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Do you think it's possible? Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
1st Mar '13

To love your DH while being attracted and thinking about someone else 24/7. What would you do? Leave DH and try things out with the other person. Would you go by the whole, "If you start liking someone while you love someone leave the one you "love" for the one you like because if you really loved that person you wouldn't have started liking the other person." and the whole, "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love." shit.

Or .. would you just leave DH and NOT try anything with the other guy?
Asking for a friend. I just want to give her the best advice possible.

Also, what if the guy lived in the same neighborhood as you. Two houses down kind of same neighborhood?

Sorry for any mispelling lol.

Mitchell.family.of.5 TTC since Aug 2013; 35 kids; Tennessee 910 posts
1st Mar '13

I'd remind her she made a comitment to her husband. She needs to stop whatever this new relationship is and focus on her husband.

Cindy[+1]♥ 1 child; Kentucky 10428 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting Mitchell.family.of.5:" I'd remind her she made a comitment to her husband. She needs to stop whatever this new relationship is and focus on her husband. "


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♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 12962 posts
1st Mar '13

Marriage is a commitment.
Besides what she is feeling for the other guy is most likely lust.

laura+3.0 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 14725 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting Mitchell.family.of.5:" I'd remind her she made a comitment to her husband. She needs to stop whatever this new relationship is and focus on her husband. "


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Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
1st Mar '13

If it where me in the situation I don't think it would be worth throwing away a marriage for someone it may not work out with (especially if there are children involved) then I would regret my choice. I also don't believe in giving up on a relationship with someone you love unless they cheat on you, are abusive in any way, ect.

Bri + One ♥ Due October 19; 1 child; Florida 4316 posts
1st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mitchell.family.of.5:</b>" I'd remind her she made a comitment to her husband. She needs to stop whatever this new relationship is and focus on her husband. "</blockquote>




This!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st Mar '13
Quoting Gobble, gobble!:" To love your DH while being attracted and thinking about someone else 24/7. What would you do? Leave ... [snip!] ... if the guy lived in the same neighborhood as you. Two houses down kind of same neighborhood? Sorry for any mispelling lol."


I'd say she needs to evaluate her relationship. There is such a thing as "falling out of love" where you stop putting effort in. It's VERY easy to think things would be so much better with someone else becaues you see the worse of your husband, but only the best of this other person. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, it's greenest where you water it.



If she truly feels she is DONE with the marriage, then that is different. It has NOTHING to do with this other person. IMO you should never leave a relationship FOR someone else. If you leave a relationship it should be because it's best for you.

Mamitita 4 kids; Louisiana 720 posts
1st Mar '13

Maybe the lack of attention they are giving each other (her and her DH) is takin a toll on their marriage and they need to make some time for each other. If she still loves DH then clearly they can work on things. She probably just likes the attention this new guy is givin to her and she needs to realize shes married and needs to work on it before somethin happens she regrets. Ive been there, Ive felt attraction to who I thought was someone but really it was just the attention he was giving me was makin me realize what I was missing at home. Communication and time alone, date nights, we needed to remind each other that we love each other and right at that moment I realized I was being selfish with thinkin I like someone else when I didnt. Hope it made sense..

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
1st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ Mrs. S ♥:</b>" Marriage is a commitment. Besides what she is feeling for the other guy is most likely lust. "</blockquote>




This.



And sometimes the grass is greener on the other side but what we forget is that it's still grass. Everyone has their flaws and those will eventually be exposed too. Maybe she needs to spice up her marriage a little to get that lusty feeling back with him.