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♡ I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
23rd Feb '13

I don't know how this became a therapist debate, but thanks ladies lol

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
23rd Feb '13

Your issues are not external. You can get all the hair and nails done that you want, but that won't solve your problem.



He tells you you're beautiful. He wants to have sex with you.



You may want to consider talking to a therapist as to why you don't think you're good enough for yourself.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
23rd Feb '13

You're not the only one at all DH and I didn't have sex very often at all during my pregnancy... but we've made up for it since... well when DS decides to be helpful and sleep lol

Blair B 1 child; Pennsylvania 920 posts
23rd Feb '13

I felt this way when I was pregnant also. I didn't have a lot of sex while I was pregnant and it got worse after I had the baby. Now I feel like I look terrible and looked better when I was pregnant. We rarely ever get to have sex anymore though because I have no one to watch our daughter

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
23rd Feb '13

Lol a therapist? I'm 6 mo ths pregnant. . Like I said, our sex life was amazing before I got pregnant, I just feel huge, pail, and unattractive. And I have a ha dsome So...

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm actually a virgin:</b>" Lol a therapist? I'm 6 mo ths pregnant. . Like I said, our sex life was amazing before I got pregnant, I just feel huge, pail, and unattractive. And I have a ha dsome So..."</blockquote>




Okay. Then do nothing about it. Seems to be working.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm actually a virgin:</b>" Lol a therapist? I'm 6 mo ths pregnant. ... [snip!] ... and unattractive. And I have a ha dsome So..."</blockquote> Okay. Then do nothing about it. Seems to be working."</blockquote>




How would a therapist help me not feel like a whale? And thanks for not quoting me btw..

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
23rd Feb '13

Sorry, habit with the quoting.
I think it's normal. I feel pretty similar right now. I get dressed up and still feel like crap but I don't think we need to be seen by a therapist :roll:

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blair B:</b>" I felt this way when I was pregnant also. I didn't have a lot of sex while I was pregnant and it got ... [snip!] ... looked better when I was pregnant. We rarely ever get to have sex anymore though because I have no one to watch our daughter"</blockquote>




You need to get a babysitter! I'm not really worried about my pp body. I had stretch marks from my first pregnancy whe I met SO and he didn't mind.. but going from 98lbs to 108. And it seems to be all in my face:(

Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
23rd Feb '13

It's hard sometimes to see ourselves as other see's us.
I think the only way to get over your insecurities at this point is to just keep on keeping on..



Lots of women feel like this in general, you are not alone.
You are extremely attractive. Your body is banging in general.
Don't let your negative self talk affect your relationship, you deserve better than that.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14638 posts
status 23rd Feb '13

Why do you feel like you need to be having sex? Does he put pressure on the subject?

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting That one chick.:</b>" I think it's normal. I feel pretty similar right now. I get dressed up and still feel like crap but I don't think we need to be seen by a therapist :roll:"</blockquote>




Why the eyeroll?

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
23rd Feb '13

I feel like I "need to have sex" because I feel like I'm faili g him.
Plus I miss sex. He wants sex of course, but he doesn't complain. He is constantly telling me I'm beautiful and he lives me no matter what.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
23rd Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting That one chick.:</b>" I think it's normal. I feel pretty similar ... [snip!] ... up and still feel like crap but I don't think we need to be seen by a therapist :roll:"</blockquote> Why the eyeroll?"</blockquote>




I think she was rolling her eyes at miss red bottom who told me I should seek therapy

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14638 posts
status 23rd Feb '13
Quoting I'm actually a virgin:" I feel like I "need to have sex" because I feel like I'm faili g him. Plus I miss sex. He wants sex ... [snip!] ... He wants sex of course, but he doesn't complain. He is constantly telling me I'm beautiful and he lives me no matter what."


Failing him? You're carrying his child lol. I wouldn't put so much pressure on yourself. The next several months will fly by and you'll be having sex again in no time.