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*********done*********** J WOWW Due October 30; 34 kids; New York, New York 3836 posts
26th Feb '13

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Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57579 posts
26th Feb '13

It's your decision and not theirs, that's the long and short of it.



But you can't expect them to be supportive if they don't agree with your decision, either. That's their perrogative.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57579 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting The Doctor:" It's your decision and not theirs, that's the long and short of it. But you can't expect them to be supportive if they don't agree with your decision, either. That's their perrogative."


ETA: They probably think that you should grow up BEFORE adding another child to the mix, but that's JMO.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
26th Feb '13

It's your body, your life and your choice! Don't let anyone bully you into anything.
If you want this baby and want to "grow the f**k up" then do it.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting The Doctor:" It's your decision and not theirs, that's the long and short of it. But you can't expect them to be supportive if they don't agree with your decision, either. That's their perrogative."


I agree. Good luck!

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9395 posts
26th Feb '13

I think it does matter what the father thinks, it is his life that will be changing too. As well as whoever you are living with or will be looking for support from once the baby is here. And I don't think just because people get pregnant they need to "take responsibility". If you weren't responsible before how does keeping a child right the "wrong"?

Kprofstrz Due April 9; 1 child; Saxton, Pennsylvania 4 posts
26th Feb '13

I went thru the same thing! It is your choice, your body. yes there will be people against it and threaten you in all types of ways ( My son's father threatened to take my life if I continued with the pregnancy) I went with my own instincts and 8 years later have an amazing son. when it comes down to it it is your own choice no one else can make this decision for you. don't let anyone fill your head with nonsense and do what you think is right and what YOU WANT. I wish you the best in everything and hope that it all works out for you [=

J WOWW Due October 30; 34 kids; New York, New York 3836 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kprofstrz:</b>" I went thru the same thing! It is your choice, your body. yes there will be people against it and threaten ... [snip!] ... and do what you think is right and what YOU WANT. I wish you the best in everything and hope that it all works out for you [="</blockquote>




Thanks so much. May I PT you? I'm going to need some new women to talk to during this time.

Kprofstrz Due April 9; 1 child; Saxton, Pennsylvania 4 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting J WOWW:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kprofstrz:</b>" I went thru the same thing! It is your choice, ... [snip!] ... for you [="</blockquote> Thanks so much. May I PT you? I'm going to need some new women to talk to during this time."


Not a problem at all [= sure always willing to lend an ear

Melissa Paner Due March 5; Buffalo, New York 12 posts
26th Feb '13

It's your life, your body. I wouldn't go on what the guy thinks because a man will provide support whether the pregnancy was planned or not. Boys will run and/or chose "abortion" as an option because they don't want the child to inconvenience their lives. It's a child, not a choice. If you can support that child, nurture it, love it, ect to put that childs needs before your own, I could go on, then great, if not there's always adoption. Like it was mentioned before, you make the final decision, and not everyone around you has to like it or agree

Mason&Chloe'sMama Due April 20; 1 child; Kansas 522 posts
26th Feb '13

Do what makes your heart happy. You don't want to make a decision that you will regret later on. :) Congratulations!

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9395 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa Paner:</b>" It's your life, your body. I wouldn't go on what the guy thinks because a man will provide support whether ... [snip!] ... always adoption. Like it was mentioned before, you make the final decision, and not everyone around you has to like it or agree"</blockquote>




Jesus Christ that is the most ignorant thing I have read all day.
Maybe these "unsupportive" people just have half a brain and would like OP to use hers.. Call me crazy, but if your living children aren't even under your care then how is it fair to have yet another child, none the less another one born into a broken home.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting GL♣PK:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa Paner:</b>" It's your life, your body. I wouldn't go ... [snip!] ... aren't even under your care then how is it fair to have yet another child, none the less another one born into a broken home."


That is what I was thinking. I was like how can she have another one without her own kids being in the picture fulltime. How are the kids that arent with her going to think about this? Are they going to hate her for this?

Karen L.S. TTC since Aug 2013; 5 kids; Texas 283 posts
26th Feb '13

Maybe her kids are with her ex due to better schools, conflicting work / daycare issues or maybe the kids just wanted to live with dad. Just because a mom doesn't live with her kids doesn't mean she isn't a good mom. If that was true that could be said about dad's that don't get custody of their kids.

Mason&Chloe'sMama Due April 20; 1 child; Kansas 522 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Karen L.S.:" Maybe her kids are with her ex due to better schools, conflicting work / daycare issues or maybe the ... [snip!] ... kids doesn't mean she isn't a good mom. If that was true that could be said about dad's that don't get custody of their kids. "


This. And she says she wants to better herself anyway. So give her a chance, especially if she wants to bring another precious life into the world and do her best.