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Surrogate refuses abortion. Turns down 10k offer Monica♥YASDYARDFR Due February 27 (girl); TTC since Jan 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Beverly Hills, California 57197 posts
Mar 4th '13

Should a surrogate get a say in the termination for a child? This child was diagnosed as having a cleft palate, heart issues, issues with her organ, among other physical abnormalities. She will need lots of surgeries in hopes to lead a somewhat normal life. The family decided they couldn't raise the child and told the surrogate they wanted an abortion. She refused. They offered her 10k and she said 15k. She claims it was a moment of weakness. The surrogate was carrying a donor's egg that was fertilized with the couple's sperm. She did not know that last fact until the end. The surrogate fled a non surrogacy recognizing state and gave the baby up for adoption. What are your thoughts?



http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/04/health/surrogacy-kelley-legal-battle/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
Mar 4th '13

I think when you agree to be a surrogate that the parents basically have a say so over everything pregnancy related. Including abortion. It should of been in the contract though.

1inpink3inblue Due December 7 (boy); 3 kids; Switzerland 13162 posts
Mar 4th '13

I think it should be her decision since she is carrying the child.

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
Mar 4th '13

Should have been in their contract. Otherwise the surrogate can so as she sees fit

Monica♥YASDYARDFR Due February 27 (girl); TTC since Jan 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Beverly Hills, California 57197 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I think when you agree to be a surrogate that the parents basically have a say so over everything pregnancy related. Including abortion. It should of been in the contract though."


She disputed the contract.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8119 posts
Mar 4th '13

I think of it's an issue relating to the life of the child the surrogate should not have a say. If it is an issue relating to the life of the surrogate her opinion should be the only one that matters.

T♥B♥A Due June 27; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Denver, CO, United States 12591 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Yes because it's her body. But if she decides to go against the family's wishes all bets are off - it ... [snip!] ... all bets are off - it should be up to HER to take care of the baby whether she decides to keep it or put it up for adoption. "


this.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I think when you agree to be a surrogate that the parents basically have a say so over everything pregnancy related. Including abortion. It should of been in the contract though."


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Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
Mar 4th '13

It's not the surrogates child therefore she should have aborted. She should have known that would have been a possibility before she decided to be a surrogate

human making in progress 2 kids; Port Orchard, Washington 7986 posts
Mar 4th '13

I think it should be in the contract, that she would have to sign to agree if they decide they want to do abortion, so she knows up front.
but if its not in the contract, I say she has her say about it. its her body. This is something that can change her body just as much as having the baby would. So if it's not in the original contract, then a contract needs to be made, by willing individuals. if she is not willing, then tough luck.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:" She disputed the contract. "

Then she is in the wrong. She knew what she was getting herself into and if she wasnt ok with all the terms she never should of signed it.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
Mar 4th '13

No one should ever, ever, EVER be forced to have an abortion.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 20306 posts
Mar 4th '13

It's her body. I think it would be disgusting to make her go through a surgical procedure against her will.

Cass Hole 3 kids; Shiloh, IL, United States 7588 posts
Mar 4th '13

I'm actually in the process of becoming a surrogate and this is all usually written up in the contract. My personal opinion is no. She agreed to carry someone else's baby on their terms not her own so if a situation like this would have presented a problem for her then she shouldn't have become a surrogate to begin with.

T♥B♥A Due June 27; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Denver, CO, United States 12591 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" It's her body. I think it would be disgusting to make her go through a surgical procedure against her will."


this. like yes it wasn't "her" baby but she shouldn't have to have such an invasive procedure against her will and it's not like the bio parents are having to take care of a special needs child they didn't want..