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1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting ma ♥:" Get a job & move out. That might sound hard, but it's totally possible. If you become homeless there ... [snip!] ... give you. There is ALWAYS a way out if you're willing to work for it (& do without stuff in the meantime)... Don't give up."


I have two kids under school age and one in school. I can't afford day care and can't get assistance for it because DH makes to much money. And no one is willing to watch my kids for me even if I offered them a small amount of money to do so. Try again.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" He won't even talk to me hardly right ... [snip!] ... every day. At least until DH decides to stop being an ass whole."</blockquote> Can you go to the store by yourself?"


HE WON'T GIVE ME MONEY!

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" HE WON'T GIVE ME MONEY!"


<3



I really wish you lived closer.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Lauralie89:" I<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" Yeah everyone says that but I have yet ... [snip!] ... a job, help with daycare/head start program, food stamps, pretty much anything to get you going and away from that situation."


I tried calling a shelter and asking them for help already. They said they can't offer me any because emotional abuse is to hard to prove and my life isn't in immediate danger and their shelters are to full as it is.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I have two kids under school age and one in school. I can't afford day care and can't get assistance ... [snip!] ... much money. And no one is willing to watch my kids for me even if I offered them a small amount of money to do so. Try again."</blockquote>




Contact a shelter, disenroll your child. They have ways to get you to a new state.

user banned California 36390 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" HE WON'T GIVE ME MONEY!"</blockquote>




That's not what I asked. If you had money, could you go to the store?

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting bbbt:" <3 I really wish you lived closer."


Me too. I wish I had family that could help or a friend ANYTHING.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" HE WON'T GIVE ME MONEY!"</blockquote> That's not what I asked. If you had money, could you go to the store?"


Yes I could go to the store but am I suppose to steal the food? It wouldn't be that big a deal but DD's dad hasn't paid child support in a long time so I am flat as broke. I need to put gas in the car to get LO to the doctor for his check up this week and IDK how I am even going to manage that.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" Yeah everyone says that but I have yet to hear ONE realistic option as of how to do that that I haven't already thought of and/or tried."</blockquote>




First step: stop having his children
Step two: speak with a womans crisis center
Step three: put your pride aside and stay at your patents
There are options! Even if your family isn't willing to help!

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I have two kids under school age and one ... [snip!] ... to do so. Try again."</blockquote> Contact a shelter, disenroll your child. They have ways to get you to a new state."


I already said I called a shelter and they pretty much said I am SOL. Also I can't leave the state because it states in my custody papers I can't move more than 110 miles for my current residence with out DD's father's consent. Or else I would go stay with my dad in WV.

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" I have two kids under school age and one in school. I can't afford day care and can't get assistance ... [snip!] ... much money. And no one is willing to watch my kids for me even if I offered them a small amount of money to do so. Try again."


DH wouldn't count on the income limits though if you were to leave him.... So......



The cash aid program helps with ALOT. They make it pretty impossible to NOT find a job & be self efficient. They help with living costs, help with searching for a job, daycare, interview outfits, etc...

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting I'm actually a virgin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" Yeah everyone says that but I have yet ... [snip!] ... center Step three: put your pride aside and stay at your patents There are options! Even if your family isn't willing to help!"


Ok I haven't had sex with the man in like 2 month s now I think maybe a little less but feels like at least 2 months. Second I already called a shelter and they couldn't help. Lastly I am going to guess you mean parents and I am not welcome to stay at my mom's. She says she is tired of taking care of her kids when they are all adults and she wants all of them the f**k out of her house. And my dad lives in WV and I can't go to WV unless DD's dad says I can which I have talked to him about and he has already said no.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting ma ♥:" DH wouldn't count on the income limits though if you were to leave him.... So...... The cash aid program ... [snip!] ... a job & be self efficient. They help with living costs, help with searching for a job, daycare, interview outfits, etc..."


it is getting the money or place to go if I leave that is the problem though.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I already said I called a shelter and they pretty much said I am SOL. Also I can't leave the state because ... [snip!] ... move more than 110 miles for my current residence with out DD's father's consent. Or else I would go stay with my dad in WV."</blockquote>




I have a feeling we could give you a hundred options and you would find excuses. I really hate to say that and I hope I am wrong. But there is a way to get out but none of it will be easy or fun or fast but there are things you could be doing.

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Ok I haven't had sex with the man in like 2 month s now I think maybe a little less but feels like at ... [snip!] ... my dad lives in WV and I can't go to WV unless DD's dad says I can which I have talked to him about and he has already said no."


Leave DD with her father temporarily until you can get back on your feet?