If you gave a child up for adoption, would you want them to find you later, when they were a teenager/adult?
I have no idea. It would probably depend on why I chose adoption.
Probably not. It would hurt too much.. Just something I wouldn't feel comfortable with.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:</b>" If you gave a child up for adoption, would you want them to find you later, when they were a teenager/adult?"</blockquote>
im sure it would hurt to see them. but i wouldnt mind.
My so gave up a dauhgter some years ago it was semi open and the family that adopted recently reached out to him asking questions about his life hes on the fence on how to respond
No. I would never give my child up, but if for some reason I did, I would have to have the same mentality about it as if I were having an abortion. The child would be "dead" to me. It would be too hard and tolling otherwise.
I would want them to do whatever made them happiest. If meeting me would over complicate their life, I would really hope that there would be no obligation to me. They wouldn't "owe" me anything. On the other hand, if they did want to meet me, I would welcome it with open arms.
For me, the only reason I would give my child up is if I couldn't take care of them. I would give them up out of love. So, subsequently, my heart would still be full of love for them, wanting only their happiness.
If they wanted to I would be thrilled to to know them when they where an adult and able to emotionally handle it. I am very close to a lot of people who are adopted, My grandma, my best friend, and my little brother to name a few. My best friend had a really bad experience with finding her birth mom though. Her mom was thrilled to meet her and then after months of getting to know each other and her even spending weekends with her birth mother. Her birth mom turned around and told her she was a disappointment and she wanted nothing to do with her.
If THEY wanted to meet ME, I'd be okay with it. But I would never find them. I gave them up for adoption, he has a family who loves him, I would never try to ruin that. All hypothetical, of course.
Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:" If you gave a child up for adoption, would you want them to find you later, when they were a teenager/adult?"
Only if they wanted to know where they came from and wanted to still make a relationship with me. But it would be up to them. I wouldnt want to get in the way of their happiness that they have found after I made the choice to not keep them.