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Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I honestly believe that a 14 year old is not mature enough to handle that, especially with her battle of depression and cutting. "


Most people that young, no they aren't mature enough, but does that mean she couldn't do it and the baby whined up happy and healthy? No it doesn't mean that at all. I was not saying she has to keep the baby, I was saying she has the option if she decides to keep it that it is not impossible. It doesn't help out much that she does suffer depression, I would know I used to have that same issue...but you know something, I grew out of that I finally found a way to cope with how I was feeling instead of cutting myself. I can't say whether or not you know what it's like to feel the need to, but most people just assume stupid reasons for why someone does it. But just because she has this issue going on right now doesn't mean that she wouldn't be able to do a good job raising a child. It'd take growing up and lots of support but it's still possible. And if she doesn't want to keep the baby I suggested adoption and not abortion only because I don't think I could ever suggest abortion to anyone no matter the situation just because that is how I am, and something I can't/don't believe in; but then if she did decide it, I am not saying it'd make her less of a person I just am not suggesting it.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" You are definitely young to be a mom, I am only a few years older but I did plan mine so therefore I ... [snip!] ... care of. If you need someone to talk to you can PM me, I have a good ear for listening :)! I am wishing you lots of luck!!!"</blockquote>




It doesn't matter what you are "for". She just needs support no matter the decision she chooses. If you can't be there to support someone no matter the circumstance, then don't offer anything.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I honestly believe that a 14 year old is not mature enough to handle that, especially with her battle of depression and cutting. "</blockquote>




Never mind the mature part. Think about the havoc hormones play during pregnancy. I would hate to see them mess with her more at this point as she is dealing with the cutting and depression. Could you imagine?

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, OK, United States 5335 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" You are definitely young to be a ... [snip!] ... the decision she chooses. If you can't be there to support someone no matter the circumstance, then don't offer anything."


:!:

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Most people that young, no they aren't mature enough, but does that mean she couldn't do it and the ... [snip!] ... believe in; but then if she did decide it, I am not saying it'd make her less of a person I just am not suggesting it."</blockquote>




By standard most 18yr olds aren't mature enough to handle a baby either. I wouldn't suggest you do anything with your pregnancy no matter my beliefs. If you were asking for support, I would give it. If I couldn't agree with your decision, I would keep my opinion to myself and move on.



Honestly, I am doing that right now because trust I have an opinion about your situation. You didn't ask for it so I am not throwing it at your feet.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" You are definitely young to be a ... [snip!] ... the decision she chooses. If you can't be there to support someone no matter the circumstance, then don't offer anything."


Maybe you shouldn't be so quick to say I am not offering support. I just CLEARLY said I can't suggest(tell someone) to anyone no matter what the situation is to have an abortion because that isn't what I believe in. I never said I didn't offer support, because I did say in my OP that if she needed to talk (clearly would be for support) that I have a good pair of listening ears. Also just because I said I won't suggest to anyone to get an abortion does not mean I look down on anyone who has ever had one. So therefore I never once said don't get one just because I don't like it or I don't believe in it, I just explained I myself wouldn't suggest that as an option. So please re read before you decide to assume.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MILF !!:</b>" I agree, wait a little bit and seriously think about your options. Abortion is not your only option. I do wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose, and you are not a wh**e. Things happen!"</blockquote>




It might be the best one for her. As long as she is informed and fully confident in her decision, there is nothing wrong with it.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Maybe you shouldn't be so quick to say I am not offering support. I just CLEARLY said I can't suggest(tell ... [snip!] ... believe in it, I just explained I myself wouldn't suggest that as an option. So please re read before you decide to assume."</blockquote>




I didn't "assume" anything. Your words were pretty clear. Again, nobody asked what you believe in. This is about her not you. If you want to talk about your beliefs, make your own thread and we will talk only about you.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Most people that young, no they ... [snip!] ... right now because trust I have an opinion about your situation. You didn't ask for it so I am not throwing it at your feet."

Suggestions that come from me are not saying do this or that. Suggesting coming from me is basically me giving my opinion about something and if you don't like what I said then gtf over it. I said what I said. I know what I meant but apparently you can't understand what I mean. And yea maybe most 18 year olds...wow my age doesn't make a f**king difference, I'll be 19 in about 2 weeks time so therefore age doesn't matter. I am not by most standards either. And honestly if you gave your opinion about my "situation" I wouldn't care because I know what I want, and what I can take care of. My situation doesn't fall under the usual situation most 18 year olds are under.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Suggestions that come from me are not saying do this or that. Suggesting coming from me is basically ... [snip!] ... know what I want, and what I can take care of. My situation doesn't fall under the usual situation most 18 year olds are under."</blockquote>




So, your situation is "different" and should be treated as such but, you want her to view her situation like your friends. Makes perfect sense.



I am laughing at your age "justification" just so you know. It really is comical. I know I am not alone on it either.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Maybe you shouldn't be so quick ... [snip!] ... in. This is about her not you. If you want to talk about your beliefs, make your own thread and we will talk only about you."


Do you realize there are more then one meaning to a lot of what a person says? I may have said something and the words yes, they were pretty clear, but apparently the way I meant them wasn't to you. You are assuming that I am shoving my beliefs off to her, but I am not. I am saying I can't suggest that as an option because I don't believe in it. I don't necessarily agree with it, but I didn't say "you will be a horrid person if you get one" no I wouldn't ever think to say something like that to someone in her shoes right now. I was plainly saying I wasn't putting that as an option in my eyes. I was stating that the two options I suggest are either keeping the baby, or doing something selfless and giving him/her up. I never said I wasn't offering support for her, because I so clearly wouldn't have said a damn thing on here if I wasn't offering my own type of support.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Suggestions that come from me are ... [snip!] ... sense. I am laughing at your age "justification" just so you know. It really is comical. I know I am not alone on it either."


Hahah I am laughing back at you, that you can't understand what I mean by what I say, that apparently you don't realize something can have a million meanings. And that was part of my support letting her KNOW that it's not impossible to do it. And you said most 18 year olds, I am about to be 19 in 2 weeks time. So therefore no one can throw the oh your just 18 in my face for very long. And YES my situation IS VERY different then the "average" 18 year old. Most don't own a home, and pay all bills on there OWN, and own 3 different vehicles in there name 2 of which THEY paid for out of their OWN pocket from working. So yes my situation IS different then most.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15351 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:" Do you realize there are more then one meaning to a lot of what a person says? I may have said something ... [snip!] ... support for her, because I so clearly wouldn't have said a damn thing on here if I wasn't offering my own type of support."


But to offer your support without supporting ALL of her options (the one you exclude may be the best option for HER) is not helpful, kwim?

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15351 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:" Hahah I am laughing back at you, that you can't understand what I mean by what I say, that apparently ... [snip!] ... in there name 2 of which THEY paid for out of their OWN pocket from working. So yes my situation IS different then most."


Oh please. You inherited your home. That does not make you more mature than any other 18 year old. In fact, being in an abusive relationship you're in a more harmful situation than most your age.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Due w/ a little boy!:</b>" Do you realize there are more then one meaning to a lot of what a person says? I may have said something ... [snip!] ... support for her, because I so clearly wouldn't have said a damn thing on here if I wasn't offering my own type of support."</blockquote>



More than one meaning? So what you are saying now is that people can just pick and choose what they want your words to mean? Well, that makes a ton of sense! I am curious, are you educated? Honestly I am wondering because of all the back pedaling. A person with an education base doesn't run in circles