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Baby name Problems Rhondelyn Boot Due June 30; Taft, California 14 posts
3rd Mar '13

Me and my boyfriend are having a bit of a problem with baby names. (WE ARE HAVING A BOY) He wants to name it TONY IV because it has been handed down from generation to generation in his family, I want my child to be names after my Grandpa and Uncle Joseph and for some reason he wont compromise. What should I do? I tried telling him we could name the baby Tony Joseph and we both kinda get what we want but he wants our son to be the fourth :( I don't know what to do because I don't want to deprive him from helping name our son but I also don't want to be stuck naming our son something that I don't truly agree with. Any Ideas??
Sorry this was so long.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
3rd Mar '13

If he won't compromise, I would pick the name. It should be a mutual agreement, but int he end, you're the one carrying the baby.

Barbieʚϊɞ Florida 11319 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm actually a virgin:</b>" If he won't compromise, I would pick the name. It should be a mutual agreement, but int he end, you're the one carrying the baby."</blockquote>



Agree

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
3rd Mar '13

Flip a coin or put names in a hat and choose. You could give him a double middle name to include Joseph? I'm not a fan of double middle names but it may help

user banned Due December 15; 1 child; Colorado 1484 posts
3rd Mar '13

I don't agree with you just picking the name in the end because he won't compromise. If he's been there the whole pregnancy and plans to be after the baby is born he should have some say too.
And honestly, I'd let him have the name this time if he wants to hand down a family name like that.

Rhondelyn Boot Due June 30; Taft, California 14 posts
3rd Mar '13

His problem is that he doesnt have a middle name and want our sons name to be identical :( But the name in the hat thing I really like Ill see if he goes for that... Thank you sooo much everyone

Rhondelyn Boot Due June 30; Taft, California 14 posts
3rd Mar '13

see and I want him to have say but Joseph is a name handed down in my family... of course not very far. I just don't want to be unfair to him because I don't agree with something. And yes he plans to be daddy to our son...

~Raylan's Mama~ 1 child; Tennessee 2114 posts
3rd Mar '13

I had this problem...my SO was dead set on naming our son after him. I was dead set on NOT naming him the same. I really wanted to name him after my brothers (one is deceased). Anyway, I put my foot down and said if he was going to be like that he wasn't even going on the birth certificate. He compromised with his first name as the middle name and he picked the first name. My theory is he gets the last name so that is his right to picking the name. If he can't compromise, you shouldn't either.

user banned Due December 15; 1 child; Colorado 1484 posts
3rd Mar '13
Quoting Rhondelyn Boot:" see and I want him to have say but Joseph is a name handed down in my family... of course not very far. ... [snip!] ... far. I just don't want to be unfair to him because I don't agree with something. And yes he plans to be daddy to our son..."


This is the deal my husband and I have:
With our first baby if it was a girl I would get the first name and he would get the middle, and if it was a boy he would get the first name and I would get the middle.
Since our first born was a girl, with our next child either girl or boy he gets to pick the first name and I'll get the middle.
If our first born had been a boy and he picked the first name, I would get to pick the first name for either a boy or girl with our second.
That's how we compromised. But also we compromised that if he wants to hand down his name to our first born son, making him a 3rd, I would forgo my choice for a middle name.