I've lost my sweet, innocent, well-behaved child. I don't know where he went or what happened but I'm at a loss of what to do. I'm on the verge of calling Supernanny. Lol
He just absolutely does not listen anymore. He knows right from wrong (for the most part) and has always obeyed rules and behaved while in public. Now all of the sudden everything is "No!" and turns into a screaming match. He will hit me on purpose or knock something over on purpose and then ASK to be placed in time out. If I do place him in time out, he then screams bloody murder for 30+ minutes. If I don't put him in time out, he goes around the house to find something that gets him in trouble. I don't understand. I've tried talking it out to him, I've tried leaving him alone to cool down, I've tried ignoring it all together - nothing works.
He won't pick up his toys, he won't eat his food, he throws a fit about taking showers at night, putting him to bed takes 2+ hours. It's every day things that are now an issue. I'm losing my mind. All he does is scream, all I do is scream and nothing is effective. He thinks I'm a joke. I've always been the soft one and now I regret it.
I know I need to stay stern and follow through, but I don't even know how to do that if he's ASKING for time out.
WWYD?....He's 3 BTW.
I'm glad someone else's kids do this too!
My four year old has turned a switch too lately! He doesn't listen!! He's getting naughty notes from school! I'm about ready to rip out my hair! I feel like all I do is constantly yell at him. He gets it in time out over and over but he'll leave timeout and do the same thing that got him put in there.
I've started putting him to bed early. He doesn't really like that. But still not a huge change. I'm hoping my sweet baby wll come back one day!!
How Long has this been going on? My kids act like little shits the week before they get sick.
I'd spank him.
He thinks you're a joke, next time he's acting like that let him know you mean business.
Quoting Raiquee:" I'm glad someone else's kids do this too! My four year old has turned a switch too lately! He doesn't ... [snip!] ... him to bed early. He doesn't really like that. But still not a huge change. I'm hoping my sweet baby wll come back one day!!"
He already goes to bed early because it takes him so long to fall asleep. I've tried taking his favorite toys away, time out, ignoring, everything.
Quoting kitermom:" How Long has this been going on? My kids act like little shits the week before they get sick."
He's been sick since last Thursday. It's gotten worse within this past week, but it's been going on for a couple months now. I think the steroids have a lot to do with it, but even without them he does this.
Quoting Ole' No Name:" I'd spank him. He thinks you're a joke, next time he's acting like that let him know you mean business."
I actually have as a last resort. He doesn't care about that either. Instead of asking for timeout, he will ask for a spank. He's weird.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Rista Kat:</b>" I actually have as a last resort. He doesn't care about that either. Instead of asking for timeout, he will ask for a spank. He's weird."</blockquote>
It sounds mean, but if you spank you have to make it to where they know you mean business. If he's asking to be spanked, maybe you should try a harder swat.
My DD is almost 4 and she has started asking for time outs too. She will not behave in time out either, she has say in time out for almost 2 hours before because she wouldnt be still and quiet and it didn't phase her. I then tried to remove her from time out to try something else and she grabbed hold of the chair so she wouldn't have to leave screaming that she wanted to stay in time out.
I ended up spanking her. She laughed about it, so I had to swat her butt again. She didn't laugh that time and was well behaved for the rest of the night.
Quoting Minion:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rista Kat:</b>" I actually have as a last resort. He doesn't ... [snip!] ... laughed about it, so I had to swat her butt again. She didn't laugh that time and was well behaved for the rest of the night."
I'm not for spanking but I do see it as a tool on our parental tool belts. If they know right from wrong and they continue to act like that, someone needs to put them in line. Do you have house rules? Like if you do this... THIS will happen. Does she/he like something a lot... take it away until they start acting nice. The thing that helped me a lot was getting down to his level, eye-to-eye, and talking to him sternly. I make it a point to really talk to him through out the day, even if I feel he's not listening. I touch his face and rub his back, let him know through my actions how much I love him... I get so busy with all the gadgets and every day life that I forget to connect with him as much as I should be. I noticed the days I show A LOT of positive attention, the better he acts and the tantrums are less. I mean, he still has his days.
My daughter was the same way when she turned 3.. She was always the most well behaved baby and then turned into this like devil child. All she did was scream, whine, throw fits, and back talk. It took hours for her to go to bed. She'll be 4 in June and it's like a switch has turned and I can bring her back out in public again! She's so helpful again and 95% of the time does what she's suppose to. We put her to bed and she goes right to sleep. It's like I have my baby back! lol
Chances are it's just a phase. I've heard from a lot of people that the 3s are really hard. Stay strong and keep up with the discipline. Trust me, there was plenty of nights where I cried wondering what happened to my child and what I was doing wrong.