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user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I know this. Deep down, I know this. It's almost like I refuse to believe that he's capable of doing ... [snip!] ... him always have this feeling deep down like...what if my mom just stayed with my dad. Maybe we'd be a real family. Something..."


You wish you grew up watching your parents argue and be unhappy with one another? Would that have been better than them being apart?



Your husband does NOT love your son with everything he has, he's threatening to abandon him. Your son deserves a father who sticks around because he chooses to, not because he manipulated his mom into being miserable for the rest of her life.



Leave and find a man who stays with you because he WANTS to and treats you well because he WANTS you to stay around, and doesn't leave because h doesn't WANT to. And show your son what real love and a real relationship is.



Do you want your son to grow up and treat women the way his father is treating you?

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You wish you grew up watching your parents argue and be unhappy with one another? Would that have been ... [snip!] ... real love and a real relationship is. Do you want your son to grow up and treat women the way his father is treating you? "


You're right. You've been right. So, how do you find the courage to make the decision to change everything you've known for 5.5 years? How do you become okay with how things may turn out?

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" You're right. You've been right. So, how do you find the courage to make the decision to change everything you've known for 5.5 years? How do you become okay with how things may turn out?"


Are you okay with how things are?

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I know this. Deep down, I know this. It's almost like I refuse to believe that he's capable of doing ... [snip!] ... him always have this feeling deep down like...what if my mom just stayed with my dad. Maybe we'd be a real family. Something..."


You are feeling guilty over something that wouldn't be your fault, I get it, believe me I do. You aren't to blame for his actions though, don't take that on. If you leave him and in turn he chooses not to be an active parent that isn't your fault. That is his decision. You need to let go, it isn't your fault that this relationship isn't working out. At the very least make peace with the fact you gave it everything. Don't let undeserved guilt hold you back. You are taking blame for problems that aren't yours.

JΔ$ Georgia 77467 posts
status 5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" lol what am I going to do? Appear behind him in a shady way so when he turns around I'm standing there ... [snip!] ... It's just annoying. Why should I be the only one to finish a job or pick up a pillow that he just stepped over? "</blockquote>



I didn't say you had to be the only one. My point is that if you can't appreciate your husband helping out around the house, shut up and do everything yourself. But you'd just complain about that also.

JΔ$ Georgia 77467 posts
status 5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Well it doesn't say much about you making such rash decisions about what someone's like to live with ... [snip!] ... When someone feels this way about little things, there's usually a bigger problem going on, which we've established there is. "</blockquote>




Yeah yeah yeah

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" lol what am I going to do? Appear ... [snip!] ... your husband helping out around the house, shut up and do everything yourself. But you'd just complain about that also."



Go away. You are contributing nothing and clearly have read nothing.

JΔ$ Georgia 77467 posts
status 5th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Go away. You are contributing nothing and clearly have read nothing. "</blockquote>



Shut the fuck up.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" lol what am I going to do? Appear ... [snip!] ... your husband helping out around the house, shut up and do everything yourself. But you'd just complain about that also."


Yep. One big ball of complaints. I don't have anyone else to vent to. I don't even have "friends" on here, so yes...I chose to blurt what I've been keeping inside out onto the open forums. Sue me.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" You're right. You've been right. So, how do you find the courage to make the decision to change everything you've known for 5.5 years? How do you become okay with how things may turn out?"


It's really hard. Change is always hard. But if you know in your heart it's the right thing to do, then you'll be okay.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Go away. You are contributing nothing and clearly have read nothing. "</blockquote> Shut the fuck up."


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JΔ$ Georgia 77467 posts
status 5th Mar '13

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Corny.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting bbbt:" It's really hard. Change is always hard. But if you know in your heart it's the right thing to do, then you'll be okay. "


Thank you. I've tried once and that was a painful day. It's hard to think about reliving that again, but I suppose I must.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
5th Mar '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Thank you. I've tried once and that was a painful day. It's hard to think about reliving that again, but I suppose I must."


This is so lame, but when I broke off the relationship with my first real love, I listened to a lot of single-lady-empowerment songs. They actually really helped me.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
5th Mar '13

This is what makes me cry thinking about this is how I feel...



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRZIMxVZNos