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Don't know what to think Emma and Chloe's Momma 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Crawfordsville, IN, United States 12032 posts
24th Feb '13

I'm a little upset but don't know if I'm overacting. First off my DH has never been a good housekeeper and prety much won't do anything. So last night our 22 month old was wanting him to help her with her yogurt. He was playing on his phone which he does to often so she dumps it right next to his feet. He walks away so I yell at him. His response is that I could of told him she wanted help. I don't need to tell you to pay attetion to your child! I will admit that I have gotten slack lately. I do attempt to keep he house picked up. Every time I cook dinner he b***hes because he's trying to lose weight. Yet he won't go grocery shopping with me or give me reciepe ideas. I ask all the time for help with laundry because it's in the basement. Yet I get bitched out when he has no clean uniforms. So he walks into the living room yelling that I don't do anything which is far from the truth. I pointed out a day that I went to get groceries and he stayed home. He was home two hours and didn't help pick up, laundry, etc. He tells me I had to work I wanted to relax. When I worked I got up cleaned the house, did school work full time, and took care of the kids. It just really eerked my nerves that he thinks he can pull a double standard. I understand he works even though he has an easy schedule. I'm one person doing EVERYTHING. He really makes me wonder what I am to him. I may be way over thinking this but it's really bothering me. I don't think just because you work it gives you an excuse to never do anything.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18822 posts
24th Feb '13

My husband and I both work full time (me usually over 40 hours, he 12 to 15 hours a day, 6 1/2 days a week) and we both manage to keep everything running.



Yelling at him is probably a bad idea, but his laziness is laughable. Suck it up buddy!

Emma and Chloe's Momma 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Crawfordsville, IN, United States 12032 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" My husband and I both work full time (me usually over 40 hours, he 12 to 15 hours a day, 6 1/2 days a ... [snip!] ... manage to keep everything running. Yelling at him is probably a bad idea, but his laziness is laughable. Suck it up buddy!"


I try not to yell but I get so frustrated. I ask him for help but he refuses but I get yelled at. I just want him to just pick up a little. He's literally walk on crumbs and tells me I vacum to much. He leaves dirty socks in the living room and can't put his shoes up. I already have two kids to pick up just help a little.

[Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] ; 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3245 posts
24th Feb '13

My husband works full time and I stay home so I don't expect much help with chores and such...but I'm constantly on his ass about helping with our son on the weekends and picking his own shit up. I'm a wife and mother, not a maid. I would sit him down and explain that things are about to change, and just vocalize that you need his help with stuff. Thats not unfair to ask.

*~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 10384 posts
24th Feb '13

I know how you feel. We are about to be moving, and DH expects me to do all the packing and cleaning. I'm 5 months pregnant, and doing anything for any amount of time causes me pain (no matter WHAT it is.) We fight every time I try to say something bc (I don't blame him...) he wants to lay around and sleep or play on his laptop all weekend when he has off. I admit I'm a bit lazy, but that's mainly bc I'm tired of picking up after a grown man.

Emma and Chloe's Momma 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Crawfordsville, IN, United States 12032 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:" My husband works full time and I stay home so I don't expect much help with chores and such...but I'm ... [snip!] ... down and explain that things are about to change, and just vocalize that you need his help with stuff. Thats not unfair to ask."


I do ask him for help especially with laundry over and over again. It's in the basement so I have to leave our 22 month upstairs by herself. I've suggested couseling before because he really acts like he doesn't understand where I'm coming from.

Kimi Federico Due March 11 (boy); Texas 38 posts
24th Feb '13

me and my fiance live with my mom for the time being because he just got this job and im able to pop at any given time. but even tho he works and i dont i usually keep the house clean for everyone but my mom helps out a lil but the one that helps me the most is my fiance its just how he is.. i guess im one of the lucky ones.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:</b>" My husband works full time and I stay home so I don't expect much help with chores and such...but I'm ... [snip!] ... down and explain that things are about to change, and just vocalize that you need his help with stuff. Thats not unfair to ask."</blockquote>




I feel the same way he works every day and I don't work during the week I pick up his clothes dishes wash his clothes cook him dinner and clean the house and when the baby gets here I'll do most of the work taking care of him.but the weekends are my time and he can take care of himself haha it gets annoying though cause I'm seven months and at least five times a night he makes me get up and get him drinks and stuff and I'm like your not handicapped!! I can barely roll out of bed! He's def insensitive to me and my hardships of being pregnant with my first baby

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:</b>" My husband works full time and I stay home so I don't expect much help with chores and such...but I'm ... [snip!] ... down and explain that things are about to change, and just vocalize that you need his help with stuff. Thats not unfair to ask."</blockquote>




I feel the same way he works every day and I don't work during the week I pick up his clothes dishes wash his clothes cook him dinner and clean the house and when the baby gets here I'll do most of the work taking care of him.but the weekends are my time and he can take care of himself haha it gets annoying though cause I'm seven months and at least five times a night he makes me get up and get him drinks and stuff and I'm like your not handicapped!! I can barely roll out of bed! He's def insensitive to me and my hardships of being pregnant with my first baby

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
25th Feb '13

my so is a complete slob and does not clean up after himself and he does stupid shit like that too. he has severe adhd. but when the house is trashed he will help clean. since he has been off of work the last 2 weeks he has changed dd's diaper almost the complete time which helps me do other things.