My heart goes out to the little girl. The stuff he is doing is not the normal behaviour of a child. I think her mum needs to start really addressing it. Poor kid :(
Quoting FroggysMommy:" And now it goes onto another level. I knew she was asking a bunch of little boys out. She has been begging ... [snip!] ... in a LOT of trouble. And soon. :( Jesus Man, I didnt even know what a blow job or friends with benefits was at that age!"
This dose not sound like a little girl desperate for attention this sound like someone who was introduced to inappropriate sexuality. If she is offering BJ's and is only in 6th grade... um just sounds like somethings not right in her home life
Quoting applelove:" This dose not sound like a little girl desperate for attention this sound like someone who was introduced ... [snip!] ... sexuality. If she is offering BJ's and is only in 6th grade... um just sounds like somethings not right in her home life"
Unless a friend introduced her to something and they fooled around..... NOTHING in that household is going on.
I have her facebook info... I see exactly how little 6th-12th graders talk (also keep in mind I'm a teacher) Just because a child offers a bj doesn't mean they have something wrong going on at home sexually because they are acting out sexually. Kids these days are sexual little kids. I had a student that was in 10th grade and was pregnant with her 3rd. In high school my friend started freshman year with a 1 1/2 year old daughter. Sex is WAY different now, and while some people are hurt.... it's not the case with my niece. It may be different with her friends, but at home? No. Sorry, nothing is going on.
She was not introduced to inappropriate sexuality at home, I can say that with 100% certainty.
Update.... my Mom talked to my sister after my sister called my Mom and said "K's teacher said at her conferences that she is boy crazy and it disrupts her work at school." So my Mom said she needs to talk to me because I saw some stuff and I need to tell my sister exactly what was said but my sister is upset that I didnt tell her right away as opposed to when we were supposed to meet up tonight (we didn't meet up, I'm really sick). She is going to call me back here in a few and I'm going to tell her all I saw and the only reason I didnt tell her right away is because we do need to talk face to face. And we were supposed to meet up tonight.
But then the teacher said something so my Mom said she needed to know... it's effecting her classwork because all she wants to do is flirt. My sister was raped and I want to say "You need to do something before she gets put in the same position" (I am NOT implying my sisters rape was her fault or any rape is anyones fault) but it was a wrong place, wrong time... very bad choice. The same choice my niece can do. So... I just dont want to see my niece go through it.
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Unless a friend introduced her to something and they fooled around..... NOTHING in that household is ... [snip!] ... Sorry, nothing is going on. She was not introduced to inappropriate sexuality at home, I can say that with 100% certainty. "
She could have had a friend show her somthing inappropriate or a friend of a friend. She could have spent the night at a friends house and men molested by that Dad(that happens all the time)
When a little girl is so obsessed with boys and sexuality that it is messing with her class work somthing is wrong. I know you think it can't be at her home and maybe it isn't at her home. But things happen to kids away form home all the time.
Things happen at day care, at friends houses and even at church! One of my friends was molested at the public swimming pool by a total stranger. It can be a friends older brother. It can be things they see on TV that they should not be watching. They can find porn and watch it. all sorts of things can happen and it sounds like all the adults in this little girls live need to open their eyes to what is wrong and help her!
Its very sad :(
The trial goes on. Today she texts me telling me that my nephew tried to choke her and was being mean. I called my nephew and he said "Mom doesn't trust her to walk home alone so I met her at the school, she wouldn't walk with me and kept running ahead and was running in front of cars. So I did grab the hood of her hoodie and she said my hands were around her neck." I then asked Kaitlyn what the deal was.... she admitted she lied. I was on the phone with her on speakerphone with my Mom and I said "Kaitlyn you need to respect Jacob, you can not run into the street and you need to walk home with him and not run ahead." What does she do? Hangs up on me. She does this ALL the time. She once told my Mom not to call her after she hung up on her or she was going to call the police on her. I texted her and had a conversation about how it is disrespectful to hang up on someone and she needs to mind her elders. This is huge in our family, you DO NOT disrespect your elders, especially grandparents. I dont give a damn when my nephew mouths off to me, but the second he gives the same tone to my Mom I will have a fit. Its not okay. She then said "Im going to do homework" and hung up on my Mom AGAIN and got on facebook. I told her "If you have time for facebook you have time to call Grandma and apologize." She then starts telling me things like how we are bad people because we didn't come to her first volleyball game. IT WAS SNOWING! We leave in the mountains! I said "Grandma J wasn't at your game this last week, why aren't you mad at her yet you call grandma E bad names when she misses anything you do no matter what happens?"
And let me say that my niece is MEAN. When my Mom was barely out of the hospital she had something go on at school and of course my Mom couldnt go. My niece said "You are a p***e o* s**t." But if her other grandma doesnt do anything it's fine. My niece will literally say "I don't want to see Grandma, I would rather see my friends" and 2 minutes later call my mom and say "Grandma I saw this CD being sold on TV, will you buy it for me?" Recently she did buy something for my niece that she asked for. I came down on my Mom and said "Wait, she disrespects you, wont talk to you unless you are giving her something, and now you are rewarding her? Im totally against this." My stepdad agreed. But my Mom didnt want to be unfair and reward my nephew (It was a gift for something for sports) and not give something for my niece.
So then today I was calmly telling her how unfair that my Mom gets her nice clothes, toys, games, etc... and it's not good enough for her. OH and she only likes expensive stuff. If something is on sale she doesnt like it. She thinks its bad. So the conversation goes on about how my Mom is sooooo bad for missing her volleyball game because of the snow (they live about 30 miles away and we live in an area that gets more snow than them) and I said "Kaitlyn sometimes we have to miss things because life happens. Grandma is sick. I am sick. We can't do things like we used to and go out like we used to. I live down the street from Lily's school and I have even missed some events because Im sick." She said "Well that's not my problem."
GRRRRR She doesnt see how unfair she's being! Then, I say "Kaitlyn we went to your game this week. We had fun, remember? We can't go to every event you have. You guys have never been to a school event of Lily's and that's okay because I know you still love her and she understands that too." She said "What events? Lily doesnt do anything." I said "Kaitlyn, Lily has been in choir for 3 years. You have never seen her sing. She has been in the science fair. She has been in the play. She has had school dances. She has had fundraisers. She has had many events you guys don't go to, but as I said that's okay." And the little snot said "Well that's not the same as sports, those are more important and I go to practice and practice hard for games and it's more important." What the hell? Okay, so choir doesn't practice either I guess :p
Then she said "Well I don't want to spend my spring break with you I don't want to go to disneyland with you I want to stay home and see my friends and family." My Mom was PISSED and started crying and said she cant take it anymore... she cant do ANYTHING nice for my niece without her being a snot about it. Its like... get her a $100 jacket on sale for 20 and it's worth nothing because we only spent 20. Buy her a wii game for 10 and its stupid because its not a $50 game. She won't come over unless she is given money.
I just don't get it. How can a child be so mean? How can she be so BAD.... seriously nothing anyone does gets through to her. I texted Tony (my ex SO) and didnt even hint that I was talking about Kaitlyn but said I am so frustrated that I am so mad at a child and he immediately knew who I was talking about.
Shes a mean mean mean child, and then on top of the fact that she is boy crazy, she doesnt listen to anyone, she does what she wants when she wants....
My family is in trouble with her.