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saageex3 1 child; New York 5798 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting CLC:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting (*Melly*):</b>" So if you get pregnant and lose the child ... [snip!] ... and lose the child you are going to be happier than you are now because at least you got pregnant?"</blockquote> Yep"</blockquote>




Wow that is really f**king heartless to those who have lost their children.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16592 posts
status 26th Feb '13
Quoting CLC:" <blockquote><b>Quoting (*Melly*):</b>" So if you get pregnant and lose the child ... [snip!] ... and lose the child you are going to be happier than you are now because at least you got pregnant?"</blockquote> Yep"


I sincerely hope that does not happen to you because I guarantee things will be different after that, and for the worse. You will be angry because you finally conquered infertility only to be shut down by a new problem, a new battle to fight and you likely won't even know what it is you're fighting. While still TTC, you will forever be in fear that finally getting pregnant was just a fluke and any subsequent pregnancies you do have, you will not be able to enjoy for the paralyzing fear that you will lose another.

Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[ATE] 3 kids; Hawaii 10350 posts
26th Feb '13

Wow OP!



So you're saying women who have carried their babies to term and lost them suffer less than you? How f**king ridiculous can you get? How would you feel to carry a life, buy things, paint a room, get excited with friends and family, feel kicks, and make it to the end only to lose it? I would much rather never have been pregnant.



Just because I have two living children doesn't make it any less painful to be trying for a third to expand our loving family and failing.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7824 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting CLC:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting (*Melly*):</b>" So if you get pregnant and lose the child ... [snip!] ... and lose the child you are going to be happier than you are now because at least you got pregnant?"</blockquote> Yep"</blockquote>




Op I think right now you are hurt and frustrated and you are saying hurtful things to others because of that. What you are doing is not fair to the women who have lost babies. It's not fair that you have not been able to get pregnant I agree. But do not hold this against other mamas. They are not holding the fact that their children have passed on against you. You have a beautiful daughter who is still a little baby. You are her mommy. No one else will ever be that.

(*Melly*) 1 child; 2 angel babies; California 2369 posts
status 26th Feb '13

I just cant believe what im reading. Im shocked. I cant stop crying.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
26th Feb '13

Why do you hold pregnancy in such high esteem? Do you think you would love a biological child more than your adopted child? Because... it kind of sounds like you would, and if that's the case then I hope you don't ever become pregnant. That little girl is your daughter, blood or not, and if she's not good enough for you, why did you adopt her in the first place?

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting (*Melly*):" I just cant believe what im reading. Im shocked. I cant stop crying."


<3

Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[ATE] 3 kids; Hawaii 10350 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" Why do you hold pregnancy in such high esteem? Do you think you would love a biological child more than ... [snip!] ... little girl is your daughter, blood or not, and if she's not good enough for you, why did you adopt her in the first place? "</blockquote>




This.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5798 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting (*Melly*):</b>" I just cant believe what im reading. Im shocked. I cant stop crying."</blockquote>




Mama don't let her bitterness bring you down. Just delete this post from your topic replies. There is no reason for you to let this woman bring you Down <3

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting bbbt:" Why do you hold pregnancy in such high esteem? Do you think you would love a biological child more than ... [snip!] ... little girl is your daughter, blood or not, and if she's not good enough for you, why did you adopt her in the first place? "


:!: I totally agree. It isn't far to her.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7824 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting (*Melly*):</b>" I just cant believe what im reading. Im shocked. I cant stop crying."</blockquote>




She doesn't know what she is saying mama. She's so wrapped up in what is going on in her ttc struggle right now that she can't. I'm so sorry for your loss.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5798 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" Why do you hold pregnancy in such high esteem? Do you think you would love a biological child more than ... [snip!] ... little girl is your daughter, blood or not, and if she's not good enough for you, why did you adopt her in the first place? "</blockquote>




This exactly. OP adoption isn't an answer to not being able to conceive. Your daughter shouldn't be put on the back burner like some second choice because you're mad you can't physically have a child. What happens if you DO get pregnant? Does your adopted daughter get forgotten?

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16592 posts
status 26th Feb '13
Quoting (*Melly*):" I just cant believe what im reading. Im shocked. I cant stop crying."


:(
Losing my daughter is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.

CLC TTC since Jul 2009; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1737 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" That is an incredibly insensitive and ignorant thing to say. "</blockquote>




So are all the things you are saying to me bc you have no idea what it's like to never conceive. But I'm not sitting her bashing any of you. Obviously I would not want to have a child die but I feel the pain of not being able to conceive is equal and you would have no clue. Ya I would be happy to get pregnant once to know its possible.

Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[ATE] 3 kids; Hawaii 10350 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting (*Melly*):</b>" I just cant believe what im reading. Im shocked. I cant stop crying."</blockquote>



-hug- Its okay momma. Sometimes people don't realize what they really have.