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baby gender DanyAllen123 Due October 30; 2 kids; New York 298 posts
1st Mar '13

so me and my husband have 2 girls and we are expecting again... i want a boy because i know he wants a son so bad. im scared that if it is a girl i will feel "guilty" that he wont have a son... i know the man determines the gender... and he LOVES his daughters and he would LOVE this baby no matter the sex. its just a feeling i have. i hate it. has anyone else gone through this during early pregnancy? im really hoping im not making myself sound horrible because i will love this baby no matter what also. i guess i just have my hopes up for a boy

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
1st Mar '13

No.



But why would you feel guilty? That doesn't make sense. You have no control over what's growing in there.

DanyAllen123 Due October 30; 2 kids; New York 298 posts
1st Mar '13

your right it doesnt make sense.... again this might sound horrible... but im scared he will be let down bc he says things like "oh i have a feeling its a boy!!" and all this stuff.....

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting DanyAllen123:" your right it doesnt make sense.... again this might sound horrible... but im scared he will be let down bc he says things like "oh i have a feeling its a boy!!" and all this stuff....."


Well, if he's let down, tell him to blame his swimmers. :D

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
1st Mar '13

It was actually the opposite for us. Because my husband only wanted one more baby before we were done, he was hoping he would give me one of each. We are now having two boys and I will never get my girl.. I was very upset at first, but I am over it and very excited things turned out the way they did. Don't feel guilty!

Flower. 3 kids; Rockville, Maryland 1241 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting DanyAllen123:" so me and my husband have 2 girls and we are expecting again... i want a boy because i know he wants ... [snip!] ... not making myself sound horrible because i will love this baby no matter what also. i guess i just have my hopes up for a boy"


I know exactly what you are going through right now only we had the opposite. We had two boys and I really wanted a girl, but I knew if I had a boy I would instantly love him. We never found out in the pregnancy and it was so exciting when my husband said, "It's a GIRL!" I was prepared for either so if he said it was a boy I would have totally melted into a puddle of love for him. I'm sure your hubby will do the same. :)

Melissa A. Corron Due June 9 (boy); 2 kids; New York 9 posts
1st Mar '13

I felt the same way. I wanted a boy so bad because my husband and I already have a daughter together. We got our boy and I hope you get what you hope for!

Karen L.S. TTC since Aug 2013; 5 kids; Texas 283 posts
1st Mar '13

I know how you feel. My husband is the last living male that carries the family name and our first child was a girl. We decided to have one more child and I really wanted to give him a son to carry on the family name. I was so stressed about it I would get sick. He kept telling me it didn't matter but it did to me. I felt like I would be letting him and the family down. I cried many days cause I didn't want to let him down. He is such a great daddy to our daughter so I knew he would love our next child no matter the gender . I was so worried I didn't even look forward to the 17 week ultrasound cause I didn't want to let him down. Before we walked in for the ultrasound he turned to me and said " I love you and our family and only want a healthy baby. How does the name Scarlet for our next daughter sound ? It's going to be great to have two girls that look like their mother. " That day we found out that we actually having a BOY. Imagine our surprise. My husband is the only boy in a family of 6 sisters. I know we would love the baby no matter what the gender . So I do know how you feel. I really hope you get the son you want.