 3347 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" Regardless of physical appearance? 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, 13, adult? If they knew the difference between a boy ... [snip!] ... a teenager? Would you allow them to paint their nails, wear dresses etc without a second thought or would readily correct them?"


Depends on the age. If it was 3 or 5, I'd probably thought he/she was being silly or going through some sort of phase. If it was 10 or older, I'd take it more seriously.
I'd let them express themselves however they wished. :)

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
23rd Feb '13

I love BG. Seriously. :D