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    • Yes, I'd be pissed! -- Votes: 11
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    • I wouldn't really be mad but it'd irk me a bit -- Votes: 18
Would you be mad? Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
25th Feb '13

DH went over to one of our friends houses last night since they were hosting an event for his old fraternity for the end of pledging... our friend who was hosting's wife (who I am friends with) pulled him aside and said she was worried about him... he asked why and she said she was worried about him and I and thought we were headed for divorce because I am so young (22, DH is 29) and because we got married when we were pregnant... DH got really defensive and said 1st I don't think my marriage is any of your business 2nd she and I were already planning our wedding and we were TTC since we weren't sure how long it'd take and he popped up sooner than expected 3rd we have a wonderful marriage and neither of us believe divorce is an option in our relationship and will always try and work out any arguments before just giving up (mind you she has been married 5 times, has 4 kids all with different fathers (besides the twins) and the son she supposedly has with her current husband isn't his and they got married after "their" son was born (regardless of all her past I still think that her and her current husband could totally work out forever if that's what they both want but they're definitely a much higher risk marriage if you ask me)



DH has been really pissed about it all day... we invited both of them to his 30th next month and now he wants to uninvite them and cut them from DS's baptism invite list... I mean I get that it's none of her business and it's completely rude for her to say anything especially out of the blue like that... but I just chalk it up to her probably drinking too much and deflecting her own marital problems on us... but I was wondering... Would you be mad?

BunnyGirl19 4 kids; 10 angel babies; Oregon 16920 posts
25th Feb '13

Holy run-on sentence. That was painful to read! capitalization and punctuation are our friends!



No, I wouldn't be mad, just think she was being immature and obnoxious.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting BunnyGirl19:" Holy run-on sentence. That was painful to read! capitalization and punctuation are our friends! No, I wouldn't be mad, just think she was being immature and obnoxious."


Sorry I'm typing one handed and nursing.. lol

RonniG Due July 19; 1 child; Plentywood, Montana 2036 posts
25th Feb '13

Ever said something and then thought, "Oh shit, I totally just put my foot in my mouth." Maybe she had one of those moments. If you don't hear anything more about it then I don't think it's worth ending your friendship over.

Martha Marshall 1 child; Whittier, California 1035 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting RonniG:" Ever said something and then thought, "Oh shit, I totally just put my foot in my mouth." Maybe she had ... [snip!] ... had one of those moments. If you don't hear anything more about it then I don't think it's worth ending your friendship over."


Yea I wasn't planning on it... but DH is pissed... I think its partially cuz he already hates her and just gets along with her for her husband (his fraternity brother and one of his really close friends) and partially cuz he's just sick of her always butting into everyone else's business

xluucyx Due August 20 (boy); Maidenhead, United Kingdom 36 posts
25th Feb '13

Quite often people who have a lot of their own drama on look for it in other people, I guess it makes them feel better, or maybe it's just because she's used to marriages ending in divorce, so for her it's a less serious thing than it is for you guys, if that makes sense?
She just said something stupid, just forget about it especially if she'd been drinking.



I wouldn't be too bothered, unless she bought it up again and again on different occaisions, but if she's your friend then I suppose it kind of is her business (not that you have to tell her anything, but it makes sense for her to worry about you if she thinks there's something wrong, it's what friends do) people's opinions often suck, but you can always ignore them.

Lin Brown 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1804 posts
25th Feb '13

The first couple weeks I was married my best friend kept bringing up how expensive divorce was and kept asking if I was truly happy or if I just settled because her uncle was "worried" I got married just for shits and giggles. Yes it bugged the shit out of me and my husband, but no I didn't end the friendship over it. People have their own opinions and most the time you just need to let it go in one ear and out the other.