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    • keep the stuff and let him ruin it -- Votes: 9
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Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" What am I hiding or lying about? My daughter is 16 years old, she knows exactly who and what my ex is. Not once has she ever questioned my love for her."


that hes a dick and doesnt try.



like dont you feel she deserved to know the truth not just your dad is busy or whatever?

Daniee Due December 25; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Lynnwood, Washington 3211 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" hes a bastard who does ntohign he doesnt deserve love or respect so my son will know his bastard ways ... [snip!] ... to look good. ill take being a bitter b***h he did it. he can pay for it. sad my son has a bastard like his dad a s a father"</blockquote>



Omg!
You are going to talk down his father to him?
You know what my father wasn't around because he chose drugs over me and he treated my mom like shit. But you know what my mom told me yeah your dads in jail for drugs but he loves you and she told me the truth but never talked down on him.
Because what was important what that my father loved me. You should never talk down the other parent just because you don't like them.
You are a pathetic person, your son will resent you.
You can be honest without hurting the child because that is all that up will end up doing.

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
25th Feb '13

thanks for your help. ladies i might sound insane but it takes knowing thewhole story to be able to judge that. to each his own. thanks for the advice to those who trully helped.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" its not what he needed f**k spend 100.00 on cloths that make a diff in his wardrobe thats like nothing ... [snip!] ... scraps. mae it cler needs cloths dont come back w less than a weeks worth since all hes bought him is 2 shirts since 2011"


Technically and legally, he doesn't need to buy him anything.



If you want money and control over how to spend that money, file for child support.

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Honey & Toto:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" hes a bastard who does ntohign he doesnt ... [snip!] ... person, your son will resent you. You can be honest without hurting the child because that is all that up will end up doing."

i never said id talk down but i wont lie and say hes working or hes busy when he just plain doesnt want to come oris out partying if he loved his son he would be there. not once has he helped while sick. not once has he brought him meds or soup. not once has he bought him diapers even who is he to say he loves him he loves himself and his work nothing more.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" that hes a dick and doesnt try. like dont you feel she deserved to know the truth not just your dad is busy or whatever?"


That is called Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS.



The courts really, really frown upon one parent degrading the other parent to the child(ren).



There have been cases where people have lost custody over it.



Also, I never said I lied to her about him. I just don't volunteer information. If he says he is coming and doesn't show up, I just tell her that if she wants to know what happened that she has to call him.

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59277 posts
status 25th Feb '13
Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" thanks for your help. ladies i might sound insane but it takes knowing thewhole story to be able to judge that. to each his own. thanks for the advice to those who trully helped."


Yes, to each his own... but it doesn't take knowing the whole story to know that you shouldn't be trying to get your child to hate the other parent.



I understand not having the other parent there, or do anything financially. That doesn't mean you have to hurt your child (and eventually YOUR relationship with your child) because of the resentment and hate you have for the other parent.

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Technically and legally, he doesn't need to buy him anything. If you want money and control over how to spend that money, file for child support."


this is his responsibilty he either buys it or gives half the money he picked to take him shopping way to go fucktard fucked it up as always.



we are fighting child suport he makes 100k yr and pays me 150 a th refuses to disclose imcome bc he doesnt feel like he needs more money to live.

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" That is called Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS. The courts really, really frown upon one parent ... [snip!] ... If he says he is coming and doesn't show up, I just tell her that if she wants to know what happened that she has to call him."

but see my son wont get the truth and thats why it kills me be honest admit work is more important and leave us alone, dont come and go as you please when you feel the need

Queen Aries Baby 1 child; Orlando, Florida 12052 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting The Doctor:" Yes, to each his own... but it doesn't take knowing the whole story to know that you shouldn't be trying ... [snip!] ... your child (and eventually YOUR relationship with your child) because of the resentment and hate you have for the other parent."


very true hard but true.

JΔS Georgia 72581 posts
status 25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" that hes a dick and doesnt try. like dont you feel she deserved to know the truth not just your dad is busy or whatever?"</blockquote>



My dad was a drug addict and I didn't find out until I was 19. By that time, he had already began to clean himself up. So no, it's not always better that they know the truth. My dad was in and out my life but my mother never bad talked him around me.



Try not to put any negative thoughts about him in your son's head. Let him be the judge of his father.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" i never said id talk down but i wont lie and say hes working or hes busy when he just plain doesnt want ... [snip!] ... meds or soup. not once has he bought him diapers even who is he to say he loves him he loves himself and his work nothing more."</blockquote>




So when his dad isn't there, you tell your son that its because he doesn't love him. Wow, you are a piece of work, do you realize how damaging that is?? You never tell him his dad loves him?? You want him to grow up hating his father, because you do, and you want him to believe his father doesn't love him.



Right, THAT sounds like what's best for the child.
You seriously need some counciling before you do permanent damage to your child.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Queen Aries Baby:" but see my son wont get the truth and thats why it kills me be honest admit work is more important and leave us alone, dont come and go as you please when you feel the need"


You keep saying US. There is no US when you aren't in a relationship.



It's HIS SON, not YOU. He owes YOU nothing.

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
25th Feb '13

I think you're still hung up on you're relationship and how it ended. I don't think you're going to get anywhere until you get over it and him being with that woman. You just need to stop and respect him and vice versa. Let the court system handle it and let it go.

JΔS Georgia 72581 posts
status 25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Queen Aries Baby:</b>" i never said id talk down but i wont lie and say hes working or hes busy when he just plain doesnt want ... [snip!] ... meds or soup. not once has he bought him diapers even who is he to say he loves him he loves himself and his work nothing more."</blockquote>



You're going to damage your son. I grew up thinking that my dad didn't love me and I came to that conclusion myself. I grew up insecure as hell. Jaded as hell. It took me awhile to get past that. I can't imagine how I would have felt if my own mother told me that my dad didn't love me.