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Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; Damn near Canada, MT, United States 8916 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys}:" if you need help, when you are ready, let me know. i'm making one for DD with her baby clothes and i'd love to help you"


that would be great if you wouldn't mind. I can't quilt :/

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
4th Mar '13

When my grandfather passed, my grandma said a lot of his favorite things in a space bag and stored it in her closet. The rest of his clothes she donated to the VA because he was passionate about homeless vets. I think the quilt is a good idea

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
4th Mar '13

I am sooo very sorry for your loss. When my father died, my mom kept most of his stuff, and gave other family member's things of his that kept his memory alive to them. Also my mom gave my sister & I things of his to hold on to. I think that some of his left over clothes she donated as well. The quilt idea is an awesome idea as well.

Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys} 3 kids; Cincinnati, Oh, United States 24256 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" that would be great if you wouldn't mind. I can't quilt :/"


i'm still learning. her's is almost finished then i'm doing my boys'. i'd want to make yours perfectly, obviously, so i'm getting there with practice :)

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22497 posts
status 4th Mar '13

I wanted to say, to you, I'm incredibly sorry for your loss. My heart has been broken ever since I found out about this.

Jennasmommy:) 1 child; Selma, North Carolina 635 posts
4th Mar '13

I love the quilt idea. That is wonderful. I am so sorry Ashley. I wouldn't start for a while until you are ready. It may take a while. Take some time and hold on to everything he had until it is possible for you and Hank to let go of some of it. Donating it to a children's hospital was another wonderful idea. Maybe pass little sentimental items to really close relatives so they have something to hold onto as well. I am praying for you always. He was such a beautiful boy.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" The quilt is an amazing idea. I live too far away to the nearest councler *three hours* too go to one."


If you don't know how to quilt, feel free to send me what you'd like made into one, and I will make it for you. I can even embroider his name and dates on it for you.

~ Ez's MoM ~ 33 kids; Zimbabwe 3436 posts
4th Mar '13

My condolences to you and your family. as others have said, just try and take your time. a quilt is a great idea, also maybe ask others if there is something they would like to remember him with like aunts uncles or your parents ect. This must be like a living hell for you. i cant even begin to imagine :(

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" I don't plan to do it for a few weeks. I can't go into his room. I can't even look down the hallway to ... [snip!] ... hand store *sorry*. Does anyone who's gone through something like this know what I should do or have any ideas? My son was 8."


Bring them into the battered womens shelter. You can also take them to the women and children shelter. It is on First Ave.



Honestly though, I think if I were you, I would hold on to them until you were ready to pack them up and give them away. There is no rush. It is all on your clock.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" that would be great if you wouldn't mind. I can't quilt :/"


PSHHHH, yes you can! I can teach you. It is easy :wink:

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
4th Mar '13

This may sound weird, but besides sentimental things, keep one of his dirty shirts.



I did with my dad, and still to this day (9 years later) if I'm upset and missing him more than usual, i go smell it and lay with it and it still smells like him.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; Damn near Canada, MT, United States 8916 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Not tellin:" PSHHHH, yes you can! I can teach you. It is easy :wink:"


oooooooooooooor you could do it lol

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; Damn near Canada, MT, United States 8916 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" This may sound weird, but besides sentimental things, keep one of his dirty shirts. I did with my dad, ... [snip!] ... day (9 years later) if I'm upset and missing him more than usual, i go smell it and lay with it and it still smells like him."


he had this pair of old dirty, warn out cowboy boots. I'm sure they were too small but he insisted on wearing them all the time. They were muddy and probably smelled like cow shit from being out at the barn. We displayed them at the funeral and they went with him.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:</b>" oooooooooooooor you could do it lol"</blockquote>




As soon as I finish the one I started last year for Anthony's big boy bed. Lol I have project ADHD. Lol I start them and don't finish.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; Damn near Canada, MT, United States 8916 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Not tellin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:</b>" oooooooooooooor you could do it lol"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... as I finish the one I started last year for Anthony's big boy bed. Lol I have project ADHD. Lol I start them and don't finish."


That's how I am with my jewelry.