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Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... girl, just a drunken idiot."</blockquote> He was out past 2 for drill and had to get up at 6? Which base is he at?"</blockquote>



Selfridge

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" ... [snip!] ... He was out past 2 for drill and had to get up at 6? Which base is he at?"</blockquote> Selfridge"</blockquote>




Oh. Is this normal for them?

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... to get up at 6? Which base is he at?"</blockquote> Selfridge"</blockquote> Oh. Is this normal for them?"</blockquote>



I'm really not sure. This is maybe his 3rd drill weekend at that unit, but first weekend going out. He was active duty before this.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" ... [snip!] ... really not sure. This is maybe his 3rd drill weekend at that unit, but first weekend going out. He was active duty before this."</blockquote>




Uhhhhhhh he might want to be careful. He's obviously not making a good name for himself with that unit.

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... Uhhhhhhh he might want to be careful. He's obviously not making a good name for himself with that unit."</blockquote>



No offense, don't even act like you know him or his name as a Marine because he is a damn good one. Yes, he talked to me wrong, and him and I will handle that, but he was not the only one out drinking and got a little of hand on how much they had; however, they had DDs and made it back safe to do their job the next day. This isnt a habit of his.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" ... [snip!] ... hand on how much they had; however, they had DDs and made it back safe to do their job the next day. This isnt a habit of his."</blockquote>




Your husband is the one who went off on you asking for a divorce after getting shitfaced one the three days of the month he is expected to be on military duty, where one of his unit members had to call you and check up on you. I'm not pretending like I know him, I'm pretending like I can read.



Isn't it ironic that you're getting angry at ME, and defending HIM. I'm not the one who went off on you and asked for a divorce, he is. Redirect your anger.

Pistol Annie☆ 2 kids; Houston, TX, United States 12659 posts
3rd Mar '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... angry at ME, and defending HIM. I'm not the one who went off on you and asked for a divorce, he is. Redirect your anger."

She was just trying to vent. It doesn't make her husband a bad marine or her the victim of abuse... it just sounds like a fucked up night that went wrong. I've been friends with her for 3 years and this is the FIRST time I've ever seen her say anything negative about her DH. That being said... you should have PT'd this one!!



Was he a douche? Yes. Will you forgive him? I certainly hope so... Don't let the behavior fly, but at the same time understand that he's just a human. He made a mistake. He was a grade A a*****e! I hope he grovels at your feet... because that's what I would demand :lol:

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting T-Swizzle+2:</b>" She was just trying to vent. It doesn't make her husband a bad marine or her the victim of abuse... it ... [snip!] ... human. He made a mistake. He was a grade A a*****e! I hope he grovels at your feet... because that's what I would demand :lol:"</blockquote>




Saying he wants a divorce made him a bad husband in the moment.



Getting drunk at his one weekend a month military duty and his unit members having to check on his family for him, yeah I highly doubt that warned him a lot of respect in his new unit.



Getting mad at me for stating that when she's less mad at him for DOING that, is an issue that she should probably look into. Why is me stating the obvious more offensive than him having done it?

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
3rd Mar '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Always♥Faithful:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... angry at ME, and defending HIM. I'm not the one who went off on you and asked for a divorce, he is. Redirect your anger."


I'm not angry at you, nor him anymore. There isn't any anger to redirect. I'm telling you that you do not know him to jump to conclusions. Yes, you can read. He made a mistake, yes. He is not a bad Marine nor a bad husband. He was drunk, got mad and said things he didn't mean. Shit happens. He is paying for it, he was not himself last night, and he is very disappointed in himself. And in the almost 4 years we have been married, this is the only time he has ever done anything like this. If I felt like this was habitual behaviour, I wouldn't deal with it. I would have been gone, but it's not.Him and I will sort out what happened last night, and work through it because this one instance isn't worth breaking up our family. It was one night of him messing up when otherwise he is a great person and a very good Marine So you knowing ONE night of making a mistake gives no concrete judgement of him, his career as a Marine, or our marriage. You are speculating as best.

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21664 posts
3rd Mar '13
Quoting T-Swizzle+2:" She was just trying to vent. It doesn't make her husband a bad marine or her the victim of abuse... it ... [snip!] ... human. He made a mistake. He was a grade A a*****e! I hope he grovels at your feet... because that's what I would demand :lol:"



Thank you! I appreciate it.

He was most definitely a grade A a*****e, and he is paying for it dearly. He is beating himself up pretty bad. He knows this isn't something I will get over overnight, but I know we will get through this.

Pistol Annie☆ 2 kids; Houston, TX, United States 12659 posts
3rd Mar '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting T-Swizzle+2:</b>" She was just trying to vent. It doesn't make ... [snip!] ... that, is an issue that she should probably look into. Why is me stating the obvious more offensive than him having done it?"

She's getting mad because you're acting like you know her life. You're also being judgmental as f**k. Move along now :roll:



Please plllllease if you want to vent do a PT. All these newbies around here seem to think they're psychiatrists... or even worse.. perfect :lol:

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
3rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting T-Swizzle+2:</b>" She's getting mad because you're acting like you know her life. You're also being judgmental as f**k. ... [snip!] ... if you want to vent do a PT. All these newbies around here seem to think they're psychiatrists... or even worse.. perfect :lol:"</blockquote>




Please quote where I pretended to know him. And then explain to me how important your post count is, oh wise one.

GTFOGTFO 6 kids; Italy 5611 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting T-Swizzle+2:</b>" She's getting mad because you're acting like ... [snip!] ... Please quote where I pretended to know him. And then explain to me how important your post count is, oh wise one."


You didn't out right say, "I know him and he's a douche.", but you were definitely acting like a know-it-all and insinuating.



Give it up. Shit happens. Move along.

GTFOGTFO 6 kids; Italy 5611 posts
4th Mar '13

I hope you guys worked it out. I've been there and so has DH. We finally had to set up some boundaries with drinking... it can be a slippery slope if you don't.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -Kaysay-:</b>" You didn't out right say, "I know him and he's a douche.", but you were definitely acting like a know-it-all and insinuating. Give it up. Shit happens. Move along."</blockquote>




Yeah? Did I insinuate it by saying he yelled at her and asked for a divorce, and another marine called and asked if she was okay?