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Issues with post abortion feelings and relationships? Jessicalane19 Due October 1; Japan 12 posts
25th Feb '13

Well a year ago I was in a relationship I was perfectly happy in. I thought that I was going to marry him and sometimes I think that maybe like that I still love him. Yet it's like I can't get over it. He says he doesn't want kids until he's I'm his thirties but I don't want to wait that long. And I can't get past the fact that I chose him over having kids. I resent him and every small thing seems to be so much more nowadays. He never understand all I've done for him and that its not that easy to just forget that I would have a 2 month old right now if things were different if he were different. He wants it to be how things were before but idk it's impossible I love him but I hate him too I just can't make up my mind I can't just get over we can't be perfect its perfectly broken. I don't really know how does one continue a healthy relationship with someone who basically pressured you into an abortion you didn't want? Isn't it impossible?

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13675 posts
status 25th Feb '13

You should try to get into some therapy to help you sort these feelings out and if I was in your shoes I would take a break from the relationship just to see if maybe being separated from this man would be best for you.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
26th Feb '13

Therapy may help you to stop projecting the anger you feel over your decision onto him.....I am sorry that u are having such a hard time dealing w/this issue but you are the only one that can change your own mindset....whether it is about having children sooner rather than later ,establishing a ''healthy'' relationship with your SO , OR getting a new SO.
You cannot continue in a relationship that you cant agree on such important decisions as when or if to start a family.
Find a good therapist that will help you come to terms & realize what is affecting you so much that you could be persuaded to terminate when you didnt want to or if its just regret after the fact that has you riddled w/''what ifs''

Jessicalane19 Due October 1; Japan 12 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 6 blessings so far....:</b>" Therapy may help you to stop projecting the anger you feel over your decision onto him.....I am sorry ... [snip!] ... could be persuaded to terminate when you didnt want to or if its just regret after the fact that has you riddled w/''what ifs''"</blockquote>




I was 9 weeks I had made my mind up before I just went into deep depression when he left. I hate that I wasn't strong enough and I hate him for taking me to that point.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Jessicalane19:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 6 blessings so far....:</b>" Therapy may help you to stop projecting ... [snip!] ... I just went into deep depression when he left. I hate that I wasn't strong enough and I hate him for taking me to that point."


Please look into to some post abortion counseling. If you dont have insurance coverage for therapy there are alot of free programs available , u may need to search a bit to find one.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Jessicalane19:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 6 blessings so far....:</b>" Therapy may help you to stop projecting ... [snip!] ... I just went into deep depression when he left. I hate that I wasn't strong enough and I hate him for taking me to that point."


Please look into to some post abortion counseling. If you dont have insurance coverage for therapy there are alot of free programs available , u may need to search a bit to find one.