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Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103128 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:</b>" :roll: yourself. Someone doesn't like being corrected. 2wks off is still wrong and the spreading of misinformation (no matter how minute) is still irr



Whatever. Move along now

The Time Police TTC since Apr 2014; 1 angel baby; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33340 posts
status 24th Feb '13
Quoting BabyMamax5:" Thank you. It kills me to see them in so much pain everyday. My 5yr is going for his 2nd surgery in mar and we're not even 100% sure it'll work."


What do they do for the surgery?

BabyMamax5 Due August 30; 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BabyMamax5:</b>" The dr's told me this baby had a 50/50 chance ... [snip!] ... Can you get amnio? What is wrong? And yes. 50% and feeling the way you described I would abort. But that's me"

I did with my 3rd pregnancy and it didn't show anything. I had a NT scan last week and they want to do it again. The disorder they have is VERY rare, there a little over 200,000 people in the US that have it. It is hard to catch before birth.
So that's my dilemma, do I abort to "save" my child or cross my fingers and hope all is well?

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112395 posts
status 24th Feb '13
Quoting Lucas'Mama:" If they have the procedure earlier, thats a moot point. I dont know how adoption works, but that would be an option. I just cant fathom why a woman would wait til the second trimester to terminate"


Adoption doesnt always work...thats why we have crowded orphanages and kids growing up in the system until they're of legal age then they're tossed out left to fend for themselves.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103128 posts
24th Feb '13

have you never seen Didn't know I was pregnant?<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" I'd think it was pretty rare to find out past viability"</blockquote>




have you never seen Didn't know I was pregnant?these women go an entire pregnancy without knoing

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26; 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" have you never seen Didn't know I was pregnant?<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" ... [snip!] ... have you never seen Didn't know I was pregnant?these women go an entire pregnancy without knoing"</blockquote>



!!!



I know plenty of people who didn't know till after 18 weeks or more.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30; 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Kayla [:)]♥:" What do they do for the surgery?"

They clipped his heels and inner thigh muscles but it didn't work, they want to do it again and this time do behind his knees. and if THAT doesn't work they want to break his hips and plate and pin them. He's 5!!

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 103128 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:</b>" Adoption doesnt always work...thats why we have crowded orphanages and kids growing up in the system until they're of legal age then they're tossed out left to fend for themselves."</blockquote>




And just like some people cant have an abortion, others can't go through with adoption. I'd have 28483728 abortions beforeni did adoption

Ronnie RadKat 3 kids; Arizona 21147 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Who is going to take care of these babies once they are born?"


There is not shortage of homes for healthy newborns, however a major issue arises when people decide to parent unwanted children. Abuse, neglect, often times involvement in the foster care system.



Also a mother who is carrying an unwanted child is less likely to take care of her child in utero, potentially causing damage by drinking, doing drugs or smoking while pregnant. Which may cause a child to be born with disabilities and less likely to be adopted out.

Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" Adoption doesnt always work...thats why we have crowded orphanages and kids growing up in the system until they're of legal age then they're tossed out left to fend for themselves."


Not saying it's ideal, but why wait that long anyway?

Loretta West TTC#2 TTC since May 2013; 1 child; Auckland, New Zealand 4606 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting Ravey Candyass:" have you never seen Didn't know I was pregnant?<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" ... [snip!] ... have you never seen Didn't know I was pregnant?these women go an entire pregnancy without knoing"


Lol no I haven't seen it, but that's still ridiculously rare.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112395 posts
status 24th Feb '13
Quoting Lucas'Mama:" Not saying it's ideal, but why wait that long anyway?"


Because a lot of people dont find out until that far along. Its not as uncommon as you think.

BabyMamax5 Due August 30; 52 kids; Potsdam, New York 804 posts
24th Feb '13
Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" There is not shortage of homes for healthy newborns, however a major issue arises when people decide ... [snip!] ... doing drugs or smoking while pregnant. Which may cause a child to be born with disabilities and less likely to be adopted out. "

That's why I think pro choice is so important, some women just can't do it.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26; 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
24th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BabyMamax5:</b>" They clipped his heels and inner thigh muscles but it didn't work, they want to do it again and this ... [snip!] ... again and this time do behind his knees. and if THAT doesn't work they want to break his hips and plate and pin them. He's 5!!"</blockquote>




I'm so sorry.
If you abort what are the chances your next child will have the same defect?



It's up to you in the end.



If the likeliness if it occurring again is slim and you can try again then I would. :(

The Time Police TTC since Apr 2014; 1 angel baby; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33340 posts
status 24th Feb '13
Quoting BabyMamax5:" They clipped his heels and inner thigh muscles but it didn't work, they want to do it again and this ... [snip!] ... again and this time do behind his knees. and if THAT doesn't work they want to break his hips and plate and pin them. He's 5!!"


Oh my gosh, poor baby :(