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who to have in the delivery room JBaker Due February 27; Japan 1 posts
24th Feb '13

I want my SO and my mom in the room with me during delivery but my SO is really hurt that i am not going to have just him there. He feels that it is a huge bonding moment and that my mom being there will ruin it. I dont know what to do. Who will/was there during your delivery? And did you get a "bond" by them being there?

Kylees Mama 1 child; Faribault, Minnesota 4193 posts
24th Feb '13

I had my mom and best friend. It's up to you, the nurses will listen to only you. I felt better having my mom there.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting JBaker:" I want my SO and my mom in the room with me during delivery but my SO is really hurt that i am not going ... [snip!] ... will ruin it. I dont know what to do. Who will/was there during your delivery? And did you get a "bond" by them being there?"


He is absolutely 100% right. your mom has no business in there. You and he made the baby and the only people who should be there are you, him and the medical staff. She can come meet her grandchild when you've rested and had an hour or two to get to know each other.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
24th Feb '13

With my first I had my husband my mom and his mom with my second it was my husband my doula and my daughter. I dont feel like I missed out on anything.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
24th Feb '13

I had planned on my mom and DH being there but when I had to have an emergency c-section it was just DH and I there... I thought it was really special since DH was the first to hold DS so that helped DH's bonding but if I'd had a vaginal delivery I would have wanted my mom there too for sure

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3778 posts
24th Feb '13

It was only DH and me. My mom was very hurt that she didn't get to be there.

user banned Due October 22; 17 kids; Dildo, 4998 posts
24th Feb '13

I'll be having my next at home and my midwife, mom, boyfriend, and son and my best friend will be there. Nothing wrong with that, you have the final say

k♥[j&a] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 1053 posts
24th Feb '13

When I had my first daughter my husband, my mom, his mom, & my sister was in the delivery room.
When I had my second daughter all the same people plus my cousin was in the room with me. I wanted to share that moment with a few from my family.
And me & my husband still bonded with our baby regardless of who was in the room with us.

Mrs. Tebow 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 6684 posts
24th Feb '13

It was nice having my mom in there and all with my first but it really didn't let me focus on laboring nor bonding.



With my 2nd I chose to just have DH and it was completely better. I was focused, I bonded a lot easier, yadda yadda

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
24th Feb '13

i had my mom, DH and MIL in there. DH was like yours and thought it would take away from the bonding but it didn't. If my mom hadn't been in there, i couldn't have done it. DH just wasn't mentally equipped so to say. lol

Eli&Elliot's Mommy! 2 kids; Brooklyn, New York 2109 posts
24th Feb '13

I had my DH there. Mom came to visit after.

May♥ 1 child; Texas 9167 posts
24th Feb '13

It was suppossed to just be me and my SO because I feel the way your SO does about it. But it all happened so fast, I gave birth before my mom could leave the room. :D So it was my mom and my SO. Needless to say, I don't regret anything and now I'm glad that my mother was able to witness her first grandchild being born.

Shanaddy 1 child; Tulsa, Oklahoma 882 posts
24th Feb '13

I had planned on having SO, my mom and my MIL (Although I did NOT want her in there, but said ok just to save a big fight.) I wound up having to have a c section though so only SO was in the operating room with me. I plan on a VBAC next time around and it will be my SO & mom.

Two Princesses 2 kids; San Pedro, CA, United States 7196 posts
24th Feb '13

When I delivered my now two year old, I planned on having my bf, mom, and grandma there.
Ended up requiring a c-section and only my bf and mom were allowed in the OR.

♥MamaToSilas♥ 1 child; Illinois 9244 posts
status 24th Feb '13

Have who you want there. Its not going to kill the bonding to have the extra support.