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Open relationships HelloMeanie 98 kids; USA 1341 posts
23rd Feb '13

I was reading something about married couples with open relationships the other day and it got me curious. These couples were married, madly in love with each other, but had partners on the side. Strictly sex partners, some had boy/girlfriends that they took on dates.



So could you ever have an open relationship? Why or why not?

Iron Man 6 kids; 1 angel baby; 1700 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting HelloMeanie:" I was reading something about married couples with open relationships the other day and it got me curious. ... [snip!] ... sex partners, some had boy/girlfriends that they took on dates. So could you ever have an open relationship? Why or why not?"

Heck no. There's no way I could share my husband...A.) I'm not secure enough for it, and B.) He's the only one I want. :)

Loretta West [+1] Due March 26 (boy); TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 6781 posts
status 23rd Feb '13
Quoting Blue Song:" Heck no. There's no way I could share my husband...A.) I'm not secure enough for it, and B.) He's the only one I want. :)"

:!::!::!:
This

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Feb '13

I could do it. He says he could do it but only halfway. I don't care what he does as long as he always comes home to me.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
23rd Feb '13

No I could not, ever. He's mine.




But this does seem weird. I thought open relationships were for a sexual purpose? I mean, I understand if people want to have sex with others, go for it. But why "date" others? Isn't that kind of taking the role of the person you're in the open relationship with? I don't know if I'm explaining my questions right....

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" No I could not, ever. He's mine. But this does seem weird. I thought open relationships were for a ... [snip!] ... of taking the role of the person you're in the open relationship with? I don't know if I'm explaining my questions right...."


That's more of a Polyamorous relationship.

♥Mj&Daryl♥ (boy); 2 kids; Spokane, Washington 2392 posts
23rd Feb '13

No, I couldn't. I'm not strong enough for that- I couldn't share him like that. Call me an insecure psychopath, but I don't want SO going anywhere but me for sex. It would ruin the idea of sex for me anyways, unless the bitch is going to get tested 3 months BEFORE they do anything, and if she isn't fucking anyone else during the 3 months, and doesn't the entire time they're together, then I wouldn't even consider it. I'm not getting an STD for the simple fact SO gets his dick wet. Because I certainly couldn't sleep with anyone else. That's why I have porn and my vib LOL

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Blue Song:" Heck no. There's no way I could share my husband...A.) I'm not secure enough for it, and B.) He's the only one I want. :)"


THIS! plus I (personally) think that threesomes, swinging, open relationships, etc. are all basically cheating... I'm sorry when I said my vows there was nothing in there about loving this one man and screwing whoever else we wanted

Lauralie89 3 kids; Pennsylvania 2244 posts
23rd Feb '13

I'm okay with my SO getting oral but that's about it. He's actually gone through with it once when I was there but I doubt he will do it again. He feels kinda bad about it and said a few weeks ago that he felt like he cheated, even if I keep telling him I am okay with it. So I guess in our case, no we can't handle an open relationship.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Robert Downey Jr.:" That's more of a Polyamorous relationship."

So the difference between the 2 is that one is just for sexual purposes, but in the other you can date, but it's like 1 person is your.... "main" I guess?




I'm just trying to understand what they are.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Martha Marshall:" THIS! plus I (personally) think that threesomes, swinging, open relationships, etc. are all basically ... [snip!] ... I'm sorry when I said my vows there was nothing in there about loving this one man and screwing whoever else we wanted "


Cheating (by "definition") is doing intimate things with someone BEHIND your SO's back.

MILF !! 2 kids; Connecticut 3946 posts
23rd Feb '13

I could never. When it comes to my husband I'm an extremely jealous person lol shameful, but true.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" So the difference between the 2 is that one is just for sexual purposes, but in the other you can date, ... [snip!] ... in the other you can date, but it's like 1 person is your.... "main" I guess? I'm just trying to understand what they are."


Uhh. Kinda.. It's hard to explain. And there are different versions of polyamory. Like sometimes there is a main person who has multiple relationships, sometimes there are 3-4-5 people in one single relationship with each other, sometimes there is a main couple with couples branching off of that.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HelloMeanie:</b>" I was reading something about married couples with open relationships the other day and it got me curious. ... [snip!] ... sex partners, some had boy/girlfriends that they took on dates. So could you ever have an open relationship? Why or why not?"</blockquote>




Hellz no!
I'm too jealous and insecure about my looks, lol... :(

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting Robert Downey Jr.:" Uhh. Kinda.. It's hard to explain. And there are different versions of polyamory. Like sometimes there ... [snip!] ... 3-4-5 people in one single relationship with each other, sometimes there is a main couple with couples branching off of that."

Okay so it's basically got a bunch of different aspects. Thanks for kind of explaining it.