My husband has been away for a month he gets to come home for less than a week and then he is off again for another month . What can I do that would be inexpensive. But Have a sexy night to spice things up with? I already bought some shoes and underwear? But I dont know the first thing about being romantic or sexy XP
When I want to spice things up with SO- I always get new sexy things to wear and I either do this favorite thing that we don't do very often (for us, it's 69'ing because I feel fat and awkward but he loves it lol) or add a little flare to stuff we already do (like r*****e c*****l because while I love it on top, but it adds a little change to things).
just feel awkward initiating it XP
Im not a sexy person in the least bit. Im klutzy and goofy.I really want to try and be romantic but i always start to giggle when im ever in a romantic situation I am very much miss congenality.
But I also feel retarted becuse when he is home its so routine that I before we actually do it I want him to "need" it. and have no point in getting someone to that point.
Im just posting on here becuse Google is failing me =/
I always feel awkward also, I usually "prepare" myself for trying to get the balls to actually do it. I usually take a bath or shower and put some make up on to make myself feel beautiful. Then I put on whatever it is I'm going to be wearing, and just walk around or do something around the house like I'm not in anything special. I usually like to clean because it kind of sets that... I don't know how to explain it but puts an edge to something he see's everyday. On days when I'm feeling super adventurous I'll put on some music and light some candles and ask him for help with something in the room (moving something, picking up, whatever) and I'll like slow dance (it's okay if you feel like a retard, I always do but he doesn't care because he loves that I'm doing it for him).
I ALWAYS end up giggling or laughing at some point, and SO says that's his favorite part because it's more who I am, if that makes sense. Usually if you just put it on, and let him see you in it, it'll be more than enough. Or even wait til kids are in bed, and then get dressed, and wait until he's watching TV or something and come out dressed and sit on his lap and start kissing him. But don't let him touch you.
One of the things that drives SO crazy is when I'll kiss him everywhere but his lips because he wants to kiss me. Or get his pants off and literally touch him everywhere but there, it'll drive him nuts (in a good way) lol I tried something totally new for me the other day, I kept really low light in our room and looked at him while I was going down on him (I felt so STUPID but he friggin' loved it! And yes, I giggled LOL)
Thank you ^^ That helped a lot. =D Lol his return home got postponed. But it makes me feel better. so thak you for the advice