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Mummy-2-3-Monsters 3 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 15734 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting jo-jo:</b>" I voted yes. If I had the physical and emotional strength, support ,money and the means I would no doubt ... [snip!] ... first hand how hard it can be and I take my hat off to those who care for a special needs child no matter what age they are."</blockquote>



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Even with my son who's special needs. I'd gladly adopt a special needs child.




My mother fosters special needs and abuse children. My little sister is special needs and fostered since she was 2, she's now 15. Off all medications, oxygen, feed tubes etc. and now weighing 30kg. She wants to change her last name to my parents last name when she's 18. She melts m heart and I would love to carry on what my mother does and did for her.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" Would you adopt a child with special needs?"


In all honesty, no I would not.
I would have an extremely hard time dealing with something like that if it were my own child so to say that I would elect to take on a responsibility of that magnitude would be a lie.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8119 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting jo-jo:</b>" I voted yes. If I had the physical and emotional ... [snip!] ... name to my parents last name when she's 18. She melts m heart and I would love to carry on what my mother does and did for her."</blockquote>



Oh thank goodness! I was starting to be really worried that people would think we were strange and in turn treat our dd and any child we adopted badly. It terrifies me because I really strongly feel that we should do it. But that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" Would you adopt a child with special needs?"


*UNLESS* of an extenuating circumstance.. like if one of my siblings were to give birth to the child and wasn't keeping it and no family was willing to keep it, then I probably would. It would be hard and I would question myself but I could more easily live with myself wondering everyday if I was capable then forever feeling guilty for not taking the child.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Mar 4th '13

To add, it does depend on what type of special needs. I'm fostering 2 nephews now who have some special needs. But I was thinking like DS, completely unable to care for their self, etc.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Mar 4th '13

Personally, nope.

Mummy-2-3-Monsters 3 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 15734 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kate & tilly:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."</blockquote>



It makes me sad really. Every wants to adopt a healthy perfect baby/ child. And these poor special needs children that are in need of a loving capable home are pushed aside because of their "special needs". Breaks my heart. I've seen and witnessed it first hand growing up.



I would definitely in a heart beat, no matter what. And if you want to, don't mind what other people say or think. You are giving a beautiful child a wonderful new life.

Dana +4 4 kids; Ontario 951 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."


I think it would be amazing of you to do such a nice thing. Who cares what others think. I have been raised around people with DS and other mental disabilities and would never adopt or foster.

jo-jo 2 kids; ..., SA, Australia 2335 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... that it wouldn't be fair to the child we adopted or dd if no one would accept us or at least somewhat understand why we did it."


If you feel that strongly about it and know in your heart and mind you can do it then go for it. Regardless of what people say/think, it is a selfless thing to do and it is clear you are doing it for all the right reasons. If you have a great support net work behind you and are fully aware of what responsibility you are taking on and educate your self prior to commencing fostering or adopting you should be ok.
I wish you all the best.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Mar 4th '13

no. I personally would abort a child with special needs. I definitely wouldn't adopt one, if I wouldn't raise one of my own.

Mummy-2-3-Monsters 3 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 15734 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no. I personally would abort a child with special needs. I definitely wouldn't adopt one, if I wouldn't raise one of my own. "</blockquote>



Just curious. If your baby looked healthy during pregnancy and was born with a special need. Would you adopt it out?

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no. I personally would abort a child with ... [snip!] ... Just curious. If your baby looked healthy during pregnancy and was born with a special need. Would you adopt it out?"

no, depends on what is considered Special needs. For anything like Downs or worse, I wouldn't take preventative measures to save its life. I would make him or her comfortable, but I wouldn't want them to suffer a life time. I'd let them pass peacefully.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8119 posts
Mar 4th '13

Thank you all for your input! We have a lot to think about and do before we can start even fostering. But I'm pretty set on going for it. I guess I just started worrying after we told a few relatives and got such negative feedback. I have worked with special needs children and adults, though I do realize that there is a huge difference between providing a service for someone and being their parent.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Mar 4th '13

No. I work with adults with special needs. I couldn't go home to a child with them too. I'd burn out.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no, depends on what is considered Special needs. For anything like Downs or worse, I wouldn't take preventative ... [snip!] ... its life. I would make him or her comfortable, but I wouldn't want them to suffer a life time. I'd let them pass peacefully. "</blockquote>




Downs isn't something they usually needs life- saving medical intervention at birth.