Adoption D&D Rafael's Mommy ♥ Texas 764 posts
27th Feb '13

If you gave a child up for adoption, would you want them to find you later, when they were a teenager/adult?

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; GoShox!, KS, United States 9199 posts
27th Feb '13

I have no idea. It would probably depend on why I chose adoption.

♥. 2 kids; making moves in, TX, United States 1114 posts
27th Feb '13

Probably not. It would hurt too much.. Just something I wouldn't feel comfortable with.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
27th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:</b>" If you gave a child up for adoption, would you want them to find you later, when they were a teenager/adult?"</blockquote>


Mommy to Milo&Ava+1 Due October 11; 2 kids; Ohio 1795 posts
27th Feb '13

im sure it would hurt to see them. but i wouldnt mind.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
27th Feb '13


Allys_mommy 33 kids; Waterloo, New York 1194 posts
27th Feb '13

My so gave up a dauhgter some years ago it was semi open and the family that adopted recently reached out to him asking questions about his life hes on the fence on how to respond

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
27th Feb '13

No. I would never give my child up, but if for some reason I did, I would have to have the same mentality about it as if I were having an abortion. The child would be "dead" to me. It would be too hard and tolling otherwise.

~*Julie Blue Eyes*~ 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6071 posts
status 27th Feb '13

I would want them to do whatever made them happiest. If meeting me would over complicate their life, I would really hope that there would be no obligation to me. They wouldn't "owe" me anything. On the other hand, if they did want to meet me, I would welcome it with open arms.

For me, the only reason I would give my child up is if I couldn't take care of them. I would give them up out of love. So, subsequently, my heart would still be full of love for them, wanting only their happiness.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
27th Feb '13

If they wanted to I would be thrilled to to know them when they where an adult and able to emotionally handle it. I am very close to a lot of people who are adopted, My grandma, my best friend, and my little brother to name a few. My best friend had a really bad experience with finding her birth mom though. Her mom was thrilled to meet her and then after months of getting to know each other and her even spending weekends with her birth mother. Her birth mom turned around and told her she was a disappointment and she wanted nothing to do with her.

The Time Police 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33400 posts
27th Feb '13

If THEY wanted to meet ME, I'd be okay with it. But I would never find them. I gave them up for adoption, he has a family who loves him, I would never try to ruin that. All hypothetical, of course.

Ebony McGilvery Due December 7; 5 kids; Texas 2 posts
27th Feb '13
Quoting Rafael's Mommy ♥:" If you gave a child up for adoption, would you want them to find you later, when they were a teenager/adult?"

Only if they wanted to know where they came from and wanted to still make a relationship with me. But it would be up to them. I wouldnt want to get in the way of their happiness that they have found after I made the choice to not keep them.