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THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20789 posts
status 2nd Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting M&D's Momma:</b>" That's where we just disagree. I don't think ... [snip!] ... doing so. Children have so many boundaries, they should be able to pick their own clothing if they want. It's not a big deal."

well said

Jasmine❤️ 3 kids; Fullerton, CA, United States 1819 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" maybe that's why we differ. even up into my teen yrs my mother didn't want me to have certain clothes. ... [snip!] ... i am. i swore i'd never make my daughter feel like she was "wrong" because she wanted to do what society didn't view as normal."


I see. I guess it also has to do with how the parent approaches it. See, I would never tell my child how it wouldn't be acceptable to society. I'd probably say " oh no not today" or i'd redirect them something else they may like. Again, so far I haven't had to deal with that yet since my daughter loves running to the girl section and my son is only 10 months old. lol. So we'll see how we deal with it when we get there. But I definitely believe it has to do with how the parent approaches it. They should never make their child feel bad for picking something out. That can definitely have negative affects on them.

Jasmine❤️ 3 kids; Fullerton, CA, United States 1819 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting M&D's Momma:</b>" That's where we just disagree. I don't think ... [snip!] ... doing so. Children have so many boundaries, they should be able to pick their own clothing if they want. It's not a big deal."


Ok and I respect your opinion. I still have mine though. :)

JΔ$ Georgia 76514 posts
status 2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting M&D's Momma:</b>" Ok and I respect your opinion. I still have mine though. :)"</blockquote>




Well this is d&d so..:)

Jasmine❤️ 3 kids; Fullerton, CA, United States 1819 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting M&D's Momma:</b>" Ok and I respect your opinion. I still have mine though. :)"</blockquote> Well this is d&d so..:)"


yep, and I already argued my points so...:lol:

pitbullprincess Due June 24 (girl); 65 kids; Fayetteville, North Carolina 1295 posts
2nd Mar '13

I could be wrong here but....
my four year old little cousin went thru what we called the punky brewster stage lol
She would wear the strangest things like spiderman boys underwear over a rainbow tutu ...she had a legit reason each time for her outfits like this and her mom let her saying as long as she was appropriotly covered no short shorts without tights or belly shirts and said some things you just pick your battles with she didnt grow out of this phase till recently she is ten now...
My thing is her reasoning sometimes for her outfit was that boys underwear which is what she herself called it since her brothers wore the same kind was what she needed that day because she wanted to be strong like super man or whatever character was on them etc.
She knew the difference between boy and girl things as she had older siblings and didnt see them as girls couldnt do boy things or vice versa but that there were boy things she wanted to be part of her personal identity for that day...she did this at four...how can we say that kids are not discovering themselves or who they are at any age just because its done in a way thats either not obvious or fits society etc...I mean I dont think they know at the age of four they are going to be gay and want kids and like to be this kind of person but how can we as adults see this kind of thing and say they are not discovering themselves and who they want to be in this world? even if it is a phase thats how people discover things right ?

Inglebert Humperdink 3 kids; New Jersey 121 posts
2nd Mar '13

I have a 10 year old son who is very outspoken about what he wears. His current favorite pair of sneakers are a pair of purple Jordans, he wears them almost every day. But we just recently went sneaker shopping and he had me buy him a pair of navy blue and pink Jordans. They were clearly labeled girls on the price tag but he didn't care, he liked them so he asked for them. Mind you, his 5 and 7 year old sisters got the same pair. He said to me "Mom, I want the blue and pink ones. They'll match my pink striped buttondowns, and that navy shirt with the pink sky on it." He wears lots of pink and purple. He loves color and being stylish. There have been NUMEROUS occasions where I've bought all 3 of my kids the same pair of sneakers whether they were "boy" or "girl". My kids see sneakers as nothing more than sneakers. As do I. Both my girls wear "boy" sneakers too.. People make way too big of a deal about certain gender specific things. Its ridiculous.

pitbullprincess Due June 24 (girl); 65 kids; Fayetteville, North Carolina 1295 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting D,S,E = my ♥:" I have a 10 year old son who is very outspoken about what he wears. His current favorite pair of sneakers ... [snip!] ... Both my girls wear "boy" sneakers too.. People make way too big of a deal about certain gender specific things. Its ridiculous."


LOL sounds like that boy is super stylish and knows his stuff I would be proud he could coordinate like that

JΔ$ Georgia 76514 posts
status 2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pitbullprincess:</b>" LOL sounds like that boy is super stylish and knows his stuff I would be proud he could coordinate like that "</blockquote>



Seriously. Her son sounds like mine and he's only two. He always wants to dress like M.

Inglebert Humperdink 3 kids; New Jersey 121 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting pitbullprincess:" LOL sounds like that boy is super stylish and knows his stuff I would be proud he could coordinate like that "


He's finally getting the hang of it. At one point I thought I was gonna have to dress him forever. I was totally losing hope. Then one morning it just all came together. I had never been so proud in my life.. lol.

pitbullprincess Due June 24 (girl); 65 kids; Fayetteville, North Carolina 1295 posts
2nd Mar '13
Quoting D,S,E = my ♥:" He's finally getting the hang of it. At one point I thought I was gonna have to dress him forever. ... [snip!] ... him forever. I was totally losing hope. Then one morning it just all came together. I had never been so proud in my life.. lol."



I suck at that kind of thing but my son was born loving shoes and hats so I hope his fathers ability to make up outfits kicks in and that it does for this little girl as well...

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
2nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Soon 2B Mom of 2:</b>" Jusrt curious if all the mama's on here who said "no, they wouldnt get the shoes" would feel the same way if DD wanted boys shoes? (Not trying to start anything, I'm really curious.)"</blockquote>



My DDs wardrobe looks like Timkerbell and Disney Princesses exploded on her. It is a non issue here.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
2nd Mar '13

I grew up with an older brother. I loved super heroes, legos, ninja turtles. I was thrilled when I got clothes that reflected my interest.

My son is into Dora. He has Dora toys. He doesn't think anything of it, why should I? He also has Thomas, cars, super heroes, etc.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
2nd Mar '13

I think you did the right thing as well! Your son is the oneone who's going to be wearing them so it doesn't matter what anyone else says... Kanye and Diddy wear pink so why can't a little boy wear some shoes he fell in love with, KWIM?

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
2nd Mar '13

If my son wants to wear pink, then I'd let him wear pink!