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Soon-to-be parents living apart, should I be induced? Though Anna Aho Due March 15 (boy); Japan 7 posts
5th Mar '13

I'm about to have my son in a few days or a few weeks.
His dad lives about 50 minutes away from me, we lived together for 9 months but there were...lets say complications with the living situation.
I had to move back in with my parents. They both work all day.



In January he got in a car accident and he got scammed with a car he bought off craigslist, so he really has no reliable transportation besides his mom and she works also.
I'm almost 39 weeks and I'm a pretty emotional person (probably the understatement of the year) I'm so nervous about my water breaking and me being here by myself, I feel like I wouldn't be able to handle it.



I really need the father of my child when I go into labor, but the last thing I want to do is to hurt my son or jeopardize his health.
I'm not just going to rush into this, I'm definitely going to talk to my obgyn.
I feel like this might be taken as me being selfish, but with how anxious I get I feel like it would be better for everyone to have the date set and everything worked out and talked through.



If you have been induced, can you please let me know your experience?
What are the main health concerns of inducing at 39 weeks?



If you're going to say something negative, judgmental or just be a general bitch, don't bother to comment. I'm really not interested in being told I'm a horrible person for considering this. Thank you.

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7276 posts
5th Mar '13

Can your bd come down & stay with you until the babys born or maybe he can get a close motel

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7443 posts
status 5th Mar '13

Simple it sucks don't do it. Seriously unless there's a medical reason you shouldn't do it.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Anna Aho:</b>" I'm about to have my son in a few days or a few weeks. His dad lives about 50 minutes away from me, ... [snip!] ... bitch, don't bother to comment. I'm really not interested in being told I'm a horrible person for considering this. Thank you."</blockquote>




I was induced with all 3 of my babies and I didn't have any problems, the only thing I suggest is the epidural....

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Anna Aho:</b>" I'm about to have my son in a few days or a few weeks. His dad lives about 50 minutes away from me, ... [snip!] ... bitch, don't bother to comment. I'm really not interested in being told I'm a horrible person for considering this. Thank you."</blockquote>




I would skip the induction. Mainly because it makes labor harder and can cause unnecessary complications. You could deliver too fast and tear severely, need a c-section because you aren't dilating ect..



Is it possible that he can just come stay with you toward the end? Maybe have your membranes swept and have him come up that night. Usually that works within a day or so.

Squeaky McGee [7 wks] Due May 7; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65195 posts
5th Mar '13

Personally, for this reason, I would not induce. However, I understand that you want your SO there. Is this your first baby? First labors don't typically go very fast. Good luck in whatever you decide.

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7584 posts
5th Mar '13

This is your first baby more than likely even if you went into labor it would be a long time before baby came. Very few women actually have their water break at home. You should ask your ob if you really want it. I was induced due to medical complications at 39 weeks. It increases your risk of csection and I've heard it makes labor more intense. I don't know though because I've only given birth once. I would recommend not doing it. But making sure someone could get your boyfriend or he had money for a taxi or something. Can he come stay with you just till baby gets here?

PJ&C 2 kids; Arizona 18480 posts
5th Mar '13

I regret doing it,it took 36 hours and the whole time i had to stay in bed couldn't eat anything.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Anna Aho:" I'm about to have my son in a few days or a few weeks. His dad lives about 50 minutes away from me, ... [snip!] ... bitch, don't bother to comment. I'm really not interested in being told I'm a horrible person for considering this. Thank you."


ok.. not being a bitch, or judgemental, but I can give you the facts from a L&D nurse stand point.

being induced increases your risk of c-section. have you thought about the inconvenience of taking care of yourself and baby after a section? most people dont' have their water break.

if its' your first baby... labor is often long, not only is early labor long, but even after you get to 10 cm... most first time moms push for 1-3 HOURS.

while 39 weeks is typically a healthy time to have a baby... induction adds stress to your body and baby, and if your cervix isn't ready.. you'll end up being cut.

♥ The Prodigy Due March 3 (boy); 33 kids; Perth, Australia 5617 posts
5th Mar '13

i wouldnt do it.
im sure he can make it to the hospital in time, most 1st time moms have a long slow labour. mine was 32 hrs.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
5th Mar '13

The good news is even if you do go into labor by yourself, it isn't like the movies. Your water isn't going to break and you are pushing the baby out in 10 minutes. Natural labors usually take a good amount of time, especially if it is your first.



If you aren't showing any signs of labor at this point, like dilating or effacing, then I wouldn't consider it right now. You would have a greater risk of csection. Once you hit 40 weeks then I would base it on the evaluation of your doctor. Maybe you can go ahead and set a date after you are 40 weeks to be induced which may help you a little bit. I had an induction right at 40 weeks and everything went better than I could have expected.



Like others suggested maybe he can come stay with you until the baby is born? That way if something happens you will have him there.
I promise, even if you go into labor tonight, someone would have time to get him to you before anything happens.

Anna Aho Due March 15 (boy); Japan 7 posts
5th Mar '13

Hey, I appreciate all your replies.
He lives pretty far and its a weird situation.
My dad and step mom are very strict about how things go in this house.
They get mad if you turn the thermostat from 65 degrees to 66 degrees, tiny stuff really. My boyfriend gets really uncomfortable here, which I can completely understand. Every time he comes down he gets sick, when I moved back into their house I was sick for two weeks. I have no idea why honestly...the air maybe?
I didn't think about taking a taxi, that's probably super expensive...but do-able.

Jazzie Rose Due May 29 (boy); Australia 16 posts
5th Mar '13

you should see if he can stay with you for the rest of the pregnancy :)

Anna Aho Due March 15 (boy); Japan 7 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting ♥ axel sean n me:" i wouldnt do it. im sure he can make it to the hospital in time, most 1st time moms have a long slow labour. mine was 32 hrs."


Oh my gosh! 32 hours?

-BLT- Due May 20; 1 child; St Louis, Missouri 2572 posts
5th Mar '13

50 minutes away really isn't that far. Some women live 50 minutes from their hospital! I would either have him stay with you or the membrane sweep is a good idea too. He just needs to know that he's on call and needs to be ready to come right away. Does he want to be there with you?