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Phallus Cranium clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107866 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" I did read that she found a family to adopt the child. Thank GOD."


Oh, thats wonderful!

I'm so glad

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15854 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting loser mom:" I think it's possible the surrogate thought she would be able to go through with an abortion, then when ... [snip!] ... she wasn't able to. From what I understand, the baby was adopted by a family that has experience with special needs children. "


I could consider that if she hadn't counter offered.

Phallus Cranium clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107866 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting loser mom:" I think it's possible the surrogate thought she would be able to go through with an abortion, then when ... [snip!] ... she wasn't able to. From what I understand, the baby was adopted by a family that has experience with special needs children. "


It sounded to me like she would be able to go through with it for 15k

Thats the part that bothers me

Sanveann 3 kids; Michigan 22 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" right and who loses? Thats right, the kid. The kid that will never be adopted due to it's medical issues :cry::cry:"


The baby has a family (and had one lined up before she was born), and is doing great. According to the article: "They see a little girl who's defied the odds, who constantly surprises her doctors with what she's able to do -- make eye contact, giggle at her siblings, grab toys, eye strangers warily."



There is actually a nationwide network of parents willing to adopt babies with special-needs who are in danger of abortion.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
5th Mar '13

I don't know... I think it's easy to emotionally detach yourself from a situation and say "oh, yeah, I'll definitely be able to get an abortion". But, you don't really know how you'd handle that situation unless you've been in it.
I kind of surprised that a lot of the people who are always "you can't force a woman to keep a baby, it's her body, her choice!" Are the ones saying "she should've aborted." So, it ceases to be her body, her choice when she has someone else's baby in her? I don't get where the line is drawn.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
5th Mar '13

I am not sure who I would side with in the situation. I mean everyone is assuming that the surrogate signed the contract knowing she wouldn't have an abortion but before I actually got pregnant I thought I would have been able to have an abortion no problem if it wasn't convenient. I am still pro choice but after experiencing pregnancy and feeling a baby growing in my belly I personally would not have an abortion. Maybe she didn't realize how difficult of a choice having an abortion would be. I also don't think it was wrong of the parents to want her to abort.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10902 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" I could consider that if she hadn't counter offered. "


:shock:



I didn't know the surrogate counter offered. I probably misread, but she was offered 10k, declined it, so they offered 15k??



Did the surrogate ask for the 15K??

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting .t a y l o r.:" I don't know... I think it's easy to emotionally detach yourself from a situation and say "oh, yeah, ... [snip!] ... So, it ceases to be her body, her choice when she has someone else's baby in her? I don't get where the line is drawn."


This was her job. She made a choice. Her choice was to be a surrogate and everything that is involved. She signed a contract. It was not her choice. She could have easily NOT been a surrogate.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting .t a y l o r.:" I don't know... I think it's easy to emotionally detach yourself from a situation and say "oh, yeah, ... [snip!] ... So, it ceases to be her body, her choice when she has someone else's baby in her? I don't get where the line is drawn."


I think it has a lot to do with her entering into a contract that stipulated as such. I would never sign and agree to something that violates my personal believes expecially when it comes to something as important as abortion....

Sanveann 3 kids; Michigan 22 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting loser mom:" :shock: I didn't know the surrogate counter offered. I probably misread, but she was offered 10k, declined it, so they offered 15k?? Did the surrogate ask for the 15K??"


She said she did but then changed her mind:




Kelley had a counter offer. "In a weak moment I asked her to tell them that for $15,000 I would consider going forward with the termination," she said.
But as soon as she got in the car to go home, she regretted it, Kelley said.
Kron let Kelley know the parents had refused to pay $15,000. By that point, it didn't matter to Kelley -- she'd decided against abortion no matter what. Kron sent her an e-mail asking if she'd scheduled the appointment for the abortion.

Phallus Cranium clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107866 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Sanveann:" The baby has a family (and had one lined up before she was born), and is doing great. According to the ... [snip!] ... There is actually a nationwide network of parents willing to adopt babies with special-needs who are in danger of abortion. "


Well thats good to hear



What about all the special needs kids that are in the foster system or state custody?
Is there a group that adopts them as well as a fetus in danger of abortion?

When we were looking to adopt, it was heartbreaking how many beautiful, innocent children that were wards of the state b/c they were given up and not desireable for adoption due to special needs.



Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15854 posts
5th Mar '13

If we had been the IPs in this case there is no way I could have had that child placed for adoption. But at the same time if the child were to be lifelong dependent, I would hate for her to be born to parents who are 40. I feel awful for the IPs.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
5th Mar '13

If she didnt feel comfortable having an abortion then she did the right thing. However, I was confused about the 15K..Did the surrogate ask for it or did they off er 15K? If she wanted more money to have the abortion then shes an ass

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting loser mom:" :shock: I didn't know the surrogate counter offered. I probably misread, but she was offered 10k, declined it, so they offered 15k?? Did the surrogate ask for the 15K??"


The parents offered 10k to abort, the surrogate requested 15k (and then supposedly felt bad for asking for it) and the parents refused the counter offer.

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6883 posts
5th Mar '13

Its a really sad situation. I understand the bio parents wanted a termination. And against their wishes is didnt happen, i find it so so so sad that parents of a child can pretty much abandon their own baby because of health defects. Even if you get pregnant on your own theres always a risk you baby wont be "perfect". I understand the surrogate didnt comply with the contract, but i still cannot see how the parents who wanted that baby in the first place could just abandon her. Thank goodness a family adopted her.