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kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
24th Feb '13

You sound like to loony, rude, batty one to me. Am I missing something here?

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" We do all give gifts. Grandma gets ... [snip!] ... she doesn't like the gift then at least you tried. I guess I'm having a really hard time understanding why you are embarrassed."


See that's what happens, and I'm so tired of getting her things she's just going to throw away, so I picked out more elaborate gifts that she would of approved of.



But instead I just pissed her off for trying to be fair.



Like I said, it's not just party favors, she had those and crafts and fun things for the kids to do that we helped put together.



But she also picked out more elaborate put together gifts for the kids as well. Which is where I was hurt.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" I can't buy things for her kids. They have to first be approved by her, otherwise she'll throw them away or give them away. Then I can buy things."</blockquote>




Then give them plastic eggs filled with candy and money.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting kitermom:" You sound like to loony, rude, batty one to me. Am I missing something here?"


Most definitely.



She has a history of doing things far worse than this that spans back several years.



But everyone just nods, shakes their heads and say this is how she is and we all just have to be nice to her, and pretend it's ok. No one ever stands up to her. It's so horrible. And every time I try to stand up to her, she causes a big stink and then I'm ordered by the family to leave her alone and be nice. And no one will ever stand up to her!



It's so annoying!

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" See that's what happens, and I'm so tired of getting her things she's just going to throw away, so ... [snip!] ... put together. But she also picked out more elaborate put together gifts for the kids as well. Which is where I was hurt."</blockquote>




I'm sorry but I still honestly don't get why you are upset she got your children nice things..... I think you sound a but envious of her. I also don't see why it has to be fair

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" I can't buy things for her kids. They have to first be approved by her, otherwise she'll throw them away or give them away. Then I can buy things."


Get them a gift card to the book store, give them a bucket filled with craft supplies, or don't give them anything at all.



I don't think she is expecting anything for her children....

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" I can't buy things for her kids. ... [snip!] ... or give them away. Then I can buy things."</blockquote> Then give them plastic eggs filled with candy and money."


That she most definitely throws away. but that's a family tradition. She plans the easter egg hunt and we're supposed to bring eggs filled with candy and we mix them all together for the kids to find.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" I can't buy things for her kids. They have to first be approved by her, otherwise she'll throw them away or give them away. Then I can buy things."</blockquote>



Get it approved by her then. Or get them what she got you last year.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Get them a gift card to the book store, give them a bucket filled with craft supplies, or don't give them anything at all. I don't think she is expecting anything for her children...."


She never really does, because she expects that she's the only one to give things out at family gatherings. She wants to be the one above everyone else. So that's why she always "forces" us to have family gatherings at her house, that way she can control the situation and give out gifts without expecting other people having to do it.



Which is nice and all, if we all liked going to her house for gatherings. Instead we just have to suck it up and go because no one wants to stand up to her. Which again is annoying.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19101 posts
status 24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" It's not just "party favors" though. She had gifts and party favors"</blockquote>




There must be more to this than you can convey on the interwebz. My aunt gave gifts. When we were teens we'd get make up and stuff like that. It wasn't just party favors and no one was weird about it.



Maybe a way to insulate yourself, is to not let her get in your bubble. Like, let her give gifts and shake off whatever irks you. If you feel like she is trying to make you feel bad, shake it off and say to yourself "I'm not going to compete. She can do her thing and we will do ours. She hosts a party and feels like giving gifts. Cool. We don't do easter gifts."



Then be confident that her silliness can only affect you if you let it, and you aren't. Battle won.

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
24th Feb '13

My SIL buys my children much nicer things than I am able to buy her children. Just suck it up and get over it. She's being nice and you're being ungrateful!

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" That she most definitely throws away. but that's a family tradition. She plans the easter egg hunt ... [snip!] ... plans the easter egg hunt and we're supposed to bring eggs filled with candy and we mix them all together for the kids to find."


Why would she throw away money?



Also, the Easter egg hunt sounds fun! I'm sure the kids love it, and of course you should be contributing candy/eggs to it.

Devon and Kiara's mommy 2 kids; bremerton, wa, United States 1139 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting kitermom:" You sound like to loony, rude, batty one to me. Am I missing something here?"



This!!!!



......................... Oregon 14226 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting kitermom:" My SIL buys my children much nicer things than I am able to buy her children. Just suck it up and get over it. She's being nice and you're being ungrateful!"



I don't mind it if she can afford more expensive things. I just don't want to be hurt ~

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" She never really does, because she expects that she's the only one to give things out at family gatherings. ... [snip!] ... for gatherings. Instead we just have to suck it up and go because no one wants to stand up to her. Which again is annoying."


Oh the horror. She hosts family gatherings and showers everyone with gifts. She's such a monster.