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user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" You're right. You've been right. So, how do you find the courage to make the decision to change everything you've known for 5.5 years? How do you become okay with how things may turn out?"


Are you okay with how things are?

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I know this. Deep down, I know this. It's almost like I refuse to believe that he's capable of doing ... [snip!] ... him always have this feeling deep down like...what if my mom just stayed with my dad. Maybe we'd be a real family. Something..."


You are feeling guilty over something that wouldn't be your fault, I get it, believe me I do. You aren't to blame for his actions though, don't take that on. If you leave him and in turn he chooses not to be an active parent that isn't your fault. That is his decision. You need to let go, it isn't your fault that this relationship isn't working out. At the very least make peace with the fact you gave it everything. Don't let undeserved guilt hold you back. You are taking blame for problems that aren't yours.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" lol what am I going to do? Appear ... [snip!] ... your husband helping out around the house, shut up and do everything yourself. But you'd just complain about that also."



Go away. You are contributing nothing and clearly have read nothing.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" lol what am I going to do? Appear ... [snip!] ... your husband helping out around the house, shut up and do everything yourself. But you'd just complain about that also."


Yep. One big ball of complaints. I don't have anyone else to vent to. I don't even have "friends" on here, so yes...I chose to blurt what I've been keeping inside out onto the open forums. Sue me.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" You're right. You've been right. So, how do you find the courage to make the decision to change everything you've known for 5.5 years? How do you become okay with how things may turn out?"


It's really hard. Change is always hard. But if you know in your heart it's the right thing to do, then you'll be okay.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Go away. You are contributing nothing and clearly have read nothing. "</blockquote> Shut the f**k up."


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Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting bbbt:" It's really hard. Change is always hard. But if you know in your heart it's the right thing to do, then you'll be okay. "


Thank you. I've tried once and that was a painful day. It's hard to think about reliving that again, but I suppose I must.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Thank you. I've tried once and that was a painful day. It's hard to think about reliving that again, but I suppose I must."


This is so lame, but when I broke off the relationship with my first real love, I listened to a lot of single-lady-empowerment songs. They actually really helped me.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Mar 5th '13

This is what makes me cry thinking about this is how I feel...



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aRZIMxVZNos

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" "</blockquote> Corny."


I'm heart broken.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Thank you. I've tried once and that was a painful day. It's hard to think about reliving that again, but I suppose I must."



Join a dating site when you leave, if nothing, for the positive attention you get and that "giddy feeling" again, even if you don't plan on dating anyone.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Join a dating site when you leave, if nothing, for the positive attention you get and that "giddy feeling" again, even if you don't plan on dating anyone. "


lol assuming I'd even get any positive attention.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" lol assuming I'd even get any positive attention."



I see he has convinced you that you will never get anyone better than him, on top of the rest of his bullshit. Get. Out.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" I see he has convinced you that you will never get anyone better than him, on top of the rest of his bullshit. Get. Out. "


lol that one is actually not all him. That was in the making yeeeeears ago, but I guess it doesn't help that he never compliments me. I don't know, I gotta stop talking about it. I've spent my alotted negative energy today and I don't wanna get stuck in it.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Mar 5th '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" lol that one is actually not all him. That was in the making yeeeeears ago, but I guess it doesn't help ... [snip!] ... me. I don't know, I gotta stop talking about it. I've spent my alotted negative energy today and I don't wanna get stuck in it."


I think you NEED to talk about it. I think one of the problems is that you keep ignoring it, hoping it will go away. You wouldn't have so much negative in your life if you werent with him.