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Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7699 posts
status 26th Feb '13

I'd try taking something away when we got home. Or positive reinforcement. When I had my nephew we had a sticker chart and I would tell him if he was good he'd get a sticker when we got home. If he was bad than he didn't get one. All his stickers added up to him getting pizza. If he filled the whole chart he could get a movie. I don't spank and will not spank. However if you do that's your business and should probably be done at home.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
26th Feb '13

Oh should have known...

Fustercluck Due August 19 (boy); 2 kids; Manitoba 4460 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" I always tell Tanner that the second we walk in the door at home we will lose something (TV, Tablet, ... [snip!] ... starts acting up he gets a yellow. If he continues he gets a red then when I get home I physically remove his TV from his room."


the stickers are a great idea. as for taking things away I do the same for a day, usually dresses.. shes obsessed with wearing dresses lol..

Brittanie Blokker-Brandt Due August 20 (girl); 2 kids; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 324 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Wtf is up with other response? "


just because you discipline one way doesnt mean its wrong for others to choose a different way

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting 15 weeks with #3!:" I just got back from a Dr. appt with my 6 month old, 5 year old and SO's mother. My 5 year old didn't ... [snip!] ... and that she can spend time by herself to think about it. What else could I have done / can I do next time?? Thanks! "


I wouldn't bring her there anymore, she was clearly bored.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Brittanie Blokker-Brandt:" just because you discipline one way doesnt mean its wrong for others to choose a different way"



No.. Im not talking about you. or any of the other responses. lol. Its about something else.

Fustercluck Due August 19 (boy); 2 kids; Manitoba 4460 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Kay Peezy:" My son is only two but he knows what's expected of him in public and what the right way to act is. I ... [snip!] ... and take him to a bathroom where he gets disciplined. Sometimes it happens multiple times but I believe consistency is key."


what do you do to discipline him when in the bathroom? she had it explained to her several times, had things taken away and a time out.. My daughter was perfect at 2 years old.. shes only turned ito a brat in the last rear and a half or so lol..

Fustercluck Due August 19 (boy); 2 kids; Manitoba 4460 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Brittanie Blokker-Brandt:" take things away, whatever is the most precious thing at that moment, its the only thing that partially ... [snip!] ... her how much you appreciate and love when she listens. How special she is when she's good and just go on gushing, they love it!"


im definitely going to do that, thank you!

Fustercluck Due August 19 (boy); 2 kids; Manitoba 4460 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Chim Richalds:" I wouldn't bring her there anymore, she was clearly bored."


to me, thats too bad.. not every situation is going to be ideal for her and she needs to learn to behave, She had a friend to play with and a play gym, I cant imagine it was out of boredom

Fustercluck Due August 19 (boy); 2 kids; Manitoba 4460 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" I'd try taking something away when we got home. Or positive reinforcement. When I had my nephew we had ... [snip!] ... get a movie. I don't spank and will not spank. However if you do that's your business and should probably be done at home."


I used to be completely against spanking.. and Ive only done it a handful of times when im completely at my end.. but nothing seems to really work with her.. usually she's great.. but when shes not.. the corner is only temporary, and she doesnt care a whole lot that things are taken away.. she'll just amuse herself some other way

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7699 posts
status 26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 15 weeks with #3!:</b>" I used to be completely against spanking.. and Ive only done it a handful of times when im completely ... [snip!] ... corner is only temporary, and she doesnt care a whole lot that things are taken away.. she'll just amuse herself some other way"</blockquote>




I didn't ever spank my nephew and he started living with me at 5 months. I was told not to by our case worker. I never wanted to mess up court proceedings or have him placed in foster care. I'm not going to lie and say I never wanted to spank him. But I didn't do it. I found other techniques that worked for us. However if I was going to spank I still wouldn't do it in public. I guess to me then it becomes more of a public humiliation thing rather than a loving correction done by a parent. My nephew was very difficult once he turned 3. We ended up having to remove him sometimes. That was not something I was willing to do constantly though. That's when we started the sticker chart. I tried taking toys before then, but the. He would just work himself up to a tantrum at home. Once he got the hang of the sticker chart that's all he would talk about when we were out. He'd tell everyone he! "I'm being nice to you and quiet so I can have my sticker!"

Fustercluck Due August 19 (boy); 2 kids; Manitoba 4460 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 15 weeks with #3!:</b>" I used to be completely against spanking.. ... [snip!] ... all he would talk about when we were out. He'd tell everyone he! "I'm being nice to you and quiet so I can have my sticker!""


Stickers have lost their appeal with her since its what we used with potty training lol.. I think I might go to the dollar store and get some cheap toys for when she's good! I agree, that I definitely wouldnt spank in public.. I wont do a lot in public actually.. my daughter throws a tantrum when shes given a time out, and not allowed to come out until shes calm.. well I cant really do that when Im in a waiting room.. and I cant remove her from the situation when im waiting to go into the Dr's office lol. That's so adorable though, your nephew telling people hes being nice to them so he can have a sticker lol

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7699 posts
status 26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 15 weeks with #3!:</b>" Stickers have lost their appeal with her since its what we used with potty training lol.. I think I ... [snip!] ... the Dr's office lol. That's so adorable though, your nephew telling people hes being nice to them so he can have a sticker lol"</blockquote>




I had no idea he would tell people ring nice was also part of the deal! If it had been just a sticker I'm sure it wouldn't have worked! He had to earn a whole line then he got pizza or ice cream his choice. And when he filled the whole chart he got to pick out a movie at target. But I'm sure like a reward box with dollar store toys or something like that would have worked on him too. Like every time he was good he got to pick an item from the box type thing.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
26th Feb '13

Next time you go out, have a pep talk first about expectations when out in public. Also go over the consequences for not listening. Also check out "1-2-3 Magic" I used this when I worked in public schools and day care and I felt it was very effective.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
26th Feb '13

couldnt the other adult with you take her out of the space and to the car for a time out?