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Just a question (S&L) Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
1st Mar '13

If you experienced VTS (vanishing twin syndrome) and knew around about of time time when the baby vanished, would you talk about the baby and include it on how many children you have when people ask?




My youngest son was born 3/31/12 and he had an identical twin whom vanished when I was 14/15 weeks pregnant (between 10-18 and 10-31). I've been thinking about him a lot lately, as his brothers birthday is coming up and I'd just like input I guess. I feel like I didn't really get to know him...



ETA-I'd like to delete later so please if you will, don't quote.

Freya D Due December 27; 1 child; Brookings, Oregon 1196 posts
1st Mar '13

my little sister is/was a twin my mom lost the other around 14 weeks she didn't tell us till after i was pregnant. she has never counted the lost one when asked.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15038 posts
1st Mar '13

I wouldn't include a vanished twin as one of my children, just as I wouldn't any miscarriage. But I respect another woman's choice to do so.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
1st Mar '13

I was thinking about getting something like a mothers ring & I was just looking for input as to if I should put the month he went away down. I know I felt him move a few times; I just don't feel like I got the chance to know him...but I want his siblings to be aware that he was present.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15038 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" I was thinking about getting something like a mothers ring & I was just looking for input as to if I ... [snip!] ... a few times; I just don't feel like I got the chance to know him...but I want his siblings to be aware that he was present."


I think I actually would do something like that for the one I lost in the second trimester. I know I want to get something like that to memorialize her.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
1st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" I think I actually would do something like that for the one I lost in the second trimester. I know I want to get something like that to memorialize her."</blockquote>



He vanished in my 2nd trimester, between 14/15 weeks.



Did you name her?

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15038 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" I think I actually would do something ... [snip!] ... like that to memorialize her."</blockquote> He vanished in my 2nd trimester, between 14/15 weeks. Did you name her?"


My husband named her Hope because she was the first pregnancy I was able to sustain after six weeks. She helped us regain some confidence that I would one day be able to have a baby.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15038 posts
1st Mar '13

We lost her at 15w5d, so close to the time of yours.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
1st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" My husband named her Hope because she was the first pregnancy I was able to sustain after six weeks. She helped us regain some confidence that I would one day be able to have a baby."</blockquote>



Beautiful name!



We named ours Air

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15038 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" My husband named her Hope because she ... [snip!] ... confidence that I would one day be able to have a baby."</blockquote> Beautiful name! We named ours Air
Karen L.S. TTC since Aug 2013; 5 kids; Texas 283 posts
1st Mar '13

I lost my daughters twin at about 11 weeks. We knew at 7 weeks that her twin was smaller and was told we might lose the twin. One day we saw two heart beats four weeks later there was only one. I personally count the twin as a miscarriage and will tell my daughter about her twin when she gets older. My daughter is almost 14 months old but I still wonder what her twin would have looked liked and what gender it was.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Karen L.S.:</b>" I lost my daughters twin at about 11 weeks. We knew at 7 weeks that her twin was smaller and was told ... [snip!] ... older. My daughter is almost 14 months old but I still wonder what her twin would have looked liked and what gender it was."</blockquote>



My sons twin was a shock. When I was 8 weeks I went to the ER for terrible cramping and they said that I would more than likely miscarry because there was blood all around my son. When I went to my doctor, she said he was fine, but there was some blood flow shown all around him. My MW has a set of times and said they were Momo twins (shared the same sac and placenta) and the blood flow seen on my son was his brother hiding directly behind him. Do you count the month you lost him/her?