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idk what to do CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
24th Feb '13

Well I'm having a boy! Hooray. There's just one thing. My husband and I have very different opinions on circumcisio. . I have done so much research on the subject. I've read the stats I know the numbers why people do it. I think I've read everything possible!! if I was single I would not circumcise my son. My husband on the other hand wants it done, badly. He has done no research, asked nobody anything, and just continuously says he wants it done.I give him all my reasons for not wanting it done and he just brushes them off! And he has no reason!
He DOES put doubt in my mind though if I'm making the right decision or not. He even had joked he'll tell the doctor to do it while I'm sleeping. I don't want to fight but we both feel so strongly about this I'm afraid its n not gonna be resolved till the baby is born.what would you do in my position? and please don't say leave him or something like that I love my husband and respect his opinion

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
24th Feb '13

I would just let him have it done. My husband will be the one to make that decision if we have another boy.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
24th Feb '13

Well he is obviously making his decision based on feeling so I would say lets make this decision based on knowledge and then you can both educated eachother on each side to make it fair then come to the agreement together? Im sure once he sees what its like for a little boy to get cut he will change his mind..



I've always been on the fence too, I know its unnecessary but I can understand the emotional attachment men can have to this.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
24th Feb '13

I let my kids dads decide. I did research as well and there's nothing profound enough to make me give a shit either way.

Lara +2 2 kids; Wasilla, Alaska 7720 posts
24th Feb '13

Be stubborn!



You can always take skin off, you can't put it back on



It's his body, should be his choice

Mom[Oh] 2 kids; Fort Wayne, IN, United States 608 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carissa Biron:</b>" Well I'm having a boy! Hooray. There's just one thing. My husband and I have very different opinions ... [snip!] ... would you do in my position? and please don't say leave him or something like that I love my husband and respect his opinion"</blockquote>




In my house circ would be my husband decision. He is the leader of our household. That is his son the one that will pass his name down...to me I feel you should let this one go and let him make the decision.....

Lara +2 2 kids; Wasilla, Alaska 7720 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Carissa Biron:</b>" Well I'm having a boy! Hooray. There's just ... [snip!] ... is his son the one that will pass his name down...to me I feel you should let this one go and let him make the decision....."</blockquote>




The couldn't be more the opposite than how it should be!!!



I'm glad my husband sat down with me and did his research and chose not to put our son through this

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
24th Feb '13

I'm in the same boat. Dh was NOT circd, and he wants to circ ds once he's born, but I don't.



He won't really talk about why, but he's firm on his decision... I have also tried showing him my research and he basically shuts it down with 'in the one with the p***s.'



So, if we do end up circumcising our son he will care for it until its healed...

::Nikki:: 1 child; Arkansas 2624 posts
24th Feb '13

Your husband has had it done and you haven't. It seems like that would be a pretty good reason for him to have an opinion, right?

Lara +2 2 kids; Wasilla, Alaska 7720 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:</b>" I'm in the same boat. Dh was NOT circd, and he wants to circ ds once he's born, but I don't. He won't ... [snip!] ... it down with 'in the one with the p***s.' So, if we do end up circumcising our son he will care for it until its healed..."</blockquote>




I think for older guys (not calling your dh old) they would taught from the beginning to pull the skin back, causing lots of issues



Now we know NOT too.
And only about 32% are choosing to circ

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" I let my kids dads decide. I did research as well and there's nothing profound enough to make me give a shit either way."</blockquote>




:!: this exactly.
I don't have a p***s so I really have no clue what so ever. Even though DH only has a circ'd p***s he still knows better than me with how it is to live with one lol.
If it was concrete that it SHOULD never be done that would be a different story. But it's not so I let DH make that choice.

Daesey 1 child; 2 angel babies; Kansas 1482 posts
24th Feb '13

I've read the research, too... & there's nothing there that would make me be so solid to sway one way or another. Personally, I will circumcise if it's a boy. For two reasons...



One... I work in a nursing home where there are a number of uncircumcised elderly men. I cannot tell you how many of them seem to have more reddened areas, problems & infections due to poor care of their uncircumcised penises (due to their own care or care from someone who doesn't clean them properly. It's an issue.



The second reason is my cousin's story -- he was uncircumcised at birth. Fast forward 20+ yrs --- was having sex w/his girlfriend... I guess they were going at it pretty hard... his p***s tore... quite horribly. When they went to the ER, the Dr told him the foreskin was almost completely off. They could either stitch it back on & hope it healed correctly or just finish the job & take the rest off. He got circumcised at 21 yrs old. A horrible memory he rather not have.



So yeah, in my personal opinion.. I would just do it as a newborn.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
24th Feb '13

Yes the only thing that makes me doubt my decision is a boy can be taught to clean it and take care of it they're whole life BUT when he's old and incapable of doing it himself it could def turn into something deadly. I'm still debating but thank you for your insights!

Justin Biron Due June 7 (boy); Japan 1 posts
24th Feb '13

I am carissa husband and the reasons why I want my boy to e circum is because I have had it done and obviously I don't remember any of the pain. Another reason why I want it done is because its cleaner and easier to take care of and later down the road wont cause problems such as being not circum. I also want it done cause he is my son and I want him to be like me in someways I understand what my wife doesn't want it done but she doesn't want it done because of the pain issue mostly or that's the way she explains it.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
24th Feb '13

well thanks for not bashing me lol glad we can talk about this on or offline lol