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parents living with you Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
22nd Feb '13

Lets say your mom or dad retired and can no longer afford to live on their own. Would u let them live with you and pay rent?



My mother is 62 and retired and lives with DH and me and pays half the rent and the internet and she watches DS while i am at work.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20242 posts
status 22nd Feb '13

Seems reasonable i think, esp if you're buying all the food and paying other bills

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
22nd Feb '13

Not on your life. I love my mom and dad but so long as I am married they aren't living with me. Living with other people puts to much strainon a relationship.

Piecey. Due May 13; 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 64409 posts
22nd Feb '13

If it came down to it, I guess but I'd hate every second of it. I would definitely try to get them to stay with one of my three siblings first.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
22nd Feb '13

if it could be fair for everyone yes but not with my family

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20242 posts
status 22nd Feb '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Not on your life. I love my mom and dad but so long as I am married they aren't living with me. Living with other people puts to much strainon a relationship."

i love my mother, but we don't mesh. never have. we've finally gotten to wear we can be adults about things. took having DD (we fought the whole pregnancy) for her to change. I'd want to kill her if she lived with me again. Just my dad, would be a total blast. he's COMPLETE opposite of her. Mellow, not overly opinionated, and reserved (to name a few of MANY).

What if... 2 kids; Ontario 4587 posts
22nd Feb '13

ugh. my mom isn't retired but her relationship fell apart so she came to live with us for a while and she's not working due to an injury so she's alwaaayyyss home.
I love my mom but we do not do well living together. she irritates me like nothing else in this world haha
HOWEVER she does the dishes... yay :)

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Feb '13

Yep. We have always assumed that my MIL would come to live with.us when my FIL dies. Our future home will have a suite for her.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
22nd Feb '13

I would allow my mother to move in with us, but I do not believe I'd ever allow my FIL to move in with us.

Jae- DJ Jordyn & Cams Mom 3 kids; San Diego, California 5928 posts
22nd Feb '13

My mom has Asburgers and PTSD from childhood and can't work so she lives with us... Rent free, bill free.. And "can't" watch the kids even long enough for us to run to the store unless they are asleep :( I hate it- but it's this or let her be homeless what am I supposed to do?



That and she complains about all our "rules" like dog has to be outside or in her room, we won't let her have a hot plate in her room, you know basic shit.. She cooks god knows what in that room and has the whole upstairs stinking.. She'll come out of her room get the kids riled up and then tell them she doesn't feel good enough to play with them...



It blows :( your situation sounds better!

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
22nd Feb '13

No. My mom complains about way too much and it really stresses me out so her living with me after having lived with her for so long would not be an option. It's a good thing I have other siblings, she can live with them. lol My dad on the other hand, well he can come live with me.

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Feb '13

Just.curious, if the only other option was homelessness, would you still say no?

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
22nd Feb '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Just.curious, if the only other option was homelessness, would you still say no?"


probably. at this point it would be their own damn fault

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I love Kenzi:</b>" probably. at this point it would be their own damn fault"</blockquote>




Ouch. I couldn't imagine being that cruel but I am closebto my own parents and DH's.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
22nd Feb '13
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Just.curious, if the only other option was homelessness, would you still say no?"


I would do my very best to see that he had some where to go, but no probably not. I believe if my FIL moved in then I would move out for the sake of my marriage, honestly.