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SEX when you're not sexy. KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13

Or rather, when you don't feel sexy.



I'm the type who needs sex daily, and wants it as much as possible.
I have an insatiable sex drive, that sometimes does more harm than good.
I never have a time when i don't want sex.
But, that's besides the point now.



This is my third pregnancy.
And lately, my biggest turn off, has been me.



This happened last time too, but just when i first got a little bump, and i got over it.
(the time before i was 16 and not sexually active during my pregnancy)
This time i can't seem to get over it. (and am 33 weeks now)



Dude still thinks it's hot 'n everything,
but that doesn't seem to matter to my sex-brain.
I hate looking down and seeing a big old belly instead of a flat stomach.
I hate limited flexibility and just not feeling/looking hot.
I miss crazy, wild, throw you around sex.



Can annnnyone relate? (to being turned off by yourself, ha)
Did you get over it?
I really want to before we have this kiddo in a few weeks and then physically CAN'T have sex for a bit.

October2011 2 kids; Pennsylvania 6821 posts
6th Mar '13

I'm turned off by myself..after having a kid...lol. ugh i hate my extra skin.

P & L's Momma 2 kids; Minneapolis, Minnesota 3812 posts
6th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting October2011:</b>" I'm turned off by myself..after having a kid...lol. ugh i hate my extra skin."</blockquote>




Ditto.

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy 3 kids; 4 angel babies; California 30128 posts
6th Mar '13

Yes omg when i was pregnant with my DD i felt like that, the thing i missed the most was crazy wild sex also because DH was totally creeped out by my belly it made me feel worse but yes i got over it like right after i had Juliette

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:" Yes omg when i was pregnant with my DD i felt like that, the thing i missed the most was crazy wild sex ... [snip!] ... also because DH was totally creeped out by my belly it made me feel worse but yes i got over it like right after i had Juliette"


Dude gets creeped out by how every time we do it, baby gets SUPER active afterwards :D haha which does actually kinda creep me out too :)



But seriously. i miss wild sex. so. bad.
i know i'll get over it once this little guy is outta me. but, i want to now :D
it's crazy though, like, i'm used to thinking about sex 24/7. now i'm just like -blah, i'm a moo cow.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting October2011:" I'm turned off by myself..after having a kid...lol. ugh i hate my extra skin."


i've had a c-sec every time, but have gotten away with not having any extra/loose skin, but keeping fearing it'll happen with the next- so, we shall see this time around!

doors33 1 child; Tonawanda, New York 478 posts
6th Mar '13

Oh yes. SO keeps telling me I'm attractive and he loves me and all, but I'm just not feeling it when I look down and see this big ol belly in front of me. :/

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting doors33:" Oh yes. SO keeps telling me I'm attractive and he loves me and all, but I'm just not feeling it when I look down and see this big ol belly in front of me. :/"


seriously :(
i feel so...immobile too, haha.
like, sex with the rolly-polly version of me is not hot to me at all :D

Bob Wehadababyitsaboy 3 kids; 4 angel babies; California 30128 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting KNZ.:" Dude gets creeped out by how every time we do it, baby gets SUPER active afterwards :D haha which does ... [snip!] ... but, i want to now :D it's crazy though, like, i'm used to thinking about sex 24/7. now i'm just like -blah, i'm a moo cow. "

Yea i would get turned off if she would move while i was having sex so would DH, I didnt think i was fat or anything but when i was naked it definitely made me feel self conscious and i never wanted to have sex, if we did anything it was usually d***y s***e because i thought DH was so grossed out by my belly. But it got better after i had DD and was able to get my flat tummy back. Don't worry soon enough you'll be having crazy, wild, throw around sex :D

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
6th Mar '13

Haha I remember feeling like this and it sucked. Lots of half naked sex (like I'd wear a tank top so my belly would be covered but b**bs could be out) or d***y s***e. Even then I felt gross but it seemed a little better for me.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:" Yea i would get turned off if she would move while i was having sex so would DH, I didnt think i was ... [snip!] ... i had DD and was able to get my flat tummy back. Don't worry soon enough you'll be having crazy, wild, throw around sex :D"


that's exactly how it is with us.
i tried to explain that to him too haha it's not that i feel squishy & fat, i just don't like looking down 'n seeing the huge old bump. or worse, feeling him like, hit into it. bleh.
but yeah, d***y s***e is one i can actually handle :D



and yes! i can't wait :D

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" Haha I remember feeling like this and it sucked. Lots of half naked sex (like I'd wear a tank top so ... [snip!] ... my belly would be covered but b**bs could be out) or d***y s***e. Even then I felt gross but it seemed a little better for me. "


i think even if mine was covered it'd still annoy me :D
and like, a BH contraction mid-sex. nothing hotter than that.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting KNZ.:" i think even if mine was covered it'd still annoy me :D and like, a BH contraction mid-sex. nothing hotter than that. "


Sexy :wink:

meℓissa♡ 1 child; ,, CA, United States 17771 posts
status 6th Mar '13

I remember feeling exactly like that! It sucked!
Not tooo much longer to go though, until he's out :D

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting Momma to L ♥:" I remember feeling exactly like that! It sucked! Not tooo much longer to go though, until he's out :D"


yes! while i'm super nervous for baby three, i am excited for great sex again :D