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Whatever, seriously. *Vent* Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
28th Feb '13

LO had his speech/audio eval on the 8th of this month, and the woman who conducted the speech eval suggested that I take LO to the pediatrician to have his adenoids checked, and have allergy testing done because he's been having some sinus issues for months now.
We went to the pediatrician today finally, and he said that he'd like to try LO on some allergy medication for a bit, then if that doesn't pan out, give us a referral to the ENT who placed the tubes in his ears. He said more than likely if the allergy medication didn't help, the ENT would want to remove his adenoids and possibly tonsils.
So I'm a little worried considering LO just had the tubes placed over summer and he didn't react well to the anesthesia, it was really hard on him. And as a mom, I was scared to hear the possibility that my two year old may have to have ANOTHER procedure done that would require anesthesia, especially a surgery. I called up BD's mom and was telling her about it, and in my distress mentioned "Well, if (BD) is as serious about starting to be a part of (LO)'s life as he claims he is, I'd really appreciate him being at the surgery if it has to happen."
Called up BD, mistake number one. We haven't talked in weeks. I was telling him about what the pediatrician said, mistake number two. He literally cuts me off and ignores me to talk to a dog and no I'm seriously not joking. I get pissy, mistake number three and said "Well, have fun talking to the dog, I'm getting off here. By the way, your kid might be having surgery so yeah, just figured I'd let you know." He knows by now I don't call him for absolutely no reason and when I do, it's important. He perks up and starts listening, so I mention to him that if LO does need surgery, I'd really appreciate it if he was there. That was mistake number four, because he immediately starts talking about how he just really doesn't want to miss work and 'the kid is going to be knocked out anyway' so it 'shouldn't matter if he's there or not'.
So anyway, now I'm sitting here feeling like a dumbass thinking that he could ever feel any kind of empathy and just say something nice. Usually I expect this out of him but for some crazy reason, I thought he'd give a damn. LOL, wrong. But whatever, seriously. Next time I'll just remember to keep my expectations lower than a buried sack of cow shit.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
28th Feb '13

Wow, what an insensitive prick.



I'm sorry, Mama. Fingers crossed that LO doesn't need the surgery after all.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
28th Feb '13
Quoting tay. ☮ 35wks!:" Wow, what an insensitive prick. I'm sorry, Mama. Fingers crossed that LO doesn't need the surgery after all."

We're really hoping he won't need the surgery and the allergy medication will do it. I went by tonight and got the prescription, so we'll definitely see.
There's just so much going on with LO right now between his developmental specialists throwing around autism and sensory processing disorder and now this that I'm kinda wanting some kind of emotional support from him, but I guess I shouldn't expect that. He doesn't care, never has, I shouldn't expect it to change just because our kid might be having surgery. Urgh.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
28th Feb '13

My son just had the procedure Monday. He came out of anesthesia horribly. But here we are three and a half days later and he's almost back to normal. My only advice is keep on top of his pain meds and keep him hydrated (the last is easier said than done). My son hasn't had a bowel movement since Sunday so I have to call his ENT and let him know.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
28th Feb '13
Quoting Bubba Monster's Mommy:" My son just had the procedure Monday. He came out of anesthesia horribly. But here we are three and a ... [snip!] ... last is easier said than done). My son hasn't had a bowel movement since Sunday so I have to call his ENT and let him know."

Right now we're really hoping that the medication will work and surgery won't be necessary.
But just out of curiosity so if it is necessary we can prepare, how do they do the procedure? How invasive is it? Will they need to do incisions or can they go through the nostril or mouth or...?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
28th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" We're really hoping he won't need the surgery and the allergy medication will do it. I went by tonight ... [snip!] ... expect that. He doesn't care, never has, I shouldn't expect it to change just because our kid might be having surgery. Urgh."</blockquote>




Poor fella. :(



I completely understand. It will never make sense to me how someone can not be emotionally invested in their child.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
28th Feb '13
Quoting tay. ☮ 35wks!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" We're really hoping he won't need the surgery ... [snip!] ... fella. :( I completely understand. It will never make sense to me how someone can not be emotionally invested in their child."

Dude...You seriously live in MTA? I live in Lowgap lmfao. Totally OT.
But yeah, honestly I don't even know if it'd be a good idea for him to be present any how. He just recently got a job, but I don't know if they piss tested him so who knows if he's off coke yet or not. I found out around the time LO had tubes placed that BD's had a coke habit for years now. I had no clue cause I'd never been around a coke addict knowingly. Meh.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
28th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" Right now we're really hoping that the medication will work and surgery won't be necessary. But just ... [snip!] ... do they do the procedure? How invasive is it? Will they need to do incisions or can they go through the nostril or mouth or...?"</blockquote>



This is how ours went: we were admitted, they checked him out, we met with the anesthesiologist and nurses and ENT for any questions, they took him back without us, we waited in the waiting room, they put him under then put his breathing tube in (through his nose) then gave him his IV, they removed his tonsils and adenoids. After we went to the waiting room it was about 30 minutes. He was already awake in recovery when we got there. I picked him up and he went to sleep. We were monitored for an hour then released with prescriptions for numbing popsicles. At the pre op appointment we got prescription for tylenol with codeine and an antibiotic.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
28th Feb '13

I'm hoping your LO doesn't need surgery. No kid comes out of anesthesia well. My daughter was one month away from turning 5 when she had a cyst removed over her eye. She came out from anesthesia literally fighting mad, and even took the IV out of her arm herself(her dad and I had stepped out to tell the nurse they needed to re-attach the board to her arm so she wouldn't pull it out...her grandma was trying to keep her from doing it while we were in the hall).



As far as BD, you've informed him, and have given him the option to be there, should LO need the surgery. If he chooses not to be there, it's on him.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
28th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" Dude...You seriously live in MTA? I live in Lowgap lmfao. Totally OT. But yeah, honestly I don't even ... [snip!] ... tubes placed that BD's had a coke habit for years now. I had no clue cause I'd never been around a coke addict knowingly. Meh."</blockquote>




Wut? Are you serious?! Yeah I'm in Mt. Airy. That's wild.



It probably is a good thing then. Plus if he doesn't know how to be sympathetic and compassionate, he'd most likely just make the situation more stressful.

Betty Phillips Due March 12 (girl); 1 child; Kermit, Texas 48 posts
2nd Mar '13

if he doesnt show up thats on him. Not u. Just stay strong for your baby boy. Good luck .