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Bipolar annoy-o-saurus husband applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
24th Feb '13

Do you ever want to kick you husband in the head? He is bugging me so bad! ANNNND he is bipolar and sometimes I just can't take any more of his mood disorders. If you love a bipolar then you know. If you have bipolar then you can guess how annoying you can get.



I do love him but right now he is bugging me so bad that I am just typing it on here. So that I can get out my annoyances on line rather than in and argument. You can never have a reasonable discussion with a mood disorder.



o k I am feeling better already, thanks for listening

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
24th Feb '13

you can never have a reasonable convo with someone with a mood disorder? :?

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
24th Feb '13

I bet he thinks you're annoying too.

Tikaytasha 17 kids; New York 11503 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" I bet he thinks your annoying too."</blockquote>




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Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" you can never have a reasonable convo with someone with a mood disorder? :?"</blockquote>




I think she means when his moods are swinging.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32448 posts
24th Feb '13

You sound pretty un-understanding, too. Especially with statements like those.



I have conditional Bi=polar from hypoglycemia and I know I feel like total shit after the fact and my sugar is leveled back out. Being treated like a sub-par human because of a medical condition you can't control is just shitty as hell.



Yes, we can be a*****es, but you have to be understanding or not be in a relationship where you can't handle a medical condition.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Squid Kid:" You sound pretty un-understanding, too. Especially with statements like those. I have conditional Bi=polar ... [snip!] ... we can be a*****es, but you have to be understanding or not be in a relationship where you can't handle a medical condition. "

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Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squid Kid:</b>" You sound pretty un-understanding, too. Especially with statements like those. I have conditional Bi=polar ... [snip!] ... we can be a*****es, but you have to be understanding or not be in a relationship where you can't handle a medical condition. "</blockquote>




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Alfies Mama Due February 26; 1 child; Gilroy, California 2603 posts
24th Feb '13

My ex husband was bipolar. When we first got together it was hard for me to understand the mood swings. I would get annoyed and upset but after talking to his therapist and learning more about his condition I learned to be patient. You have to understand that they feel like shit after the mood swings too. My ex hated having the mood swings because he would treat me like shit and he didn't want to. Just be patient with him. It's hard but you chose to love him and be with him with his condition.

Cherry Davis Due March 11 (boy); 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 83 posts
24th Feb '13

My husband is bi-polar and has mood swings often, it's hard never knowing which mood your going to wake up to. Some days he is happy some days he is crabby as hell and takes it out on me and the children afterwards he always feels bad because he doesn't mean to. Bi-polar even with medication is hard to control. When he is angry it is very hard to talk to him bc he feels he is right and will argue even if he is wrong. I have developed a large amount of patient in our 5 years together. I did say for better or worse and that includes his mood swings as irritating or hard as they might be.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Cherry Davis:" My husband is bi-polar and has mood swings often, it's hard never knowing which mood your going to wake ... [snip!] ... our 5 years together. I did say for better or worse and that includes his mood swings as irritating or hard as they might be. "


This week is our 3 year anniversary. I love him everyday, some days are harder than others. Some days he is hard to deal with. As you know. I don't want to take out my feelings on him because he can not handle it when he is unstable. So I type out my feelings to get them out of my head. Then it makes me feel better.



I still love him and all his annoying things. He still loves me and all my annoying things. That is how all relationships work.



Congratulations on 5 years!

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Squid Kid:" You sound pretty un-understanding, too. Especially with statements like those. I have conditional Bi=polar ... [snip!] ... we can be a*****es, but you have to be understanding or not be in a relationship where you can't handle a medical condition. "

I have no idea what conditional bi-polar is. Him and I have done a lot of research and talked to a lot of Drs all over about the different types of bipolar disorder and never ever heard about that. Can you please explain it to me. Can you so me a link to a web page so I can understand it.



Also I am very understanding of his mental health problems. I never treat him like a sub-par human. I treat him like the man I love. But sometimes he annoys me very bad. And I need to let out my feelings someplace. Like on baby gaga, rather than on him. I don't treat him bad at all.



When he dose things like stops taking his meds and spends thousands of dollars on things we don't need in one day. I never yell at him or anything. I sometimes have to call his Dr and I have one time needed to have the Dr take over his care, but that is for his own good and safety.



Then when he is stable I will talk to him and try my hardest to get us back on track financially. It can be very hard to do and it can be very hard not to get angry with him.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting ℳary ℐane:" you can never have a reasonable convo with someone with a mood disorder? :?"


What I said was
"You can never have a reasonable discussion with a mood disorder."
I did Not say
" you can never have a reasonable convo with someone with a mood disorder? "
Adding that word someone changes the contest of what I said. The meaning behind what I said is that when the mania takes over and the person is not in control anymore(the mania is) you can not have a reasonable discussion. When they are stable you can have a normal healthy conversation.

Cherry Davis Due March 11 (boy); 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 83 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting applelove:" This week is our 3 year anniversary. I love him everyday, some days are harder than others. Some days ... [snip!] ... things. He still loves me and all my annoying things. That is how all relationships work. Congratulations on 5 years! "

Thank you it seems longer then five years lol! But I do understand where you are coming from especially when the mania kicks in, it is VERY VERY hard to have a civil conversation because they are angry (especially off medication) My husband went a solid 2 weeks refusing his medication and my children and I ended up leaving until he got back on them because his behavior was so erratic that it was scaring our kids and myself . Then again my husband is prone to violent outburst so it wasn't safe with him off meds. I called his doctor and his mother and they convinced him to get back on meds and get regular then he asked us to come home. I know it's tough and frustrating and I understand your need to vent :) i'm here to listen if you need an ear :)

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Cherry Davis:" Thank you it seems longer then five years lol! But I do understand where you are coming from especially ... [snip!] ... to come home. I know it's tough and frustrating and I understand your need to vent :) i'm here to listen if you need an ear :) "

Thank you for understanding. My SO has not had a real seriouls manic episode in over a long time. But it can get very scary and I am freaked out for when the baby is older.



Like one night my husband went into a total sever mania, I kicked him out of the bedroom because me and the baby were trying to sleep. Well he started yelling at me. I went out and he had all the lights on and weapons ready. I asked what the hell are you yelling at? Its 4 am and we can't call your Dr till morning. He said I am yelling at you! I said, I have been in the bed room. He said ohhhh I was hearing voices, I am sorry. I said look I am going to bed we will call the dr. tomorrow. Can I turn off the lights? He yells NO, the robbers need to know we are home.



So I don't know what I will tell my baby in a few years when daddy is staying up all night by the door with a weapon saying that he needs to watch for intruders. Or when he talks to himself in front of a LO.



it can be really really hard, I don't know why people thought it was un-understanding of me to vent like that. Because I am the most understanding person in his life. Living with someone who is bipolar is not easy at all. but I do love the man.



BBBUUUUT I do get mad when he thinks it is best to stop his meds and gets very manic. It is horrible for me, but he loves it most of the time.



Don't you hate when you say honey I think your mood is getting off and they say "I feel better than I have in a very long time!" You think oohh nooo. LOL KWIM?