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P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting saageex3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" My 2 year old will sleep on her own. She puts ... [snip!] ... bed to myself. One day she'll not want me as much so why rush her into thinking I want her to be by herself if she's not ready"

I know right?!?! I get sad when Audrianna tells me no to cuddling! lol

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jenna+1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" SHE IS A BABY FFS! If you don't soothe her ... [snip!] ... to make their babies grow up and then miss it when it's gone :/. OP read a few books on different sleeping training methods!"</blockquote>




I'm with you. I co sleep, and even if I have something to do I always lay down with my 22 mo old DS until he falls asleep then sneak out of bed til I'm ready for sleep lol.



I think OP feels that all babies should be falling asleep on their own at this age. And maybe she's getting bad advice from her family or friends regarding this. If only she knew that kids of moms cuddle their toddlers to sleep. And enjoy it!!! I'm in no rush for DS to not need me!!:'(

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" Cylus still at 4 wakes up once a night for ... [snip!] ... of some sort. Even if he got up though I'd be ok, sometimes I go in and pick him up in the middle of the night to rock him."


AWwwwwwww that is so sweet!!! Thank you! :) I think they both fit their names well. Audrianna is hell on wheels when she is on albuterol and the last time she was only sleeping 1/2 an hour here or there because we were in the hospital so it was miserable but that is the only time she will cuddle with me.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" I know right?!?! I get sad when Audrianna tells me no to cuddling! lol"</blockquote>




Shit if Sophia told me no I'd hold her down like "YES THIS IS FOR MOMMY NOT SOPHIA" lol thankfully she doesn't talk much so I won't be told no any time soon. She actually comes to me about 10 times a day just to be picked up so she can lay on me :)

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting -Mama Jo-:" WOW... just to clarify, my husband DID go in every 10 - 15 min to check on her AND soothe her. No way ... [snip!] ... trying to get more guidance on the method itself so please understand I am taking care of my daughter in the best way we can."


Just to clarify, my response wasn't rude or judgmental in the slightest. I gave you my honest opinion and explained that if you insist on using CIO, then here's how to do it properly. HOWEVER, CIO is not for everyone and does not always work. And she's only 6 months old. She still needs her mommy. Why is that such a bad thing to want her mommy to comfort her?

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" I know right?!?! I get sad when Audrianna ... [snip!] ... so I won't be told no any time soon. She actually comes to me about 10 times a day just to be picked up so she can lay on me :)"</blockquote>




Not only that buy we're pretty sure se has sleep apnea. We scheduled an appointment and she makes herself throw up and pass out from holding her breath if she gets upset or mad enough lol she's a little problem child but she's happy when she's around me so I won't force her to go away

Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom 2 kids; Raleigh, North Carolina 14528 posts
25th Feb '13

I did CIO with my boys, but when they were ready.



Jack was 1 and Basil was 10.5 months.



They fussed for 5 minutes and fell asleep.



Basil sleeps through the night, but Jack wakes up sometimes and crawls into our bed.



I miss.cosleeping with them :(

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -Mama Jo-:</b>" WOW... just to clarify, my husband DID go in every 10 - 15 min to check on her AND soothe her. No way ... [snip!] ... trying to get more guidance on the method itself so please understand I am taking care of my daughter in the best way we can."</blockquote>




Why are you wanting to use this method though? The reason we are getting so fired up is because this method is harmful to your baby. Not only is the stress hormone, cortisol, that she releases during these crying fits detrimental to her brain, you are also hurting the trust bond between parent and child. In her little mind, you used to be there for everything she needs, then suddenly you just up and disappear and watch her cry for hours. Even if your husband soothes her, that's not the same as stopping the reason she is crying. Kwim ? Please educate yourself on the harmful effects of cry it out. For your baby's sake. And yours, I hope you don't like hearing her cry :/



Try reading "The No Cry Sleep Solution" I haven't read it, but I've heard awesome things about it from patents who don't want to co sleep but want a gentle way to put their babies to sleep in a crib.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
25th Feb '13

OP I would try a slow transfer if its what you want. Remember baby is still little and looks for love and affection. 6 months may seem old enough to handle it but its really not. Maybe try shorter periods. Once LO is fed, changed and comfortable try Laying her in a crib with a bottle/ paci. First I would stay in there with her so she knows that you're not leaving. If she gets up just lay her back down and re give the paci bottle. Eventually she'll realize it's time for sleep but at least mommy is still there. Every day slowly move farther and farther from her crib. Eventually she will fall asleep thinking you spend the night eve if you don't. This worked great for my sister and she didn't feel like she was abandoning her son. Now he sleeps all night by himself. There are better ways to do things without CIO. You're baby may cry while you're trying to lay them back down but having you still there is very comforting for them.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
25th Feb '13

I don't really understand why, in instances like this where the OP KNOWS there is a problem and is asking for help and is saying, in other words, "I don't think I'm doing it right" and is essentially hoping to draw from the experiences of those that have been there before her..... people jump all over the person and try to make them feel like a bad parent. I know I'm going to get shit for saying this, but 'common sense' in parenting doesn't come naturally to everyone and, really, we have NO idea IF this kid is crying for 'normal' baby reasons.



My daughter would, honest to goodness, cry for hours on end regardless of what we would do to try to soothe her and after calls to the pedi/office visits, the only thing left to do would be to put her down to sleep and EVENTUALLY she'd fall asleep. But not after continuing to cry. For no reason. In the beginning it was found that she had a insufficient esophageal sphincter that caused reflux, but after we addressed that, the crying would continue a few weeks later.



No one found a cause-- the girl just cried for the sake of crying. She was healthy in every other way except that occasionally she'd cry for hours on end.



If I had posted that I needed help in the early days, and was told "for f**k sakes it's a baby, they ALWAYS have a legit reason to cry" or some variation thereof, it would make me feel worse than I did before I went to seek help in an internet forum as a last resort and I would be less inclined to ask for help later.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Pretender:</b>" I don't really understand why, in instances like this where the OP KNOWS there is a problem and is asking ... [snip!] ... I did before I went to seek help in an internet forum as a last resort and I would be less inclined to ask for help later. "</blockquote>




It's a public forum. Whatever you post you will get negative and positive answers. That's LIFE

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Pretender:</b>" I don't really understand why, in instances like this where the OP KNOWS there is a problem and is asking ... [snip!] ... I did before I went to seek help in an internet forum as a last resort and I would be less inclined to ask for help later. "</blockquote>




Her baby cries when left alone in the crib to fall asleep. OP said so. There's no mystery reason as to why her baby is crying. She even said she stopped when her husband soothes her.



I'm sorry about the issues you had with your daughter, but they don't really relate to this situation at all.



And IMO, babies don't just cry for no reason. How much sense does that make? That a tiny being whose entire efforts go into growing, would spend energy crying for no reason at all?? I'm sorry but that's what parents and doctors say when they can't figure out what is wrong, in order to absolve themselves from the guilt if not being able to help the baby.

P3RvYmCp3rv 2 kids; Carlyle, Illinois 11904 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting The Pretender:" I don't really understand why, in instances like this where the OP KNOWS there is a problem and is asking ... [snip!] ... I did before I went to seek help in an internet forum as a last resort and I would be less inclined to ask for help later. "

but her child is crying because it wants cuddled and loved on. Not just to go from co-sleeping on a couch to thrown itno a cold crib all by its self.

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 573 posts
25th Feb '13

wow 2 hours is way to long..we were told by our doc for the cry it out also but the dr said start slow first its 5 mins,then its 10 mins,and so on...we did this to both of our kids my daughter is 5 now and has no problems going to bed at 8pm and our son is 13 months and the same thing...but we also didnt let them cry for more then 20 mins after that it was out for maybe 20 mins then back to bed..

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
25th Feb '13

I get that this is a "public forum" and all that jazz about accepting negative and positive criticism and all that jazz... blah blah blah.



It's super easy to be cold/mean/negative to people that seemingly don't have a clue about something that comes so easy to you/others...



...but it says a lot more about you when you can see that this is someone that doesn't "get it" and try to encourage her in a positive way to do things in a better way.



Know what I mean? It's like a "more flies with honey" sorta deal.



If I were OP, I'd be more willing to listen and take advice from someone who I don't feel is attacking me than someone who jumps right out and makes me feel like a moron right away.



That's all I mean.