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Mummy-2-2-Monsters Due July 11; 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 10475 posts
status 4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting jo-jo:</b>" I voted yes. If I had the physical and emotional strength, support ,money and the means I would no doubt ... [snip!] ... first hand how hard it can be and I take my hat off to those who care for a special needs child no matter what age they are."</blockquote>



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Even with my son who's special needs. I'd gladly adopt a special needs child.




My mother fosters special needs and abuse children. My little sister is special needs and fostered since she was 2, she's now 15. Off all medications, oxygen, feed tubes etc. and now weighing 30kg. She wants to change her last name to my parents last name when she's 18. She melts m heart and I would love to carry on what my mother does and did for her.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" Would you adopt a child with special needs?"


In all honesty, no I would not.
I would have an extremely hard time dealing with something like that if it were my own child so to say that I would elect to take on a responsibility of that magnitude would be a lie.

JΔ$ Georgia 77793 posts
4th Mar '13

No. I don't want the financial burden and I don't have the patience. Luckily, there are better people in the world than I.

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 21064 posts
4th Mar '13

This is going to make me sound terrible considering I do have a son with SN but...no I wouldn't. If I got pregnant again or if my daughter was diagnosed with SN later on then so be it...but I wouldn't sign up for it again on my own. It's hard enough with the one I have. If he wasn't SN, then I'd certainly consider it. And maybe when he was older, and more independent (possibly, if his autism improves) possibly. But as things stand now, no.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7804 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting jo-jo:</b>" I voted yes. If I had the physical and emotional ... [snip!] ... name to my parents last name when she's 18. She melts m heart and I would love to carry on what my mother does and did for her."</blockquote>



Oh thank goodness! I was starting to be really worried that people would think we were strange and in turn treat our dd and any child we adopted badly. It terrifies me because I really strongly feel that we should do it. But that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" Would you adopt a child with special needs?"


*UNLESS* of an extenuating circumstance.. like if one of my siblings were to give birth to the child and wasn't keeping it and no family was willing to keep it, then I probably would. It would be hard and I would question myself but I could more easily live with myself wondering everyday if I was capable then forever feeling guilty for not taking the child.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
4th Mar '13

To add, it does depend on what type of special needs. I'm fostering 2 nephews now who have some special needs. But I was thinking like DS, completely unable to care for their self, etc.

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 21064 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."


No one should question such generous people. I certainly wouldn't. There is a family that goes to Grant's therapy, they have 4 bio kids. ALL of them are some kind of SN. ASD, ADHD, Bi polar, mild DS, a combination of these, and there is another diagnosis I forgot. And they want to adopt more SN kids, or at least foster SN kids. She homeschools all of them, and everything. I just say god bless you both, you're better than I am

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18566 posts
4th Mar '13

Personally, nope.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14172 posts
4th Mar '13

It depends. But probably not. DS1 is special needs and it's tough. I don't think I could handle another.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters Due July 11; 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 10475 posts
status 4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kate & tilly:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."</blockquote>



It makes me sad really. Every wants to adopt a healthy perfect baby/ child. And these poor special needs children that are in need of a loving capable home are pushed aside because of their "special needs". Breaks my heart. I've seen and witnessed it first hand growing up.



I would definitely in a heart beat, no matter what. And if you want to, don't mind what other people say or think. You are giving a beautiful child a wonderful new life.

Dana +4 4 kids; Ontario 951 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."


I think it would be amazing of you to do such a nice thing. Who cares what others think. I have been raised around people with DS and other mental disabilities and would never adopt or foster.

jo-jo 2 kids; ..., SA, Australia 2310 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."


If you feel that strongly about it and know in your heart and mind you can do it then go for it. Regardless of what people say/think, it is a selfless thing to do and it is clear you are doing it for all the right reasons. If you have a great support net work behind you and are fully aware of what responsibility you are taking on and educate your self prior to commencing fostering or adopting you should be ok.
I wish you all the best.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
4th Mar '13

no. I personally would abort a child with special needs. I definitely wouldn't adopt one, if I wouldn't raise one of my own.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters Due July 11; 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 10475 posts
status 4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no. I personally would abort a child with special needs. I definitely wouldn't adopt one, if I wouldn't raise one of my own. "</blockquote>



Just curious. If your baby looked healthy during pregnancy and was born with a special need. Would you adopt it out?