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Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting SavageDarling:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:</b>" I without a doubt would have a baby shower ... [snip!] ... if your teenager opted for that option? Would be as supportive? Would you think she was a strong woman for making that choice?"


I know you weren't talking to me, but I would prefer my own daughter has a family when she herself is ready. So I'd support her if she wanted to abort, or wanted to keep it.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" I know you weren't talking to me, but I would prefer my own daughter has a family when she herself is ready. So I'd support her if she wanted to abort, or wanted to keep it."</blockquote>



I know that your daughter is 17 almost 18 now, would you feel differently I she were 14 or 15? Would you prefer an abortion if she were younger?
I think there is a big difference, as far as maturity and decision making ability, at 17-18 than at 14-15.
I'm just curious.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting SavageDarling:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" I know you weren't talking to me, but ... [snip!] ... I think there is a big difference, as far as maturity and decision making ability, at 17-18 than at 14-15. I'm just curious."


I believe at 14-15, I would have swayed her more towards abortion. Today, I'd probably voice my concern and wishes, but she's so close to legal age that she can make the choice

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" I believe at 14-15, I would have swayed her more towards abortion. Today, I'd probably voice my concern and wishes, but she's so close to legal age that she can make the choice"</blockquote>



Agree I was just curious what your feeling were on the matter. If my young teen became pregnant, I would strongly encourage abortion, although no matter what it's ultimately her choice.
At 17-18, I would still encourage her to consider abortion, but I would be more open to her making the decision on her own.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
5th Mar '13

Yes.

Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 657 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting SavageDarling:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:</b>" I without a doubt would have a baby shower ... [snip!] ... if your teenager opted for that option? Would be as supportive? Would you think she was a strong woman for making that choice?"

That is such a good question, and I've definitley thought about it. It would crush me if she chose to abort and I know my husband would be a little more stubborn and narrow minded about it. But it would be ultimately be up to my daughter. I would support her in her decision, but I would let her know that her dad and I would fully support her baby and would either help her raise the baby or raise the baby as ours (if thats what she chose). Dont get me wrong I would try and convince her to keep that baby because of my beliefs but I wouldnt shun her if she decided to abort. Id just let her be fully aware of her options and that her father and I would be there to support her. I know my husband would be a lil more pushy on keeping the baby because he is very against abortion. Especially in his and my situation (we got pregnant a month into our relationship and both made the decision that we werent careful enough to not get pregnant it was our responsibilty to our unborn to man up and become parents).

** A.J's Mommy** 1 child; New Paltz, New York 805 posts
5th Mar '13

Of course I would throw them a baby shower! It's a celebration welcoming a little one into the world!

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:</b>" That is such a good question, and I've definitley thought about it. It would crush me if she chose to ... [snip!] ... that we werent careful enough to not get pregnant it was our responsibilty to our unborn to man up and become parents)."</blockquote>




I'm relieved to read that. I see so many women on here who say they are opposed to abortion but don't have any judgment for a woman who chooses it. Then say that abortion would not be an option should their own child end up in an unwanted pregnancy. It's seems really hypocritical to me so I like hearing people who are opposed to it personally, still believe that it would be their child's choice if they were ever in that position.



Hopefully neither of our daughters ever have to make such a difficult decision. I've been in that position and its a terrible and scary place to be, being young, pregnant, and unsure of your future.

Take me as I am 18 kids; Wyoming 1669 posts
5th Mar '13

Hell to the NO lol

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" Your teen gets pregnant, while living in your home, I'm thinking more along the lines of 14-17, would ... [snip!] ... to come off as a judgmental c**t, it's just something that struck me as odd and I'm not sure how I feel about it. Thoughts?"</blockquote>




I would.
The baby should still be celebrated. It's not his/her fault they.

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
5th Mar '13

I guess my opinion still doesn't change. I know I would end up being the one buying everything so why throw a party? As much as people deny it, the party is more for the mother than the baby. The baby doesn't give a damn that it has a boppy.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" But that's the thing, I'm seeing pictures on FB of kids at the shower. I mean, not 'kids', but teenagers. ... [snip!] ... what I can't get over. I'd still help my child with baby gear and such, but that kind of shower weirds me out for some reason."</blockquote>




I don't see it any different than an actual child going. I went to several as a kid and as a teen (some of them were for teens), it didn't make me want a baby...



I would also say stuff to my kids' friends about how rough it's going to be.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" I guess my opinion still doesn't change. I know I would end up being the one buying everything so why ... [snip!] ... As much as people deny it, the party is more for the mother than the baby. The baby doesn't give a damn that it has a boppy."</blockquote>




That's your opinion on it though. The baby needs diapers and clothes. If anything, I'd throw a diaper party.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" But that's the thing, I'm seeing pictures on FB ... [snip!] ... were for teens), it didn't make me want a baby... I would also say stuff to my kids' friends about how rough it's going to be."


At the shower? No sarcasm intended, I'm just curious.



Because that sounds like a really shitty shower for the pregnant teen.



The more that I think about it the more I just see it as glorifying the situation. Yeah, it can't be changed, I get that, but I just can't see myself on board with it at this point. I know I'm running in circles and saying the same things, but I just don't see throwing a shower for my pregnant teen as a good time even if it's with family only. Perhaps it is because I just can't get past the thoughts of feeling extremely disappointed.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
6th Mar '13

My mom threw me one.



I needed the help, and a baby should still always be celebrated and loved.