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Disabilty D&D Carolann Loveridge 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 1613 posts
22nd Feb '13

Ok so i just saw this T.V and was just wondering what your opinions are.



In 2010 a women found out that her husband had been attacked so bad that he had now been left with extreme brain damage . He can't walk , talk , fees himself , recognise ( not for certain ) or understand ( again not for.certain) . After a long time in hopstial he is now in a care home , she spent everyday by his side and still visits him every day now . They had just been approved for adopting when the attack happened .



Ok so now she is 33 ( I think ) and even though she still loves her husband and still visits him, she has not got another partner ( not married ) and is 5 months pregnant. So what do you think even though its technically cheating is it wrong she has moved on but still involves him. Should it be in sickness and in health as her vows said . Should she put her life on hold for the rest of her life ?



What do you think ?

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
22nd Feb '13

Yes it's still cheating. She should have divorced him.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
22nd Feb '13

As much as id like to say id be thereno matter what. He is somewhere else and isnt capable of doing alot. I cant say i wouldnt do the same thing because IDK, it would be hard to stay married to someone in a home, who you never see and cant be intimate with and raise a famiy with. Idont blame her, i cant say exactly what id do in that situation, but i do not think it makes her a terrible person by any means

tooodles 240 kids; Thailand 5075 posts
22nd Feb '13

She should of absolutely divorced him. Its cheating regardless of the circumstances. Sure she can still be there for him and all that but its wrong to be out screwing other people while still married.

Carolann Loveridge 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 1613 posts
22nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *TTC*:</b>" Yes it's still cheating. She should have divorced him."</blockquote>




Yes understand that but what If she isn't ready for that?

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
22nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carolann Loveridge:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Smartass *TTC*:</b>" Yes it's still cheating. She should have divorced him."</blockquote> Yes understand that but what If she isn't ready for that?"</blockquote>




if she isn't ready for divorce then she shouldn't be ready to move on with another guy and start a family....

Squeaky McGee [12 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65299 posts
22nd Feb '13

I've seen this firsthand a time or two and it's not black and white.



It's no one's place to judge.



Oh, and it's wedding vows, not vowels.

Carolann Loveridge 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 1613 posts
22nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Carolann Loveridge:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... if she isn't ready for divorce then she shouldn't be ready to move on with another guy and start a family...."</blockquote>




Totally agree this is also my opinon, but what if she is ready to move on but feels by divorcing him she is abandoning him in some way .

Carolann Loveridge 1 child; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 1613 posts
22nd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [17 wks]:</b>" I've seen this firsthand a time or two and it's not black and white. It's no one's place to judge. Oh, and it's wedding vows, not vowels."</blockquote>




Haha must of accidently hit another button and it auto correct it to vowels lol i will change , thanks

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
22nd Feb '13

I have no idea what the right or wrong thing would be to do here. Logically I think that the woman is cheating on her husband, but then again if he has no hope of recovery I understand.



If it were me Idk what I would do. SO told me before that if something like that happened he doesn't expect me to stay and I'd be dumb if I did and not move on. But idk I would still feel like I was abandoning him and what if he suddenly got better enough to where he realized what was going on and I had left? I imagine he would be heartbroken and crushed that I abandoned him when he needed me the most.



It's a bad situation all around.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46484 posts
22nd Feb '13
Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" Yes it's still cheating. She should have divorced him."


If he is that incapacitated, then he is probably not legally allowed to sign contracts and court related documents.

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
22nd Feb '13

Maybe they had an agreement about what to do if they became incapacitated.



Fucking someone else while married isn't wrong if the spouse is aware.