Oh wow. That is inexcusable that he got off with nothing compared to what your are going through still to this day. I'm sorry this happened.
I would have to write a letter. But I would take a LONG time writing it and thinking it over so it says just the right things, I wouldn't just write something real quick and send it. Unless you are already sure what you want it to say and how you want to come off. I would try not to sound like a b*tch about it, for fear of a negative response. Personally, I'd be seeking an apology, and for him to show you some remorse. Otherwise, keep in mind you might not get the reaction you want if you sound b*tchy, he could come back with some horrible things to say to you to make it worst, so keep that in mind. Maybe even ask him to not respond back at all. Tell him you just wanted him to know?
That's just what I would do. GL, I'll pray for you.
Quoting SaucyPoppet:" When I was 15 I had walked to the grocery store a few miles from my home to do some grocery shopping ... [snip!] ... something, not just that he fucked up once 15 years ago and never has a second thought about what he did. What would you do?"
I don't know if it would make him feel guilty.. unless he's a changed man, if he's the type that will drive drunk as a skunk with his children in the car, hit a girl and not stop etc etc I wonder how much of a conscience he really has. But if it will make you feel better or give you some kind of relief/release then go for it. Doesn't really matter how he will feel, he doesn't deserve a second of your thoughts.
Yeh I don't really care how he feels about it, with the exception that I hope he feels guilty and horrible and maybe he will actually think of what happened more often knowing what I've had to go through because of him.
From that accident I wasen't even suppose to be able to have children..he is very very f**king lucky that my body fought against all the twisted tubes and tilted bits to give me my miracle babies >.< Otherwise..I probably would let my DH pay him a visit LOL
Don't write the letter until you consult a lawyer. Of you can still sure, he will be able to use anything you write as a potential defense. I believe you can still sure him in a civil suit as you wouldn't go through his insurance company. Just giving my advice.