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.free. 2 kids; Arkansas 36040 posts
2nd Mar '13

They're just shoes, and pink is just another color.
I don't see anything "girl" or "boy" about it.
People really n eed to lighten up and just let their kids be kids.



My son is only 16 months but if he ever wants anything pink or purple or whatever, otherwise "boyish", I will let him get it.

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" DH and i already agreed that if DD likes certain things she can have them. whether they're girly or a ... [snip!] ... makes me mad, because if it were reversed and it had been your daughter wanting a boy thing, he probably would have been proud."</blockquote>



I guess overall it s easier for girl to wear boys thing and say she s just a tomboy
but for a boy wearing girl stuff automatically makes him gay...

JΔS Georgia 76317 posts
2nd Mar '13

I wouldn't care but my husband would not be having it.

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
2nd Mar '13

Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)

pitbullprincess Due June 24 (girl); 65 kids; Fayetteville, North Carolina 1295 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting nothing to see:" (sorry in advance for any misspellings and typo, I m on my phone) I took my three years old shopping ... [snip!] ... he is a boy ? have I done the right thing by him? btw he loves them so much he hasnt taken them off since I bought them"



One church I atteneded when I was younger had a pastors son who loved the colors pink and purple etc....his parents let him wear or choose these more feminine colors as they said it was strictly a color and historically if people wanted to be ugly about it kings wore these colors the boy kept at it till he was about 11 even tho the biggot town idiots called him gay and such ...He actually is a very succesful and straight CEO in a city nearby now...yea some people may judge but when it comes down to it they are colors! lol not to mention wasnt it just a year or so ago that guys were wearing shirts that said real men wear pink etc. If that boy is happy let him wear the dang shoes boo on dad for having that small minded thinking cause he would never have known about those kind of thoughts if he hadnt said anything

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20766 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)"

this was my point

Jasmine❤️ 3 kids; Fullerton, CA, United States 1817 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)"


I wouldn't. My daughter is into pink, purple, and sparkles and anything "girly" anyways so it wouldn't be a big issue for me.

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:</b>" Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)"</blockquote>




If I had a DD and she wanted boy shoes she could have them. And if LO really wanted girl shoes, I would probably get them.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:</b>" Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)"</blockquote>



I wouldn't buy my daughters boys shoes.

Mason & Carmen's Mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 3724 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)"


nope not boy shoes, i'm going to try to direct my girl to like girl things and my son to like boy things and thats just how it is....but IMO its way more noticeable if a boy is wearing pink sparkly shoes then if a girl was wearing boy shoes and I do not want me kids picked on in school, kids are mean so i dont want to give them a reason to bully my kids.

Belle. { 23 weeks } Due February 14 (boy); 1 child; Alberta 4842 posts
2nd Mar '13

This reminds me of a story my mom told me about when I was 3 my mom took me to the store to buy slippers and she let me pick them out. There were pink and purple Disney princess ones and there were "goosebumps" werewolf feet ones with claws and blood. And of course I picked the werewolf ones. I don't see what the big issue is! It's no big deal when girls are "tomboys" or like "boy" toys but when a boy likes girl stuff it's just sooo bad!? Doesn't make sense. Let him get what he likes :)

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting M&D's Momma:" I wouldn't. My daughter is into pink, purple, and sparkles and anything "girly" anyways so it wouldn't be a big issue for me."


I just remeber being a tomboy and my brother (who actually is gay) was always into girly stuff. My mom tried to keep us in gender specific things and it drove her crazy when we would swap toys lol. To this day I am still a tomboy, and my brother is still gay *shrugs* I just dont feel like it is that big of a deal either way. Just imo though :)

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20766 posts
2nd Mar '13

honestly, i think it's a bigger deal for parents to suppress their child. By telling them that things they like/want is wrong, you're trying to change who that are and telling them that they're wrong. Why not teach them how to be themselves and not listen to the crap that other kids spew out?

Jasmine❤️ 3 kids; Fullerton, CA, United States 1817 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:" I just remeber being a tomboy and my brother (who actually is gay) was always into girly stuff. My mom ... [snip!] ... a tomboy, and my brother is still gay *shrugs* I just dont feel like it is that big of a deal either way. Just imo though :)"


Yeah, completely understand, that's why I don't judge people on how they want to raise their child. As far as toys go, i really don't care what they do. I'm pretty sure my son is going to want to play with my daughter's toys and vice versa. As I see it, while they are children it is my choice on how I dress them. When they become teenagers and start to gain their identity and decide what styles of stuff they want to wear then I'll probably be more open to buying them stuff they want. Just like my mother chose what i wore up until I was about 12-13 I'll be doing the same for my children.

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" honestly, i think it's a bigger deal for parents to suppress their child. By telling them that things ... [snip!] ... telling them that they're wrong. Why not teach them how to be themselves and not listen to the crap that other kids spew out?"</blockquote>




:!: this exactly