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Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7584 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting CLC:</b>" My daughter is loved and will never be on the back burner. You guys actually make me laugh bc of what ... [snip!] ... with my adopted and foster kids. But I won't give up and you can't get me down. So keep trying if it will make you feel better."</blockquote>




You know I was actually being nice. I don't think any of the women here are pathetic. Yes maybe some got angry with you but no one in here is pathetic. I'm sorry you feel this way. I still hope you get some answers and a bfp soon. And that you never have to experience what so many of the mothers talking to you have. The loss of a child should never be compared to anything. Just as struggling with infertility should not be compared to anything else. Best wishes op.

*C-Ya* 143 kids; Charles City, Iowa 6768 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[A&T]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LivvieLousMama:</b>" You know I met an a*****e like you once. ... [snip!] ... her, many never get to watch their babies grow up."</blockquote> You ma'am are a very strong and inspirational momma."


If it wasn't for mamas supporting me, I wouldn't have made it because of people like OP bringing me down for actually getting pregnant and losing them. To compare the two is ridiculous. I have had miscarriages and they hurt like hell, but I would never say that my pain was worse than a mama who carried to term and had her baby a few hours, weeks or months and lost them. They are not even on the same level. So the fact that these women were trying to talk to OP and help her and she attacked them for having angel babies simply because she can't get pregnant made me VERY angry.

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting CLC:</b>" Well I'm sorry to offend anyone and you all are right that everyone has different pains that they go ... [snip!] ... on IUIs with nothing in return which is frustrating. Obviously there's no one else on this site who's never been pregnant."</blockquote>




I sincerely hope you're treating your daughter as you would a biological child.

Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[ATE] 3 kids; Hawaii 10347 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LivvieLousMama:</b>" If it wasn't for mamas supporting me, I wouldn't have made it because of people like OP bringing me ... [snip!] ... talk to OP and help her and she attacked them for having angel babies simply because she can't get pregnant made me VERY angry."</blockquote>



I totally agree. When we lost our third in Dec I felt terrible because I had a few snide comments from people like OP about "we'll at least you have two" but a loss is a loss. And I am thankful that I didn't lose the baby further along, or years later. I can't imagine that kind of pain. Makes me want to go hug my two kids now just mentioning it.



It's really a beautiful thing to see after so many downs you are not a bitter person.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting CLC:</b>" My daughter is loved and will never be on the back ... [snip!] ... never be compared to anything. Just as struggling with infertility should not be compared to anything else. Best wishes op."


"The loss of a child should never be compared to anything."



Amen, woman.

*C-Ya* 143 kids; Charles City, Iowa 6768 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[A&T]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LivvieLousMama:</b>" If it wasn't for mamas supporting me, ... [snip!] ... hug my two kids now just mentioning it. It's really a beautiful thing to see after so many downs you are not a bitter person."


When a friend gets pregnant, especially those with fertility issues I am bouncing off the walls happy. When my friend who had been ttc for like 10yrs told me she was finally pregnant and I was jumping on my couch like Tom Cruise on Oprah. LOL! When someone truly wants to be a parent and gets their wish, I am happy for them no matter how long they have been trying. No sense in being bitter, it won't change my fertility and it won't change the fact that they are pregnant.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15825 posts
status 26th Feb '13
Quoting LivvieLousMama:" When a friend gets pregnant, especially those with fertility issues I am bouncing off the walls happy. ... [snip!] ... have been trying. No sense in being bitter, it won't change my fertility and it won't change the fact that they are pregnant."


I'm the same way. It's nice to see someone who has struggled as you have have their dream come true. They give so much hope to fellow infertiles as well.

Mommy Pwnt Pwnt[ATE] 3 kids; Hawaii 10347 posts
26th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LivvieLousMama:</b>" When a friend gets pregnant, especially those with fertility issues I am bouncing off the walls happy. ... [snip!] ... have been trying. No sense in being bitter, it won't change my fertility and it won't change the fact that they are pregnant."</blockquote>



Amen to that!

*C-Ya* 143 kids; Charles City, Iowa 6768 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" I'm the same way. It's nice to see someone who has struggled as you have have their dream come true. They give so much hope to fellow infertiles as well."


Hang in there. :) If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me. :) Hugs and every ounce of baby/ sticky dust I have. :)

Noelles Mama Due November 29; 17 kids; Arizona 2434 posts
26th Feb '13

I know I am late on this.



This hurts to read after miscarrying not even 1 week ago! Yes I have 1 child...but that little promise was a future that never got a chance!



I like coming on to this forum of BG because of how positive these ladies are. Everyone generally cares about one another and are all very encouraging! To come on here and to read this crap is horrible! I hope and pray to God that you NEVER EVER have to go through the pain of miscarrying or loosing a child!



I've been on BG for 6 years+ and you take the cake of worst people ever! Dang my heart hurts reading all your negativity...you have more to be thankful for than you realize!

*C-Ya* 143 kids; Charles City, Iowa 6768 posts
26th Feb '13
Quoting Noelles Mama:" I know I am late on this. This hurts to read after miscarrying not even 1 week ago! Yes I have 1 child...but ... [snip!] ... of worst people ever! Dang my heart hurts reading all your negativity...you have more to be thankful for than you realize! "


Aww mama. My heart hurts for you. :( I am so sorry you had to read this bullshit. :(

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
27th Feb '13

omg she is just venting jesus ... she is hurting



only human

♥TwinsRock♥ 2 kids; Buffalo, New York 4471 posts
27th Feb '13
Quoting michelle_217:" omg she is just venting jesus ... she is hurting only human"


Um... Have you read the entire thread? She is putting down other women who have lost their babies... IDGAF if you're "just venting", it doesn't mean you can say whatever you please and not get a reaction/response...

Raiquee Due May 19; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Wisconsin 183 posts
27th Feb '13

I think OP needs to seek some therapy. Obviously she is hurting, but to do so in such an angry way is not healthy. She needs to find a better way to release these emotions.



-hugs to all the mamas she offended- I think she is having trouble expressing her pain and is taking it out on other mommies.



It's not ok to say things like that however.

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
27th Feb '13
Quoting ♥TwinsRock25♥:" Um... Have you read the entire thread? She is putting down other women who have lost their babies... ... [snip!] ... babies... IDGAF if you're "just venting", it doesn't mean you can say whatever you please and not get a reaction/response..."


She said those things when others mentioned their losses like her pain was not valid do not even know why anyone brought up their loss should have just seen that this woman was hurting and supported her ... I get what she said was not right not going to argue with you or anyone else



OP really wish you the best