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Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no. I personally would abort a child with ... [snip!] ... Just curious. If your baby looked healthy during pregnancy and was born with a special need. Would you adopt it out?"

no, depends on what is considered Special needs. For anything like Downs or worse, I wouldn't take preventative measures to save its life. I would make him or her comfortable, but I wouldn't want them to suffer a life time. I'd let them pass peacefully.

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7068 posts
4th Mar '13

Thank you all for your input! We have a lot to think about and do before we can start even fostering. But I'm pretty set on going for it. I guess I just started worrying after we told a few relatives and got such negative feedback. I have worked with special needs children and adults, though I do realize that there is a huge difference between providing a service for someone and being their parent.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
4th Mar '13

No. I work with adults with special needs. I couldn't go home to a child with them too. I'd burn out.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no, depends on what is considered Special needs. For anything like Downs or worse, I wouldn't take preventative ... [snip!] ... its life. I would make him or her comfortable, but I wouldn't want them to suffer a life time. I'd let them pass peacefully. "</blockquote>




Downs isn't something they usually needs life- saving medical intervention at birth.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8949 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 8 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no, depends on what is considered Special ... [snip!] ... pass peacefully. "</blockquote> Downs isn't something they usually needs life- saving medical intervention at birth."</blockquote>




Some do need heart surgery though, therapies, and help with feeding at first though. My sons cardiologist has quite a few downs patients.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 8 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" ... [snip!] ... heart surgery though, therapies, and help with feeding at first though. My sons cardiologist has quite a few downs patients."</blockquote>




You would starve your living child if they needed feeding assistance :?



Eta just saw it was a different poster

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" no, depends on what is considered Special ... [snip!] ... pass peacefully. "</blockquote> Downs isn't something they usually needs life- saving medical intervention at birth."


depends on the severity. I would probably adopt out if it was a mild case.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8949 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 8 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... has quite a few downs patients."</blockquote> You would starve your living child if they needed feeding assistance :?"</blockquote>




No I definitely wouldn't. My son is special needs.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting 8 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... has quite a few downs patients."</blockquote> You would starve your living child if they needed feeding assistance :?"


of course I wouldn't starve a living being. I may not agree with raising special needs children doesn't mean I'd be cruel and starve them.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
4th Mar '13

Let me clarify. If the child is going to suffer or NOT be able to live a normal life and care for itself, I would abort OR if it went undetected, I would either let the child pass painlessly w/out suffering OR If it was something like Mild Downs where they wouldn't suffer, but would need round the clock care, I'd adopt out. I wouldn't want that kind of burden thrown on my existing children when I'm gone. They shouldn't be expected to care for their sibling when I'm gone. I don't have the means to put them in a facility who will care for them the way they should be when I get too old to care for them. If someone else wants that burden, they are welcome to it. I personally don't.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8949 posts
4th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" Let me clarify. If the child is going to suffer or NOT be able to live a normal life and care for itself, ... [snip!] ... should be when I get too old to care for them. If someone else wants that burden, they are welcome to it. I personally don't. "</blockquote>




Fair enough I was just curious about an unexpected special needs child.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21129 posts
4th Mar '13

I would not adopt a special needs child unless they had like DS or dwarfism. I would adopt a child with dwarfism before I adopted a DS child.
If I got pregnant and was told my child would be special needs other than what I mentioned above, I would probably abort.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
4th Mar '13

I have a child (possible children.. LO is still too young too know for sure, but appears to be behind and considering his brother it is a possibility)... Who has special needs, and yes, I would adopt a SN child. I don't know everything, but I would be willing to learn what I don't know to help them meet their potential.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18555 posts
4th Mar '13
Quoting Devil Duckie:" Let me clarify. If the child is going to suffer or NOT be able to live a normal life and care for itself, ... [snip!] ... should be when I get too old to care for them. If someone else wants that burden, they are welcome to it. I personally don't. "


If they had mild Down's, they wouldn't need round the clock care. That's what the "mild" means, right? lol..

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
5th Mar '13

Nope. To be fair I wouldn't adopt a child who wasn't SN either.