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mommymassey 3 kids; Fort Worth, Texas 378 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting s00nt0be04:" Thank you. I didn't make a loud statement in front of other people and I wasn't rude when asking her ... [snip!] ... staring. I couldn't nor wouldn't remove my son because my daughters were still playing and we only had 15 minutes left there. "

I must have missed that you had other children there so no you couldnt remove him and if you choose not too regardless of your other children, that is your choice, if people have a problem with your son crying (or barely crying) then that is their problem. I cant say I would have said anything to her but that is just me. if you feel like you did the right thing and werent rude or drawing even more attention to yourself then you shouldnt feel bad for saying something to her. Hell for all we know her staring at your son could have made him realize that someone was paying attention to him and making it worse, I am not saying that is the case but throwing it out there.

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7685 posts
status 5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" I'm sorry, but 5 minutes of listening to someone elses kid in hysterics is too long."</blockquote>




I agree.

That girl Amber +2 2 kids; California 6981 posts
5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommymassey:</b>" I must have missed that you had other children there so no you couldnt remove him and if you choose not ... [snip!] ... that someone was paying attention to him and making it worse, I am not saying that is the case but throwing it out there."</blockquote>



Im sorry, but even 5 years ago it would be ridiculous to think that letting a child, especially one SIX years old, act out like this in public is ok. You are supposed to control your kids, or remove them from a situation until they get control of themselves. You dont get bitchy at someone because theyre staring at a scene your child is making.



THIS IS WHAT IS WRONG

mommymassey 3 kids; Fort Worth, Texas 378 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Amberchik78:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommymassey:</b>" I must have missed that you had other children ... [snip!] ... of themselves. You dont get bitchy at someone because theyre staring at a scene your child is making. THIS IS WHAT IS WRONG"

I personally would not have said anything and for that matter would have removed my child from the situation but what do you do when you cant remove them.. I have had a situation with my 2 year old and could not completely remove her but we did go to a quiet area of the store away from people to deal with the issue but it also only lasted like 2 seconds (even though it felt longer. lol)
I am not trying to sound like a B*tch, I am genuinely asking for a suggestion in case it happens with my DD because I am terrified of her having a meltdown in public and not being able to get to the car or home. DS was super easy and didnt have any problems.

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Amberchik78:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommymassey:</b>" I must have missed that you had other children ... [snip!] ... of themselves. You dont get bitchy at someone because theyre staring at a scene your child is making. THIS IS WHAT IS WRONG"


First off, kids will be kids in public! My children normally know how to act in public and a lot better than other children I know and see. And how the hell is crying to himself acting out!?! Every kid has cried in public whether they're hurt or upset children cry! When you go to your local grocery store and you see kids running around acting like animals is out of control my son wasn't out of control thank you! Mothers who slap their kids in public or yell at them in public cause themselves attention in which I did neither. Thanks for your input sweetheart but my son was in control he did what he was told and he cried to himself nothing to cause him attention! If you read the other comments as well I wasn't a bitch to her nor did I call her out in front of other parents I went up to her and calmly asked her if she had a problem because NO other parent was staring at my son! Every other child and parent first looked when they heard a cry then went about their business. When I am in public and someone's kid is crying I look yes but I don't continue to stare when 1) it isn't my child 2) the child is hurt 3) it's none of my business how that parent punished their own child. Now, if it would of been a place such as a church, funeral, family dinner or something of that nature yes I would of taken my son to the bathroom or somewhere out of sight till he stopped but it was a place where tons of kids were and loud inside. There was no need for me to remove him when he wasn't causing a scene!

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31612 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting s00nt0be04:" Thank you. I didn't make a loud statement in front of other people and I wasn't rude when asking her ... [snip!] ... staring. I couldn't nor wouldn't remove my son because my daughters were still playing and we only had 15 minutes left there. "


I understand. It was super rude of her to stare and you were already frustrated, so I can understand your reaction.



Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31612 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting s00nt0be04:" First off, kids will be kids in public! My children normally know how to act in public and a lot better ... [snip!] ... it was a place where tons of kids were and loud inside. There was no need for me to remove him when he wasn't causing a scene!"


I'm with you on this. My child is very well behaved and has fantastic manners, but like any kid he has his moments.
That drives me insane when I see kids running around like animals at the store or out to eat.

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Destinite:" I'm with you on this. My child is very well behaved and has fantastic manners, but like any kid he has ... [snip!] ... like any kid he has his moments. That drives me insane when I see kids running around like animals at the store or out to eat."


Right, or mothers screaming at their kids to listen when apparently the yelling isn't working but I mean my kids are really well behaved when we go anywhere of course they have their moments it's rare but I guess last Sunday was my son's moment. We went to DH's grandmothers funeral a month or so ago and my kids brought their DSi's and played and sat not running around nor jumping off furniture like SIL kids were which her oldest is 7 yrs old. I got so many compliments on how well my children were behaving during the service.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31612 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting s00nt0be04:" Right, or mothers screaming at their kids to listen when apparently the yelling isn't working but I ... [snip!] ... kids were which her oldest is 7 yrs old. I got so many compliments on how well my children were behaving during the service. "


That's awesome they were so well behaved.

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Destinite:" That's awesome they were so well behaved."


It was. I was stunned, but relieved that my children knew where to use their manners.

That girl Amber +2 2 kids; California 6981 posts
6th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0be04:</b>" First off, kids will be kids in public! My children normally know how to act in public and a lot better ... [snip!] ... it was a place where tons of kids were and loud inside. There was no need for me to remove him when he wasn't causing a scene!"</blockquote>



"Kids will be kids" is exactly the mentality I was talking about. Would your parents let you cry and make a scene for 10 minutes like that? Mine would certainly not have. My kids do NOT act out like that, and if they start, we leave. None of this 10 minutes to let them cry and work it out crap.

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting Amberchik78:" <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0be04:</b>" First off, kids will be kids in public! My ... [snip!] ... My kids do NOT act out like that, and if they start, we leave. None of this 10 minutes to let them cry and work it out crap."


If YOU read the entire thread and comments sweetheart I stated that my son was NOT causing a scene THANK YOU! He was crying to himself for roughly around 5 minutes if that NOT loudly or anything now if he would of been throwing things or slamming things or yelling for no reason YES I would have taken him outside or to a bathroom till he quiet down but that WAS NOT the case he was crying/whimpering quietly my son does NOT people looking at him the lady continued to stare even after he stopped crying for an additional 5 minutes, which was rude. All other parents and children took a quick glance to make sure it wasn't there kid and to make sure no one was hurt then went about their business this lady did NOT she continues to stare at my son though he wasn't doing anything to cause himself attention.

That girl Amber +2 2 kids; California 6981 posts
7th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0be04:</b>" If YOU read the entire thread and comments sweetheart I stated that my son was NOT causing a scene THANK ... [snip!] ... their business this lady did NOT she continues to stare at my son though he wasn't doing anything to cause himself attention. "</blockquote>



Keep telling yourself that. Just dont wonder why your kid is a brat when hes older--kids will be kids right?

s00nt0be04 4 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 543 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting Amberchik78:" <blockquote><b>Quoting s00nt0be04:</b>" If YOU read the entire thread and comments ... [snip!] ... Keep telling yourself that. Just dont wonder why your kid is a brat when hes older--kids will be kids right?"


Excuse me!?! You don't know my child(ren) nor how they are raised so for you to sit there and say my child will be a brat when he is older is completely out of line! He doesn't go around demanding things nor gets away with anything every action has a consequence. Yes, kids will be kids but to teach your child to stare at someone is rude! How would you like your child to stare at another child who has a disability what the hell is that? Then that mother of a disabled child confronts you or your child-she isn't being rude she is protecting her child from the points and stares of being different. Same concept it's rude to stare! Apparently, your mother didn't teach you that! So, please excuse yourself from this conversation because you have no clue how my child acts compared to others! You're a close minded individual with a mouth to go with it. My son works for extra money he wants so how is that a brat? My son gets praised when his actions allow it how is that being a brat? My son gets punished for doing something wrong how is that being a brat? It's not!!! So, I suggest you keep your mouth shut when you know nothing about me, my parenting skills, how I run my home or raise my children and how my kids act.