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...lll 1 child; Rutland, Vermont 1400 posts
4th Mar '13

ehh... i dont know... i would be livid and try to option adoption but if they were gun ho... i mean what are you going to do... although a baby shower feels like your rewarding the situation but then again it helps them get all the stuff they need.

Bri + 1.5 <3 Due October 20 (girl); 1 child; Florida 4344 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jenna+1:</b>" I would, the child's age has nothing to do with what the baby is going to need and that the mother will ... [snip!] ... an older mother IMO. They need to learn its time to grow up and this is what your "party" life is gonna look like from now on."</blockquote>




This is basically my reason for saying I would. I just didn't quite know how to word it.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting CerealMakerWife♥:" Probably. As much as I would be sooo mad I would still try to be positive about it and I know a shower would help them out. It also kind of depends on my kids attitude at the time."


I just think I'd feel awkward. It's safe to assume that most of the guest would be in the same age range.



"Hey, Mom/Dad, can I borrow money so I can buy my friend a baby shower gift? or his/her friends would ask if they could be dropped off at BRU.



I think my biggest issue is having a happy gathering with a bunch of teens that involves the celebration of a baby. I'm not saying that they can't be happy, or celebrate the child, but...Idk. I can't think how to word this properly, but it just seems awkward as f**k to me.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
4th Mar '13

If my teenage daughter got pregnant and for some reason chose to parent it, I would have a shower for her. Otherwise it'll be her father and I footing the bill and regardless of the age of the new mother, a baby has needs, some of those needs are material and a shower will help fill those.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" I just think I'd feel awkward. It's safe to assume that most of the guest would be in the same age range. ... [snip!] ... be happy, or celebrate the child, but...Idk. I can't think how to word this properly, but it just seems awkward as f**k to me."</blockquote>




I think in most cases it would be mainly family attending the shower though.

Zepplin's Mommy :) 1 child; Magnolia, Delaware 911 posts
4th Mar '13

as much i would not want my child to get pregnant or be a father at such a young age, i would throw one because they would get alot of stuff they will need and every little help counts. Plus if they are like 14, 15 they wont really have jobs to help pay for things so whatever they can get as gifts or from other friends/family for free would help out everyone.

Carter&Violet♥ She Gone! 2 kids; Virginia 14177 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" I just think I'd feel awkward. It's safe to assume that most of the guest would be in the same age range. ... [snip!] ... be happy, or celebrate the child, but...Idk. I can't think how to word this properly, but it just seems awkward as f**k to me."</blockquote>




Hm see I think it would be mostly family at that age.

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
4th Mar '13

Definitely not.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" I just think I'd feel awkward. It's safe to assume ... [snip!] ... seems awkward as f**k to me."</blockquote> I think in most cases it would be mainly family attending the shower though."

But that's the thing, I'm seeing pictures on FB of kids at the shower. I mean, not 'kids', but teenagers.



Obviously you can have whoever you want at the shower, but I'm just stunned at the photos. I think that's what I can't get over.



I'd still help my child with baby gear and such, but that kind of shower weirds me out for some reason.

CerealMakerWife♥ TTC since Apr 2013; 5 kids; Ukraine 36287 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 624582:" I just think I'd feel awkward. It's safe to assume that most of the guest would be in the same age range. ... [snip!] ... be happy, or celebrate the child, but...Idk. I can't think how to word this properly, but it just seems awkward as f**k to me."


I went to a few baby showers when I was around 17 for friends. It was mostly their family and close friends. I bought their gift. Idk. I don't really remember it being to weird. We all knew she screwed up, but wanted to support her and make it not a totally depressing time.

Mama♥Breezy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, California 34988 posts
4th Mar '13

I'd be upset about it, but I would still throw her (or his girlfriend) a baby shower if they were keeping the baby.



I got a shower with both of my kids, I was 16 with my first. I knew my parents were upset, and my family was disappointed, but their support meant a lot to me. It wasn't about the gifts, don't get me wrong they were nice, but I really enjoyed them showing love for my baby, and celebrating his life. I didn't have friends at my baby shower, it was all family.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Carter&Violet♥:" Well either way the grandchild is coming, it's not the baby's fault. I wouldn't be happy, but I'd throw one to celebrate the baby."


I agree

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 624582:" But that's the thing, I'm seeing pictures on FB of kids at the shower. I mean, not 'kids', but teenagers. ... [snip!] ... what I can't get over. I'd still help my child with baby gear and such, but that kind of shower weirds me out for some reason."


I wouldn't be ok with my daughters going to showers for their teen friends.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" I just think I'd feel awkward. It's safe to assume ... [snip!] ... seems awkward as f**k to me."</blockquote> I think in most cases it would be mainly family attending the shower though."</blockquote>




Yeah, I wouldn't be inviting her little teenaged friends to come celebrate at a baby shower like a bunch of adults. I would try to keep it to jut family. If her friends want to throw her one on their own they can organize it themselves.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 624582:" But that's the thing, I'm seeing pictures on FB of kids at the shower. I mean, not 'kids', but teenagers. ... [snip!] ... what I can't get over. I'd still help my child with baby gear and such, but that kind of shower weirds me out for some reason."

Does it shock you equally to see pregnant teens? (Not trying to sound rude)