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OMG I'm crazy ♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
23rd Feb '13

dddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
23rd Feb '13

You were seriously going to kick him out over how many partners hes had? What the hell?

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
23rd Feb '13

It sounds like he was never trying to hurt your feelings and maybe didn't text for so long because he was trying to get his feelings together? That's just what I got out of all that.

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
23rd Feb '13

I say go with the flow and let it play out. If you end up together and in love, you do. If you don't, you don't. Don't stress about it.

May♥ 1 child; Texas 9183 posts
23rd Feb '13

Yeah, you both sound crazy...

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22058 posts
status 23rd Feb '13

I don't know...



He either is



1.) playing with your head.
2.) trying to maintain the status quo (you says he left in the morning so I assume you two banged)
3.) clingy but the clingy type that is also a commitment phobe ( don't ask me how that works, it just something I've observed but never understood)




I'd personally run so fast away from someone who says they are borderline in love with me after one date but is also acting like he doesn't want a commitment and has already broken commitments he set up with you. He seems insecure, needy and desperate.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting May ♥:" Yeah, you both sound crazy..."



Why do you say that?

Suckysuckyy[3] Due June 12; 2 kids; Louisiana 796 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:</b>" I don't know... He either is 1.) playing with your head. 2.) trying to maintain the status quo (you ... [snip!] ... he doesn't want a commitment and has already broken commitments he set up with you. He seems insecure, needy and desperate."</blockquote>




:!:



Yea pretty much.



He's starting out like this,can't imagine down the line.....

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" I don't know... He either is 1.) playing with your head. 2.) trying to maintain the status quo (you ... [snip!] ... he doesn't want a commitment and has already broken commitments he set up with you. He seems insecure, needy and desperate."


He never blew me off until today. He said his aunt was at his house waiting for madison (his daughter) because she wanted to take her somewhere and he didn't text me because his phone was dead, (which is possible he didn't charge it all night at my house)
and we went to dinner twice, (vday & last night and he's stayed 2 times overnight where we just talked btw until like 3am and cuddled and he's also stayed 2 more times after that & we did have sex but it was me wanting it.

May♥ 1 child; Texas 9183 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" Why do you say that?"</blockquote>




You were going to make him leave over his amount of sex partners? That's shitty. And now he's borderline in love with you? Crazy.

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
23rd Feb '13

I think his definition of relationship is different than mine..
he said people in relationships move in together, make plans for the future etc,
and that it's too soon and that we are DATING.
Idk, what is your definition of a relationship?

regina_margot 2 kids; New York, New York 1543 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" I don't know... He either is 1.) playing with your head. 2.) trying to maintain the status quo (you ... [snip!] ... he doesn't want a commitment and has already broken commitments he set up with you. He seems insecure, needy and desperate."


OP, i'm sorry, but you kind of sound that way, too
you've been talking for only a week, and inseparable that whole week?
that doesn't sound promising.
it sounds desperate.
when people are desperate, they pair up with the first person who comes along, not because they're right together, but because they're desperate.
that's a recipe for misery, a taste of which you've already gotten today

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting regina_margot:" OP, i'm sorry, but you kind of sound that way, too you've been talking for only a week, and inseparable ... [snip!] ... they're right together, but because they're desperate. that's a recipe for misery, a taste of which you've already gotten today"


I'm really not like that though, that's what's frustrating, I've been single forever since bd and no one makes me happy and I thought I was destined to be alone because every guy I dated made me miss BD. Well this guy makes me forget about BD

regina_margot 2 kids; New York, New York 1543 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting ♥crazybitch:" I'm really not like that though, that's what's frustrating, I've been single forever since bd and no ... [snip!] ... and I thought I was destined to be alone because every guy I dated made me miss BD. Well this guy makes me forget about BD"


is that your goal in life?
why not focus on remembering, but moving on? picking someone who is actually good for you, not a replacement BD...



you sound super infatuated, OP. seems that you're going from nothing, to two dates, to now hysterically wondering whether "you are in a relationship or not", and comparing it to the BD with whom obviously things didn't work out.
you gotta slow down.
if you really like this guy, take a breath. relax. take a day off. be a little bit hard to get, not so overwhelming, with the tears and the text messages.
and i would think it's DEFINITELY much too soon to have your kids play together...

♥crazybitch 1 child; 5550 posts
23rd Feb '13
Quoting regina_margot:" is that your goal in life? why not focus on remembering, but moving on? picking someone who is actually ... [snip!] ... with the tears and the text messages. and i would think it's DEFINITELY much too soon to have your kids play together..."


well I guess good thing they aren't playing then, but I honestly don't think it was a big deal since they know each other and we can just say we are friends...



My goal in life is to be a nurse and better able to support Chloe & being in nursing school around bd is ruining it, and being alone sucks too.