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Mummy-2-3-Monsters 3 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 15734 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 8 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no, depends on what is considered Special ... [snip!] ... pass peacefully. "</blockquote> Downs isn't something they usually needs life- saving medical intervention at birth."</blockquote>




Some do need heart surgery though, therapies, and help with feeding at first though. My sons cardiologist has quite a few downs patients.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 8 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" ... [snip!] ... heart surgery though, therapies, and help with feeding at first though. My sons cardiologist has quite a few downs patients."</blockquote>




You would starve your living child if they needed feeding assistance :?



Eta just saw it was a different poster

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no, depends on what is considered Special ... [snip!] ... pass peacefully. "</blockquote> Downs isn't something they usually needs life- saving medical intervention at birth."


depends on the severity. I would probably adopt out if it was a mild case.

Mummy-2-3-Monsters 3 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 15734 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 8 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... has quite a few downs patients."</blockquote> You would starve your living child if they needed feeding assistance :?"</blockquote>




No I definitely wouldn't. My son is special needs.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... has quite a few downs patients."</blockquote> You would starve your living child if they needed feeding assistance :?"


of course I wouldn't starve a living being. I may not agree with raising special needs children doesn't mean I'd be cruel and starve them.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Mar 4th '13

Let me clarify. If the child is going to suffer or NOT be able to live a normal life and care for itself, I would abort OR if it went undetected, I would either let the child pass painlessly w/out suffering OR If it was something like Mild Downs where they wouldn't suffer, but would need round the clock care, I'd adopt out. I wouldn't want that kind of burden thrown on my existing children when I'm gone. They shouldn't be expected to care for their sibling when I'm gone. I don't have the means to put them in a facility who will care for them the way they should be when I get too old to care for them. If someone else wants that burden, they are welcome to it. I personally don't.

Mummy-2-3-Monsters 3 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 15734 posts
Mar 4th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" Let me clarify. If the child is going to suffer or NOT be able to live a normal life and care for itself, ... [snip!] ... should be when I get too old to care for them. If someone else wants that burden, they are welcome to it. I personally don't. "</blockquote>




Fair enough I was just curious about an unexpected special needs child.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Mar 4th '13

I would not adopt a special needs child unless they had like DS or dwarfism. I would adopt a child with dwarfism before I adopted a DS child.
If I got pregnant and was told my child would be special needs other than what I mentioned above, I would probably abort.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
Mar 4th '13

I have a child (possible children.. LO is still too young too know for sure, but appears to be behind and considering his brother it is a possibility)... Who has special needs, and yes, I would adopt a SN child. I don't know everything, but I would be willing to learn what I don't know to help them meet their potential.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Mar 4th '13
Quoting Devil Duckie:" Let me clarify. If the child is going to suffer or NOT be able to live a normal life and care for itself, ... [snip!] ... should be when I get too old to care for them. If someone else wants that burden, they are welcome to it. I personally don't. "


If they had mild Down's, they wouldn't need round the clock care. That's what the "mild" means, right? lol..

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
Mar 5th '13

Nope. To be fair I wouldn't adopt a child who wasn't SN either.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Devil Duckie:" no, depends on what is considered Special needs. For anything like Downs or worse, I wouldn't take preventative ... [snip!] ... its life. I would make him or her comfortable, but I wouldn't want them to suffer a life time. I'd let them pass peacefully. "


lots of kids w/downs are pretty healthy aside from the chromosome disorder itself so the option to allow them to ''pass'' comfortably is not a realistic one....

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8816 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting S U Z I E:" If they had mild Down's, they wouldn't need round the clock care. That's what the "mild" means, right? lol.."

All babies require round the clock care :)
Its sad that so many people dont even understand the differences in ''specail needs'' cases :( A mild case of downs may require some extra occupational/speach therapy to get through developemental delays but severe case arent neccessarily life threatening but do require round the clock medical care......

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23152 posts
Mar 5th '13

It would depend on the needs.
I'm an older mom and i see how perspectives in life change over decades. I would not willingly sign up for a life-long commitment to a child's special needs. I'd consider adoptig a child with special needs that would likely be an independent adult some day. I dont want to be a 70 yr old woman providing for a significant amount of an adult-child's needs.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
Mar 5th '13

I would like to. Once my own kids are out of high school and no longer have major needs for me, I would have the time and attention available for a child with special needs. This is also assuming we are financially able to. If all that came to pass, and I was given the opportunity, yes, in a heartbeat!