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snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
25th Feb '13

hugs, have you talked to a counselor? that might help. you can't change the past mama, just keep moving forward making every tomorrow what want it be

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
25th Feb '13

You should def get some grief counseling for the guilt and loss you feel. when you think about the baby think of your reasons for why you did it. You def don't wanna carry around guilt/sadness when it affects your baby while your pregnant and when he/she is born. Good luck to you :)

.Enigma. clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106969 posts
status 25th Feb '13
Quoting Loka Lokita (GONE):" Well, I'm at nearly 20 weeks now with what should be considered #4. I don't feel like writing the whole ... [snip!] ... nothing I can do, but I really feel guilty for having this baby and I really miss my angel baby. I wish it would have worked."


Idk your specific circumstances, but I think almost all women who have had to terminate and gone on to have a full pregnancy feel the same.

let yourself grieve, I am sure you made the best decision for that situation.

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" Idk your specific circumstances, but I think almost all women who have had to terminate and gone on ... [snip!] ... on to have a full pregnancy feel the same. let yourself grieve, I am sure you made the best decision for that situation."

I was raped.

desert☮rain 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 7674 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting Loka Lokita (GONE):" Well, I'm at nearly 20 weeks now with what should be considered #4. I don't feel like writing the whole ... [snip!] ... nothing I can do, but I really feel guilty for having this baby and I really miss my angel baby. I wish it would have worked."

I thought you were logging out and never coming back?

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting desert☮rain:" I thought you were logging out and never coming back?"


Is this really the time and place for that? Bye.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
25th Feb '13
Quoting desert☮rain:" I thought you were logging out and never coming back?"


this is not place, if you don't something supportive add,gtfo

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7357 posts
status 25th Feb '13

I would try to get some grief counseling or try to find someone that specializes in dealing with rape victims.

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
25th Feb '13

I agree you should get into some therapy, especially under the circumstances of how you got pregnant. Sound like you have alot to work through. Good luck and I hope things get easier for you soon.

Zeke's Mama Due September 26 (girl); 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5807 posts
25th Feb '13

I'm sorry mama. I would seek some sort of counseling for your grief. I haven't been through this but a friend has and getting help and just talking with a counselor helped her out tremendously.

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
25th Feb '13

Hugs to you, try seeking therapy. That might help.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
25th Feb '13

i would have aborted also if i was raped. you did nothing wrong and you deserve the baby now conceived in love.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
25th Feb '13

Hugs. I went through the same feelings when i had my daughter. I have a good listening ear if u want to pm me. My process of healing was hard and it is 4 years ago now and still raw for me but i see it better now if u want tips on healing as far as what helped me pm me

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
25th Feb '13

I had not seen previous posts before posting. I am so sorry to hear what happened and i hope you all the joy in ur pregnancy. Also my circumstance may ha e been different but you may still talk to me if you wish