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Mean kids. Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
25th Feb '13

My son just started his first year at "big school" on the 4th of Feb.



The first week he was off sick for 3 days with vomiting and diahrrea which sucked because I was really worried because that's such an important time for making friends etc. even at that young age.



Today is the start of week 4 & when I picked him up we had this conversation.



Him: I don't have any friends.
Me: Why not?
Him: Because nobody wants to my friend.
Me: Why do you think that?
Him: Because nobody even likes me.
Me: Who said they don't like you?
Him: Nobody, they just don't like me because I'm awful.
Me: Who said that you were awful?
Him: Nobody. Lets just not talk about.



Then he clammed up and he just kept saying nobody when I tried to ask him who said nasty things to him. :(



He's only 5. I know he's not the perfect angel, at home he doesn't listen and he is your typical rowdy boy but he's such a crowd pleaser. Like he loves all kids and he always tries so hard to be nice to every kid and talk to every kid and make sure no one is left out, when we go to park or pools or beaches etc. & most kids are just it so brutal and snotty or just plain ignorant. It breaks my heart.



I don't know, what should I do? I thought maybe ask his teacher if she's noticed a problem in class... Or would that just make me that "overbearing, overprotective parent." I know it's only 4 weeks in but I don't want any problem to get bigger. He's too young to be made to feel excluded. :(

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49290 posts
25th Feb '13

He may just be uncomfortable still. Offer to volunteer in his class and just watch from the sidelines and see how things go.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
25th Feb '13

I would try to talk to him again and give him some ideas on talking to the other kids and mention it to the teacher see if she has any feedback or see if can keep an extra eye on things.

lynnsaymarie Due July 2; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Western, NY, United States 3681 posts
25th Feb '13

I'd talk with his teacher. Maybe even preface the conversation with "I don't wanna sound like an overbearing mom but...". Hope things are figured out.

~mama~ 4 kids; Susanville, CA, United States 1556 posts
25th Feb '13

I'm worried about this happening to my son too, he always tries to be so nice but some kids I just want to throw they are so mean.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
25th Feb '13

I would nonchalantly ask his teacher if she's noticed any issues. It could be that this is still a new thing, but someone is obviously making him feel excluded. Hope you can get it figured out.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
25th Feb '13

I'd just ask the teacher to see if she noticed anything... A lot of teachers may not have noticed anything yet but will keep and eye out for students they think they'll get along with and sit them together or set them up to play together during recess, etc.



Hope things get better! Best of luck!

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 75143 posts
status 25th Feb '13

I would def ask his teacher..I thought the same when my oldest started school (also on the 4th of feb) even though the kindy teachers always told me she was an easy kid to make friends, but ya never know when older kids are around...



It wouldn't hurt to ask though, this makes me sad to hear :( some kids are just awful.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~mama~:</b>" I'm worried about this happening to my son too, he always tries to be so nice but some kids I just want to throw they are so mean. "</blockquote>




Haha I know kids just learn that snobby snotty behaviour from the adults in their life but it still makes me think kids are assholes.



Have you seen "This is 40?" It's so funny. The part where this kid rates her daughter as "not hot" on Facebook & the mum and dad are looking at it & the mums like "I'll kill that little f*ckhead!"

user banned ; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Japan 930 posts
25th Feb '13

That's sad. I have a feeling my daughter will be the mean girl, not because of how I raise her but because she is 2 months old and is already capable of giving dirty looks lol. She just has such attitude in her facial expressions. However if I catch her bullying others she will definitely be lectured.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bia.:</b>" I would def ask his teacher..I thought the same when my oldest started school (also on the 4th of feb) ... [snip!] ... know when older kids are around... It wouldn't hurt to ask though, this makes me sad to hear :( some kids are just awful."</blockquote>




Makes me sad, too. I had to hold back from bursting into tears when he said "they just don't like me because I'm awful." Maybe a lot to do with my pregnancy hormones but I just don't ever want him to feel like that. I know it's inevitable, at some stage, we all learn what life is really like... I remember what being bullied at school was like & just to know my kids are going to go through that, it hurts even worse. He's just such a soft natured, sensitive kid... He's always been like that.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
25th Feb '13

My dd will be out for the summer by may and has no friends in school.when I ask her why she says because they hurt her and steal. I'm not suprised we live in a bad neighborhood.

~mama~ 4 kids; Susanville, CA, United States 1556 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~mama~:</b>" I'm worried about this happening to my son too, ... [snip!] ... her daughter as "not hot" on Facebook & the mum and dad are looking at it & the mums like "I'll kill that little f*ckhead!""


I haven't seen that I'll have to find it lol

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
25th Feb '13

Honestly, why are you jumping to assume someones being mean? It just sounds like hes insecure because its his first time and he doesn't know how to interact in that environment. I'd try to build his confidence and reassure him hes awesome. Id also ask his teacher in what areas hes socially having issues in since he feels unwanted.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bia.:</b>" I would def ask his teacher..I thought the same when ... [snip!] ... are going to go through that, it hurts even worse. He's just such a soft natured, sensitive kid... He's always been like that."


I would've been fighting back tears too and I'm not pregnant so more power to you for not actually crying!