<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I think it's a personal choice for each family. I wrestled with the "lying" aspect of it too :oops: ... [snip!] ... them believe. There is no magic in the world when you grow up, may as well let have the little bit you can as a kid, imo"</blockquote>
So true I totally agree we are only a child once so mind as well let them believe and be a child.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo™:</b>" What exactly did his parents do wrong? Teaching him to believe in God? Or telling him Santa isn't real? ... [snip!] ... can clearly do more harm than good. There are many many other ways to stimulate a childs imagination instead of lying to them."</blockquote>
Santa and God are two different thing. I dont know what Santa has to do with him not believing in God. Like I said obviously his parents were teaching him the wrong meaning. No one should shove nothing in nobodys throat not even religion.
<blockquote><b>Quoting ♛Queen Boo♛:</b>" We sure so believe in Santa in this house :) Christmas was made so magical for me and i'll be making ... [snip!] ... when she thought Santa had thrown a toy down the chimney on xmas eve was priceless. My heart just melted at her reaction :) "</blockquote>
Ikr I agree. I too havent heard of people being mad at their parents. I am glad I grew up beliving in santa as a child.
<blockquote><b>Quoting tay. ☮ 34wks!:</b>" I love holiday traditions like Santa and the Easter Bunny. I love the excitement in kids eyes when they ... [snip!] ... about stuff like that. So yes, my kids will believe in all of the ''fictional'' characters until they figure out otherwise."</blockquote>
Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting tay. ☮ 34wks!:</b>" I love holiday traditions like Santa ... [snip!] ... my kids will believe in all of the ''fictional'' characters until they figure out otherwise."</blockquote> Same here!"
i couldnt imagine taking the excitement out of all the holiday movies he watches.. like oh nope its all fake santa doesnt exist and these movies are all filled with lies
Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kr.r:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Lol is not a big deal and of course you dont let santa take all the credit. Why is it so bad having them believe?"
I never said it was bad to believe in Santa. I'm just not okay with telling my son the guy is real when he isn't. It's the lying to him part that I feel is bad.
I'm not going to tell the kid he can't believe in Santa if that's what he wants; I would never want to try and control his beliefs/imagination. Like I said, I just couldn't be the one to lie to him.
<blockquote><b>Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo™:</b>" What exactly did his parents do wrong? ... [snip!] ... obviously his parents were teaching him the wrong meaning. No one should shove nothing in nobodys throat not even religion."</blockquote>
Still dont understand what you think his parents did wrong. They raised him to beleive in God as well as Santa, and when he learned there was no Santa he felt lied to and betrayed(as did i) and both Santa and God rely on faith to believe in them, so he decided God must be a lie as well. Every child can respond differently when finding out they were lied to, and they can respond differently to not being taught to believe in Santa at all. Theres no telling either way, so we prefer to be truthful with them. To each their own.
I have to be very firm with my son about what's real and what's not. He's SN and his sense of reality can get warped to the point he'll get upset. So no, we don't "do" Santa. I'm firm with Will that he's imaginary and that it's fun to pretend but he's just that: IMAGINARY.
Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♛Queen Boo♛:</b>" We sure so believe in Santa in ... [snip!] ... Ikr I agree. I too havent heard of people being mad at their parents. I am glad I grew up beliving in santa as a child."
If anything i'm thankful. It was so exciting believing in Santa, so much fun. I guess those who grow up not believing don't know any different. I am just glad I grew up believing! My mum really went to town with it, and so do I :D
My eldest is 11 this year and no longer believes but he's never been mad, he just go along with it now for his little sister (so cute) as he knows how much fun it is, hehe :)
<blockquote><b>Quoting ♛Queen Boo♛:</b>" I personally don't know anyone who was mad. I'm sure there are people but I think on the whole, most people are glad as it mas xmas special :)"</blockquote>
Perhaps. I know that the biggest thing that upsetted me about it was that i felt like a total fool because then i realized i was the only one around me that was tricked, everyone else alrEady knew it was a big joke and i felt like i was made to look like an idiot. And DH obviously took it more seriously than most would, i understand that. And we still strive to make it special, just not by lying. DH and i both felt betrayed by our parents. We just want to be honest with ours.
Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" Yes we do. I love her imagination when ... [snip!] ... too and makes me remember when I was a child. So many beautiful memories. Is fun to dream and let your imagination wonder."
Haha me too! It's amazing to help them with their imaginations, we have such fun. When we go for walks in the woods for example we look for Tinkerbells house's in the tree's :) And I pretend they're in the woods and we go look for them :) I will pretend they have just flew by and she loves it :)
It's so true, we're only kids once and I intend to make it as magical as possible. I feel no guilt for lying about these things. My childhood has very special memories because of these lies :) Would not change a thing.
Quoting ♛Queen Boo♛:" I think it can depend on the circumstances. I know it's a lie but for mw it's a lie worth telling. I ... [snip!] ... it was a special moment for us :) But i'm sure it's special for those who are brought up to not believe, just in other ways. "
Yeah feel that, lol