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Mrs.Dani Due July 3; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Oxnard, California 10272 posts
26th Feb '13

I have to say for my I don't think I could get one. But if I had to I would do it before 12 weeks. But for others they should be allowed to whenever they want.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30 (boy); 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting flossy (13wks with #4):" <blockquote><b>Quoting BabyMamax5:</b>" I got my NT results back today and everything ... [snip!] ... but are you able to get a amnio (sp?) Would that pick up the disorder to give you piece of mind or prepare you either way?"

It doesn't show anything. I had one done with my oldest son and the results were normal, My son is VERY disabled. Their disorder is so rare it is hard to find the gene that causes it. That's why I wonder do I take the chance and carry to term or do I "nip it in the bud" so to speak now? It weighs heavily on my mind everyday....

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
26th Feb '13

Personally, I don't think I ever could no matter how bad I wanted to.



Morally, unless there is something medically wrong, not after viability.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30 (boy); 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
26th Feb '13

These are pics of my son Landon, since these were taken he has rapidly gotten worse. He goes for his second surgery mar 20, if it doesn't work they will break his hips and plate them.
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Stfu Squirrel District of Columbia 8554 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting BabyMamax5:" These are pics of my son Landon, since these were taken he has rapidly gotten worse. He goes for his second surgery mar 20, if it doesn't work they will break his hips and plate them. "


Omg, he is adorable.
What's his diagnosis?
My brother was born with a club foot and after surgery as an infant, he had to wear special shoes with a bar like that.

Stfu Squirrel District of Columbia 8554 posts
26th Feb '13

Sorry, nevermind. Just saw your response in the dd thread.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
26th Feb '13

I think when the fetus has reached the point of viability, abortion is morally wrong. That being said, I really don't give two hoots what women choose to do with their bodies. They are the ones that have to live with the decision, not me.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30 (boy); 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Stfu Shirley:" Sorry, nevermind. Just saw your response in the dd thread."

No worries. :)

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting D/JHO:</b>" So for those of you who believe in abortion after viability. If the baby is born with some kind of defect would the mother have the right to decide to end it's life after birth?"</blockquote>




I don't even see how that correlates. She would not be terminating a pregnancy.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stfu Shirley:</b>" I have a cousin with severe DS, and he is an absolute treasure but omg it is SO hard on his parents. ... [snip!] ... much a matter of not valuing the baby's life as it would be a matter of how much I value my 4-year-old's future and stability."</blockquote>



I have a cousin with downs who lived with us for two years, and I've worked for a year in group homes f for adults with special needs.



I definitely couldn't provide for a sn child. I do elective genetic testing because i would abort.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30 (boy); 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stfu Shirley:</b>" I have a cousin with severe DS, and he is ... [snip!] ... adults with special needs. I definitely couldn't provide for a sn child. I do elective genetic testing because i would abort."

But if there was no way to test gen would you take that chance or end the pregnancy knowing there's a possibility of the baby being born with sn?

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BabyMamax5:</b>" But if there was no way to test gen would you take that chance or end the pregnancy knowing there's a possibility of the baby being born with sn?"</blockquote>




I wouldn'tconceive in the first place. If my partner and i were both carriers i would want us both sterilized.

Stfu Squirrel District of Columbia 8554 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting BabyMamax5:" But if there was no way to test gen would you take that chance or end the pregnancy knowing there's a possibility of the baby being born with sn?"


Well I'm guessing you had no idea this could be an issue before you were pregnant with your son, right? And the rest just depends on your own personal values. I can't say what I'd do. Maybe I'd look more into adoption or surrogacy, although those certainly don't guarantee anything either, and they're incredibly expensive. Then again, I don't know that they'd be more expensive than lifelong medical care.



Really, any of us can have a child with some rare disorder that's impossible to diagnose, and it's a chance we all take to get pregnant. We all know that conceiving an embryo isn't a guarantee of anything. I took a chance by intentionally conceiving a child past the age of 35. But it's like anything else I guess. You can't live in fear of all the "what if"s, and things are bound to go wrong eventually, so you just hope for the best and move forward.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30 (boy); 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Stfu Shirley:" Well I'm guessing you had no idea this could be an issue before you were pregnant with your son, right? ... [snip!] ... in fear of all the "what if"s, and things are bound to go wrong eventually, so you just hope for the best and move forward."

ya we had no idea and I had mirena in place to prevent any pregnancy's after we did find out but it almost completely fell out and we got pregnant with this baby. I will get my tubes tied now, that's for sure.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30 (boy); 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BabyMamax5:</b>" But if there was no way to test gen would you ... [snip!] ... I wouldn'tconceive in the first place. If my partner and i were both carriers i would want us both sterilized."

It wasn't my choice to get pregnant, we tried not too.